23 Signs Your Husband Isn’t In Love With You Anymore

Are you looking for signs your husband isn’t in love with you? Some of the most obvious signs include complaining about everything, he’s stopped showing you affection, and making excuses not to spend time with you.

It’s heart-breaking to know that the person you thought you would spend the rest of your life with, have kids with, and live happily ever after, may have fallen out of love with you.

You’re not sure exactly what’s going on, but all you know is his behavior has drastically changed, and it’s clear he no longer feels the same way about you as he did when you first started dating.

Before you make any rash decisions, you’ve decided to find out for sure how your husband truly feels about you. Keep reading to discover twenty-three signs your husband isn’t in love with you anymore. 

23 Signs Your Husband Isn’t In Love With You Anymore

23 Signs Your Husband Isn’t In Love With You Anymore

Accepting that the love of your life is no longer in love with you is probably one of the most difficult things you’ll ever do.

Signs that you should look out for include complaining about everything, he’s stopped showing you affection and making excuses not to spend time with you.

Keep reading to learn about the twenty-three signs that your husband isn’t in love with you anymore.

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#1 He Complains About Everything

When you first got married, he didn’t have a bad word to say about how you do things around the house.

He was appreciative and grateful for everything; whether you were washing the dishes, ironing the clothes, or hoovering, he always said thank you and expressed gratitude for having a wife like you.

You keep the house in the exact same order now, but he has a problem with everything you do. He will say you missed a spot when you’re hoovering, or complain that his shirts are not ironed properly. These complaints don’t surface every once in a while; they are every day. 

#2 He Stops Showing You Affection

One of the reasons you fell so deeply in love with your husband was because he was so affectionate.

He was all over you all of the time, and he didn’t show affection hoping that it would lead to sex. It was just his way of expressing his love and physical attraction towards you. That’s all stopped; now he avoids you like the plague.

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It’s unrealistic to expect to be as passionate about each other a few years into the marriage as you were in the beginning, but when there’s a complete lack of affection, something is definitely wrong. 

#3 He Makes Excuses Not To Spend Time With You

He always has something else to do when you suggest having a date night. He’s got to stay late at work, or a friend has invited him somewhere. For whatever reason, spending time with you is no longer on his agenda. 

#4 He Looks At You In Disgust

You’ve had four kids, and you’ve put on a bit of weight. You’ve got love handles, and your thighs and arms are thicker than they used to be. Your pussycat doll figure has run far away from you, and he’s not impressed.

You don’t feel comfortable with the way you look, and through diet and exercise, you’re making an effort to return to your former glory.

But instead of your husband supporting you, he makes your insecurities worse by giving you dirty looks, especially when you’re getting changed. He doesn’t need to say anything; his face says everything he’s thinking loud and clear.

#5 He’s Stopped Making An Effort

He makes an effort for everyone else, but he doesn’t feel the investment is necessary when it comes to you.

He will do things like watch you carry bags of groceries into the house without offering a helping hand. But if he sees the neighbor struggling to carry something heavy, he will quickly intervene. 

#6 He Is Never At Home

He comes home late during the week because he claims he’s staying late at work, going to the gym, visiting a friend, or playing sports.

He has the same excuses on the weekends. He doesn’t spend any time at home, and when he’s run out of excuses, he hides out in his man cave. 

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#7 He Makes Plans Without You

He doesn’t consult you about anything. You used to go and watch your favorite team play basketball together every year.

But now he goes with his friends; when he’s getting dressed, and you ask him where he’s going, he casually responds, ‘” to watch the game with Derek.” 

#8 He Has Stopped Being Romantic

You used to brag about how romantic your husband was to your friends. He always came home with a bunch of flowers, bought you gifts, and took you on romantic vacations.

He showered you with romance when you first got married. Not anymore, you don’t remember the last time your husband bought you a bunch of flowers. 

#9 He Doesn’t Want to Have Sex With You

This is probably the biggest indicator that your husband isn’t in love with you anymore. He has stopped having sex with you and your sex life is non-existent.

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For men, not only is sex a physical need, but it’s also how they express their emotional connection with their partner.

So if he’s stopped having sex with you, apart from the fact that he might be getting it elsewhere, he also has no desire to connect with you emotionally. 

#10 He Only Thinks About Himself

The word ‘selfish’ is an understatement for your husband. If there was one piece of chicken left in the pot, he would split it with you back in the day.

