24 Signs Your Ex Still Has Feelings For You

Last Updated on March 8, 2022 by Alexander Burgemeester

Are you looking for signs your ex still has feelings for you? Maybe they dumped you out of the blue, and now he/she is acting like they regret it. Unfortunately, people don’t always know what they want.

They’ll get cold feet, realize you’re the one and start trying to worm their way back into your life. Or maybe you ditched your partner, and now you want them back.

But before embarrassing yourself and admitting you were wrong, you want to know whether you still have a chance. Either way, some tell-tale signs will let you know your ex is still pining for you.

Here are 24 signs your ex still has feelings for you. If your ex still has feelings for you, they’ll give you plenty of signs such as you are still on his social media, they asks mutual friends questions about you, or they keep bringing up things from the past.

24 Signs Your Ex Still Has Feelings For You

If your ex still has feelings for you, they’ll give you plenty of signs such as you are still on their social media, they ask mutual friends questions about you, or he/she keeps bringing up things from the past.


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Some people will do the silliest things when they’re in love and totally give the game away. Life would be much easier for everyone if people would be upfront about their feelings.

Here are 24 signs your ex still has feelings for you:

24 Signs Your Ex Still Has Feelings For You

#1 You Are Still on There Social Media

They might have changed their social media status to single, but your pictures are all over his/her page! Why?

Because they are indirectly telling you, they still have feelings for you, and there’s still hope. When two people are completely done in a relationship, one of the first things they do is unfollow each other on social media and delete any photos of their partner on their page.

Yours are still there, so your ex hasn’t canceled you yet!

#2 They Ask Mutual Friends Questions About You

Have you been asking the question, how do you know your ex secretly wants you back? Well, asking questions about you is one of the main signs.

Suppose you’re the private type who doesn’t post all their business on social media. Your ex will have no way of knowing whether you’ve moved on.

So the only way he/she can find out if you’re still in a relationship is by asking your mutual friends. And guess what? The first thing they’ll do is come and tell you they’re were asking questions about you. 

#3 They Keep Bringing Up Things From the Past

They keep bringing up things from the past because they don’t want to let go of the past. If you didn’t resolve the argument about who broke the kettle, he/she will start it again.

Or how about the time you stained your ex’s white carpet with red wine, and it’s still there reminding them of you? They will find the most ridiculous things to bring up just to keep the memories flowing. 


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#4 They Get Jealous

You can’t so much as speak to anyone else when you’re in your ex’s presence, or they’ll flip out and start acting like a petulant child.

They will get all territorial and start butting in the conversation to get you away from the person you’re talking to.

If you’re on the phone with them, and you mention another persons name, they’ll start sulking! 

#5 They Invite You Out

Why is your ex still inviting you to weddings, birthdays, and christenings if you’re not together anymore? Because they still want you to be!

There’s no one else they feel comfortable enough with to go to such celebrations, so they invite you. 

#6 Your Ex Ghosts You

It’s easy to confuse this sign with assuming your ex isn’t interested anymore. But, that’s not the case.

If your ex still has feelings for you, they’ll give you plenty of signs such as you are still on their social media, they ask mutual friends questions about you, or he/she keeps bringing up things from the past.

If your ex still has feelings for you, they’ll give you plenty of signs such as you are still on their social media, they ask mutual friends questions about you, or he/she keeps bringing up things from the past.


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They’ve gone missing in action because they can’t handle being around you. You thought it would be cool to be friends, but they’ve got such strong feelings they’d rather just stay away if things can’t go back to the way things were. 

#7 Your Ex Tries to Sabotage Your New Relationship

If your ex has narcissistic tendencies, they won’t let you move on, and they’ll do everything they can to destroy your new relationship.

So if you’re getting DMs from some random person claiming they’re sleeping with your partner, it’s probably your ex. Don’t entertain it…delete and block! 