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Today, he scrapes the pot clean and leaves you without dinner when you get back from work. If the two of you are outside together and it starts raining, and you have no umbrella, he will put his hood up and not bother trying to prevent you from getting wet. 

#11 He’s Stopped Complimenting You

Your husband always used to say that you were the most beautiful woman in the world.

Even when you were sitting in the house in your pajamas, he always had kind words to say about your appearance. He would act like a kid in a candy store when you got dressed up.

Those days are over; no matter how hard you try when it comes to your physical appearance, he has nothing to say about it. 

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#12 He Criticizes Your Physical Appearance

Not only has he stopped paying you compliments, but he also criticizes your physical appearance.

Neither of you are spring chickens anymore, you’ve both got wrinkles and gray hair, and he makes it clear that he doesn’t think you’re aging gracefully. He’s the first person to remind you when your gray hair starts showing.

When you leave the house without makeup, he tells you it’s not a good idea because you’re under-eye bags are too visible. Basically, he’s just downright rude when it comes to your physical appearance. 

#13 There Is Nothing You Can Do To Please Him

You’ve tried everything; you make sure the house is always spotless, you only cook his favorite foods.

You try and look as sexy as possible, you buy sexy lingerie and initiate sex, but he rejects you. And you refrain from nagging, but you can’t seem to do anything right. In fact, the harder you try, the more annoyed he gets. 

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#14 He’s Stopped Talking About The Future

Has your husband stopped talking about the future? What happened to those pillow talks about your retirement home and the traveling you hoped to do in your old age?

He has stopped talking about the future with you because he doesn’t see a future with you in it. 

#15 He Criticizes Your Parenting Skills

Your husband lets your children get away with murder; they run rampant around the house when he’s home.

You are not so soft and apply a firm hand when they start acting up. Although you’ve reared your children like this since they came out of the womb, your husband suddenly has a problem with it.

Now you’re too strict and oppressive, and if the children start rebelling against authority, it will be your fault. 

#16 He Disrespects You In Public

Your husband doesn’t wait to speak to you at home if he’s not happy about something when you’re out together. He’ll say it in front of everyone, no matter who’s around.

If you’re at a social event together, he will make you look stupid in front of friends and family and talk bad about you, or he’ll keep cutting you off when you’re speaking. 

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#17 He Openly Flirts With Other Women

He doesn’t even try and hide his attraction to other women. Whether it’s one of your friends, your sister, a co-worker, or the woman at the check-out desk, your husband shamelessly flirts in front of you. 

#18 Everything Is Your Fault

As mentioned, one of the signs that your husband isn’t in love with you anymore is that you can’t do anything right.

To make matters worse, everything that goes wrong is your fault. When you pull him up about his shameless flirting in front of you, he responds that he wouldn’t need to look at other women if you made more effort with your physical appearance.

When you ask why he’s stopped being romantic, it’s because you don’t give him a reason to be. Basically, everything wrong with the relationship is because of you. 

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#19 He Sees You As A Burden

When you first got together, your husband took great pleasure in spending his money on you.

He bought you clothes, shoes, handbags, and even though you had a job, he didn’t want you paying any of the bills in the house.

He’s stopped buying you gifts and huffs and puffs, and intentionally doesn’t pay the bills on time so that when the letters come demanding payment, it gives him an excuse to argue with you that the bills are too high because you waste too much water and electricity! 

#20 He Disagrees With Everything You Say

You can’t do or say anything right. Your husband is always picking arguments with you. Even if it’s clear to you and everyone else that he’s in the wrong, he will argue until he’s blue in the face that he’s right.

One of the things men do when they want to leave their wives is to cause continuous arguments to justify why the relationship isn’t working.

In most cases, and as it probably is with you, there is nothing wrong with the marriage; the husband creates problems. 

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#21 He’s Always Whispering On The Phone

If your husband isn’t in love with you anymore, there’s a high chance he’s found someone else.

Does he spend hours on end in his study or one of the spare rooms in the house whispering on the phone?

When you ask him who he was talking to and why he was whispering, he says it was an old friend from school and that he was whispering because he didn’t want to disturb anyone in the house. His excuse made even less sense when all his whispering took place during the day! 

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#22 He Avoids Socializing With You

Going out to social events (especially married couples nights out) is like pulling teeth to him.

He knows you have a loveless marriage, and he can’t stand acting like he’s happy with you. Therefore, he avoids such gatherings at all costs. 

#23 His Schedule Is Always Changing

One minute he’s got football on Tuesday, then it’s on Thursday. Last week his late-night work meetings were on Monday; now, they’re on Friday.

It seems like his schedule changes from week to week. But the sad reality is that he’s lying; the only reason his schedule keeps changing is that he lies so much that he forgets the lies he’s told.

When you pull him up on it, he lies again and says his schedule changed at the last minute. 

How Can I Test My Husbands Love?

How Can I Test My Husbands Love_

If you’re still not convinced that your husband isn’t in love with you anymore, there are some things you can do to put his love to the test, including flirt with him as someone else, test whether he protects you, and test whether he supports you.

It would make life a whole lot easier if you could ask your husband whether he still loves you, and he’d be bold enough to give a yes or no answer.

But most men in this predicament are cowards, and they won’t have the guts to reveal their true feelings.

So, unfortunately, you’ll need to resort to testing whether he loves you. If your husband doesn’t do any of these things, he doesn’t love you. 

Flirt With Him As Someone Else

Set up a fake social media account using a picture of a woman you know he would like. Contact your husband and start flirting with him.

For this to be effective, you will need to keep it going for a couple of weeks. If he takes the bait, arrange to meet up with him for sex; you will have your answer if he agrees. 

Test Whether He Protects You

According to experts, men are hardwired to protect their loved ones. Men don’t protect just any woman; they protect the women they love.

If he loves you, and there is a perceived threat, he will protect you. You can say something like, there’s a man at work who is taking flirting with me a bit too far, and he’s saying things that are making me feel uncomfortable.

You’re not trying to get your husband to turn up at your workplace with a baseball bat, but he should at least get defensive about this.

If he tells you to report it to your manager and doesn’t show a hint of anger, you have your answer. 

Test Whether He Supports You

No matter what you want to do in life, a loving husband will support his wife and get fully involved in what she wants to do.

Tell your husband you plan on changing jobs and see what he says. If he shrugs his shoulders and says it’s up to you, you have your answer. 

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How Do You Know When Marriage Is Over?

How Do You Know When Marriage Is Over?

You will know when your marriage is over when one person wants to save the marriage, and the other doesn’t.

In this case, it’s your husband who refuses to make an effort to get the marriage back on track.

You’ve done everything possible to turn things around, including marriage counseling, but fixing a marriage takes corporation from both parties.

You can see the best therapists in the world, but if your husband isn’t willing to implement the suggested strategies and relationship advice, you or anyone else can do nothing about it. 

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Several signs will let you know that your husband is in love with another woman, including changing his wardrobe, too much social media engagement, and spending more money than usual. 

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He Has Changed His Wardrobe

When you first started dating your husband, he made an effort with his clothes, right? He may not have been into the latest fashion, but he tried his best to impress you with his outfits any time you went out.

Every so often, you’d notice he was wearing something new. But once you got married, had kids, and settled down, looking the part was no longer his priority. You don’t remember the last time he went shopping for himself.

But now, not only has he revamped his entire wardrobe, he’s into the latest fashion. To top it off, any time he’s going out, he drowns himself inexpensive aftershave! 

Too Much Social Media Engagement

Your husband isn’t into social media and rarely engages on your posts or anyone else’s for that matter.

But there is one woman he likes and comments on all her posts. Their conversation in her comments section is very flirtatious, and it’s glaringly obvious that this is more than just a friendship.

When you confront him about it, he gets defensive, arguing that he doesn’t appreciate how much you monitor his life. He refuses to tell you who she is because, apparently, it’s not your business. 

He Is Spending More Money Than Usual

Your husband always tells you he doesn’t have money to do the nice things you used to do.

His excuse is that prices such as energy and gas have gone up, but you know they haven’t gone up so much he can’t afford to take you to the movies!

So you go snooping to find out what he’s spending his money on, and his bank statements tell you a completely different story. Your husband is spending thousands going to fancy restaurants, spa resorts, and shopping at luxury stores.

When you confront him about it, he doesn’t even attempt to justify the transactions; instead, he snatches the bank statement out of your hands and scolds you for looking through his personal property! 

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Final Thoughts

I can’t imagine how difficult it must be to feel that your husband doesn’t love you anymore. When you said your vows at the alter, you hoped it would be for life, but now you face an uncertain future.

Even if your husband is in love with another woman, it is possible to revive the marriage. Sometimes, it’s not that husbands no longer love their wives, but pressures such as children and financial woes can cause them to seek an alternative reality.