#8 She/He Has a New Partner

Some men can’t handle the emotional trauma of a breakup, so to soothe the pain, they’ll run straight into the arms of another woman.

And he’ll go all out with her too! Your ex boyfriend will be so into her you’ll wonder whether he met her before you guys broke up.

But nope! He met her the night you broke up, and the next day they moved in together, and now they’re planning their wedding.

A slight exaggeration, but you get my point right? The poor girl has no idea that she’s the rebound, and the woman he really wants is you. 

#9 She/He Doesn’t Have a New Partner

I understand that you’re confused right now, but hear me out. Men will do either or when they break up with a girl and still have feelings for her.

As mentioned above, he’ll run straight into the arms of another to deal with the emotional trauma. Or he’ll stay single to prove that you’re the only one he wants. 


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#10 He/She Forgot You’ve Broke Up

One of the signs she still has feelings for you is she’ll act like you haven’t broke up…Like literally! Your ex girlfriend will keep calling you babe, turn up at yours at 7:00 p.m. for dinner.

Sit in your living room with her feet up and a drink flicking through the channels. Yep! Even though she called it quits, she’ll act as if you two are still very much a couple!

Why? Because your ex girlfriend is stubborn, wishes she never dumped you, and doesn’t know how to apologize, so instead, she acts like it didn’t happen! 

#11 Your Ex Girlfriend Remembers Special Dates

One of the signs she still has feelings for you iswhether it’s your birthday, your cat’s birthday, or your anniversary, she remembers all of them.

You’ll get a message or a card in the post wishing you well on that day.

You’ll find this interesting because when you were together, she forgot these dates, and you had to remind her all the time. 

#12 Your Ex Still Buys You Random Gifts

If your love language is receiving gifts, your ex will take full advantage of this and buy you presents at every opportunity.

When he/she passes by your favorite soap store, pajama store, or grocery store, they’ll buy you something.


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Your ex will even buy you gifts when they go on vacation to highlight that they were thinking about you and not the thousands of men and women throwing themselves at them (yeah right)! 

#13 They Visit Your Mom

Your mom loved your ex partner and vice versa. So to keep in her good books, he/she goes to visit whenever they’re in the area.

To sweeten her up, they’ll never turn up empty-handed; your ex will either have a bunch of roses, a box of her favorite chocolate, or candy.

Don’t be surprised that your mother keeps asking when you two will get back together. 

#14 Their Body Language

If you meet up with your ex, their body language will tell you everything you need to know before they even say a word.

Are his/her pupils dilated? Does your ex keep licking his/her lips? Are their feet pointing in your direction? How about spreading his arms and legs when he’s sitting down?

These are all signs your ex is still crazy about you. 

#15 They Drop Hints on Social Media

This one can be hella annoying! Your ex will post cringe-worthy posts that say things like, “It hurts so bad when you lose the love of your life.” Or, “When you hurt the only person who truly gets you.”

Whether they’re posting them to their stories or their feed, your ex won’t stop banging on about how much they’re hurting because of the breakup they probably caused! 


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#16 They Still Talk About Sex

Have you been asking yourself the question, how do you know your ex still cares about you? Well, one of the signs is that they still talk about sex with you.

Women assume that men talk about sex all the time because they’re perverts and they’ve got sex on the brain.

That’s partly true. However, it’s also because men express their emotions through sex. Think about it like this, how often did you want to snuggle with your partner and hear him tell you how much he loves you? Well, he communicates that through sex.

So by continuing to talk about sex with you, he’s saying, “I want to show you how much I love you.” Likewise, if your ex-girlfriend talks about sex, it’s because you make her feel safe emotionally and she’s comfortable talking about sex with you. 

#17 Your Ex Won’t Give Your Stuff Back

Have you left a dressing gown, a pair of shoes, or a dress at your ex-partner’s apartment? Have you asked for these items back on several occasions, but they keep dragging their feet about giving them to you?

Well, that’s because they don’t want to. If your ex returns your stuff, it for one finalizes everything, and two, they won’t have anything physical to remind them of you. 


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#18 He’s Being More Emotional

Getting your ex-boyfriend to talk about his feelings was like pulling teeth when you were together. But now, he’s Mr. Emotional! He’s suddenly become the most sentimental person on the planet and can’t stop talking about how he feels.

That’s because he’s become super sensitive because you’re not together anymore. He can feel your absence, and the only way he knows how to fill the void is by talking about it with the one he truly wants to be with.

#19 They Drunk Call You

People love to call their exes when they’re drunk and confess their undying love for them. Alcohol lowers your inhibitions; basically, as you probably well know, you have zero shame!

Your ex-partner will call or send you drunk texts and tell you everything he/she’s been thinking since the moment you broke up while they were sober.

If you catch the bait and get all soppy too and agree to get back together, they’ll be knocking at your door in 2.5 seconds.

However, if you tell them to stop being silly, they’ll suddenly develop amnesia if you bring it up the next time you see them. 

#20 You Are Always At The Same Places

Since you were once a couple, your ex knows when you go to the grocery store on Saturday afternoon. When you go to the gym, and the time you catch the train to work in the morning.

If they’ve got any sense, he/she isn’t going to give you stalker vibes and show up all the time, but every so often, your ex will turn up where they know you’ll be and act like it’s a total coincidence.

Please don’t fall for it; they’ve probably been planning it for weeks. 


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#21 Your Ex Keeps Talking About Why You Broke up

Does your ex keep sending you messages or calling, explaining why they had to end the relationship? That’s because your ex isn’t sure whether they made the right decision.

They’re trying to convince themselves that it was the best thing to do, and talking about it helps him/her do that. During these conversations, they’ll keep saying they’re sorry for leaving you.

But not only are they sorry for leaving you, but they’re also sorry for confusing you. Your ex knows they still have feelings for you and deep down wishes you were back together, but he/she doesn’t know how to articulate this without looking like a fool.

In most cases, they’re hoping you’ll get the message and ask them back out. 

#22 Your ex Boyfriend Boasts About What They’ve Achieved

He’ll boast about what he’s achieved if you dumped him. Men are more affected by breakups than women because it’s a massive blow to their self-esteem.

He worries he’s not good enough, that now you’ll go out looking for the rich man you wanted in the first place. It will all be in his head, by the way.

His insecurities will lead him to start inventing scenarios about the real reason you broke up with him. Even if he hasn’t achieved anything significant, he’ll talk about what he’s planning to do, like buy a new car or get started on that business he’s always dreamed about. 

#23 His Girlfriend Can’t Stand You

I mentioned earlier that one of the signs your ex-boyfriend isn’t over you is he jumps into a new relationship. In some cases, he’ll invest so much time and energy into the relationship the girl will feel she’s the love of his life.

In others, he’ll self-sabotage the relationship by talking about you too much. Not only does he talk about you, he still has your stuff lying around the house. If she dares say anything bad about you, he’ll defend you with a fiery passion.

His behavior towards you will get his new girlfriend’s back up. She’ll know he’s still got feelings for you, and you’ll become her number one enemy.

If you see her out, she’ll give you evils, and depending on how brave she is; she may even say some nasty things about you around people you both know in the hopes it will get back to you. If that’s the case, be prepared for an all-out war! 

#24 She Will Make Sure You’re Okay

One of the main signs she still has feelings for you is she will make sure you’re okay. Does she still bring you dinner? And cook extra so you’ve got enough to last you a few days?

Does she still offer to do your laundry or do the dishes when she drops your dinner off? These are all signs your ex-girlfriend still has feelings for you. 

If your ex still has feelings for you, they’ll give you plenty of signs such as you are still on their social media, they ask mutual friends questions about you, or he/she keeps bringing up things from the past.


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Why do I Still Feel Connected to My Ex?