A mistress is often a man’s way of saying, “Things are too intense at home; I need an outlet.” Nevertheless, if you believe your marriage is worth saving, do what you need to do to save it.

But if your husband insists on disrespecting you and refuses to acknowledge any wrongdoing, I would advise that you consider a temporary separation and see if he gets his act together. If not, your only option might be divorce.

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Alexander Burgemeester

Alexander Burgemeester has a Master in Neuropsychology. He studied at the University of Amsterdam and has a bachelor's in Clinical Psychology. Want to know more?

2 thoughts on “23 Signs Your Husband Isn’t In Love With You Anymore”

  1. Yes I strongly agree that my husband is no longer in love with me anymore and I really do believe that he already has somebody else in mind that he really wants to be with and not me anymore. He constantly blaming me for almost everything and lately everything is all my fault and now he constantly criticizes everything that I do and he complains constantly about everything that I do it’s like nothing that I do I’d never good enough for him.He finds something wrong with something evrey single day he finds something wrong with the things that I say or the things that I do. He’s always complaining about me doing things that I’m not supposed to when I’m not even doing these things at all. Maybe he’s covering for something he’s doing. I really don’t even think that he loves me anymore. I believe that he’s fell out of love with me and that he desires to be with another woman other than myself. I seriously believe that he’s secretly messaging other women and possibly hooking up with them on the download. Well if he doesn’t even want to be with me anymore than why doesn’t he be the man that he claims to be and grow some balls and just tell me that he’s not in love with me anymore instead of lie to all the time and keep on leading me on. I seriously believe that he needs to tell me the complete truth and stop beating around the bush with me because I’m so fed up with his bullshit. Yeah I seriously believe that he’s been online searching for someone new in his life if that’s the case. I really just wish he’d stop playing with me. Because I’m not his little toy that he can just play with whenever he feels like playing with me. However if he wants out of our marriage and he’s not happy anymore being with me than he really needs to let me know. He complains all the time that I annoy him and he’s so miserable with me if that’s the case I really deserve to know if he’s wishing to be with someone else. Because I’m not going to spend the rest of my life unhappy and hurting. This may take me some time to get over this but I’d rather have the complete truth over a boldface lie anyway. Yeah I checked some things out online about what he was really doing online and this is what was provided for me. They said that he has booked a motel room for two and that he has access to another apartment that I didn’t have a clue about and that he has several secret relationships online that he’s in and that he’s been texting other women and possibly hooking up with these unknown women as well. And another thing I found out that he has hidden social media pages that I’m not supposed to know anything about. What he take me out to be some kind of fool that’s been left completely in the dark about everything he’s been doing. And he’s probably not even being honest to the other women about his martial status and he probably doesn’t even tell the women that I am living with him and that he’s married. I don’t even believe that he’s even being honest with the other women and they probably don’t even know nothing about him other than what he wants them to know. It’s so very selfish and disturbing to them as well. They deserve to know the truth about him as well so they will not find their self getting hurt to the extreme exactly the same exact way that I’m feeling right now like a complete fool or just a complete moron and I’m going to expose him for the dog that he really is because I can clearly see that clearly I’m really not the one that he’s in love with anymore. He doesn’t have a eye for me anymore now this is very devastating and it hurts so really bad. My heart is hurting everyday. And when we are out in public I get no respect none whatsoever he’s always gawking at other women and staring at their frames and looking at them up and down now that’s extremely inbarrsing and so very disrespectful towards me. And that’s why when it’s time for us to go out in public sometimes I might go and sometimes I just simply will not go with him anywhere out in the public because can you only imagine how humiliating this is and I don’t really have any friends because I literally just don’t even trust him at all. And just because I am so very insecure all because of him. I’m so very unhappy and so full of hurt and pain in my heart. I seriously doubt it if we will even stay together because I refuse to keep on living like this. And I will not live my life based on one huge lie. I have lost all the respect that I once had for him. My respect for him has all gone down the drain. He doesn’t even have a clue that I am doing my research on him. And basically he doesn’t even know right now all the details that I found out about him. I really just want the truth that’s all nothing more or nothing less just the truth is all that I really want.

  2. Yes my husband is incapable of being with just one woman. He’s searching for another woman to take my place and I seriously don’t even give a dam anymore. I’m so fed up with him for good. And he’s not a very honest person at all he just tells woman what he wants them to hear not the truth at all. Let him keep playing his games just not with me.


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