There are a few reasons why you still feel connected to your ex, including: it hasn’t been long enough since the breakup, you stay in touch, and you haven’t severed ties.

I don’t know how long you were together, but you built a significant bond during that time. When you were a couple, did you think about him/her and they’d call?

How about finishing off each other’s sentences? That’s because you were in sync, not to get all deep, but your spirits connected during that time, and that connection doesn’t disappear because you’ve broken up.

Depending on how intertwined you are, it may last for many years to come. Here are three reasons why you still feel connected to your ex partner:

#1 It Hasn’t Been Long Enough 

Relationship expert Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman recommends waiting at least a month to start dating again.

And that includes getting back with the same person you broke up with. However, she also states there is no magic number because everyone is different.

If your ex still has feelings for you, they’ll give you plenty of signs such as you are still on their social media, they ask mutual friends questions about you, or he/she keeps bringing up things from the past.


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The most important thing is that you spend enough time processing the breakup, grieving the loss of your partner, and learning from the mistakes made in the relationship you’ve just left.

One of the main reasons you still feel connected to your ex-partner is that your emotions are still raw. They will subside over time, and then you can start making rational decisions about whether it’s a good idea to get back with your ex. 

#2 You Stay in Touch

If you both know the relationship is done and you’d never get back together, then remaining friends and keeping in touch is fine.

However, if there are unresolved issues, everything is up in the air, and neither of you is sure of your feelings, this is a bad idea.

In order to get the clarity you need about the relationship, spending time apart is the best course of action. 

#3 You Haven’t Severed Ties

Do you want a complete break from your ex or just a separation? If it’s a complete break, you’ll need to get rid of all your ex’s belongings.

One of the reasons you still feel connected to them is because his/her energy is still in your apartment. Do you have some of their clothes, aftershave, or even the gifts they bought you?

These items can be painful reminders of the relationship, and the only way to make a clean break is to get rid of them. 

What To Do If Your Ex Still Has Feelings For You?

If your ex still has feelings for you, you’ll need to start thinking about your next steps.

The first thing you should confirm is that your ex still has feelings for you, decide what you want to do, and finally, talk about the relationship. Here are three things to do if your ex still has feelings for you:

#1 Confirm That They Still Have Feelings For You

I know I’ve just given you a list of signs that your ex still has feelings for you. However, nothing has been set in stone yet, and you need to find out from the horse’s mouth him/herself.

If your ex still has feelings for you, they’ll give you plenty of signs such as you are still on their social media, they ask mutual friends questions about you, or he/she keeps bringing up things from the past.


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You’re not a mind reader, so if you really want to know, you’ll need to have that awkward conversation you’ve been avoiding. 

#2 Decide What You Want to do

Why did the relationship end in the first place? What problems were you having at the time of the breakup that made the relationship not worth continuing?

You would need to think about this even more so if you were the one who broke up with your ex. Has anything changed?

Is this really the type of relationship you want to be in, or is loneliness pushing you to make this decision? Think about this carefully, or you’ll end up disappointed again. 

#3 Talk About the Relationship

As mentioned, you broke up with your partner for a reason. Many couples make the mistake of getting back together without fixing what was broken.

You need to know what made the relationship unworkable and discuss how you will come to a resolution. If that means seeking professional help, that’s what you’ll need to do. 

Final Thoughts

Now that you’ve read about the 24 signs your ex still has feelings for you, I’m pretty sure a couple of them have resonated with you.

The question is, what are you going to do about it. Whether you dumped your ex or your ex dumped you is irrelevant.

I can only assume you want to know whether they have feelings for you because you still have feelings for them. The question is, who’s going to make the first move?

If your ex still has feelings for you, they’ll give you plenty of signs such as you are still on their social media, they ask mutual friends questions about you, or he/she keeps bringing up things from the past.


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Alexander Burgemeester

Alexander Burgemeester has a Master in Neuropsychology. He studied at the University of Amsterdam and has a bachelor's in Clinical Psychology. Want to know more?

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