Signs You Are Healing From Narcissistic Abuse

One day you wake up, and you feel different.

That pain you felt sear through your soul is no longer prominent. The panic you feel as you awaken to a new day has disappeared. You no longer wonder what it will bring; instead, you feel inner peace that you can enjoy it.

Healing has truly kicked in – and you begin to notice more and more signs that you are fully getting over your narcissistic experience.

What a place to be.

There are so many ways to know you’re healing, and it’d be rude not to share them all with you!

Signs You Are Healing From Narcissistic Abuse

Healing – a Place You All Want to Be

And I know for a fact you all want to end up on the other side of your own healing journeys.

For that to be possible, there needs to be work from you. Healing doesn’t just happen. To start, you have to want to. To want to, you have to know what you’re healing from.

Signs of Healing From Narcissistic Abuse

1. You No Longer Post For Them

We have all come to love and use social media. Most of us post what we want to: photos, videos, thoughts, places we’ve been, funny memes—anything that we want to.

When you have that person on your friends list, things can become all about them.

I’ll give you an example.

I had a client several years back who openly admitted to posting songs, just so the narcissist would see them.

They would be songs she knew he liked, songs they might listen to and sing along to. In those moments, she said she really felt like they connected. She wished it was like that all the time, but it was intermittent.

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So she would post them, almost as reminders, and tag him in the song video.

She did it to try and keep hold of that feeling she had when they’d be together, but it was impossible to do.

If anybody posts for the narcissist, I ask you personally:

Stop. 

If this was something you once did and no longer do (hopefully they no longer have access to your profile at all), then it’s a sure sign that you’re healing from all that abuse.

You are no longer people-pleasing like you once did.

2. Less Overthought

Remember the days you used to sit there and ruminate until you thought your head would fall off?

Remember when one thought would turn into a snowball of catastrophic potential disasters that loomed ahead of you like a dark, stormy Category 5 hurricane?

When you notice those thoughts becoming less and less, until you actually have a good hold on them in general – you are well on your way to healing. 

Narcissists make their victims overthink.

Why are they in a bad mood?

Did I upset them?

What did I say?

How did I upset them? 

What must they think of me?

They think I am terrible.

I must be terrible.

Nobody likes me.

I think people just tolerate me. 

What’s the point?

I’m unloveable.

All from what? 

The seed of doubt is planted in victims when the narcissist wants to propel them into overthought central. It’s a whirring, swirling whirlpool of energy you can’t escape, and it hurts.

When you take the time to rationalize with yourself over these thoughts and understand that they aren’t doing you any favors, you can regain control from your mind.

Narcissists are responsible for the strengthening growth our negative bias has upon ourselves. 

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Not only does overthinking be the go-to, so does dwelling on it all.

Healing prevents that.

3. The Dreams Become Less

Maybe you’re still there or know exactly what I am talking about.

The dreams.

They’re so vivid, aren’t they?

You wake up feeling a different person just because you saw the narcissist while you slept. 

They were nice.

They were terrible.

They gave you everything you wanted.

They ignored you.

Whatever it is – it’s normal.

Think about what your brain’s trying to process. Over time, it will do that. But you must be patient and know these will become less frequent.

4. Your Nervous System is Adjusting!

And boy, does that take some time.

Your nervous system has been programmed to respond to trauma, fear, sadness, worry and the actions of a toxic person for however long it has.

Time, therapy and self-awareness will combine to allow your nervous system to heal itself.

When you notice that happening, you’re truly getting somewhere when somebody can say their name without your heart thudding in your chest and breaking into a sweat. 

5. “Indifference” – What a Place to Be!

Isn’t it a good feeling to just not have any care or concern for the narcissist?

To get there means you have done a lot of healing and admitted many things to be true.

It’s a great place to be!

6. Learning Your Lesson

Lessons are hard to learn, and people keep making mistakes until those lessons have been fully learned and logged.

Sadly, getting involved with a narcissist is a hard one, but it’s necessary. 

You can gain much satisfaction from knowing you’ve ‘got the T-shirt’ and that you’re able to now stand up as a survivor of narcissistic abuse and thrive in a new dawn. 

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7. Moving Forward Becomes Something You Allow

The only person who has prevented you from moving on in life is you. Sure, they’d love to take credit for keeping you with them, but they don’t get to.

It’s not down to you how you go about this. Live life how you see fit, and you will know you’re healing. 

Don’t wait for somebody to see you before you even see yourself.

8. You Move Away From Connected People

Step away from the flying monkeys!

It’s great when you no longer feel you have to keep in touch with people the narcissist is close to just to be kind, or out of habit.

A clean slate really means a clean slate when you’re talking about healing. 

It’s time, right?

9. Their Business is No Longer Your Concern

Who cares!

They’re posting silly sunset photos?

So what!

You hear that they got a new job?

Big deal!

You are your priority now, and finally you understand and practice that in every day of your life. 

It’s about time!

10. The Shift Within

It’s a real shift of consciousness, isn’t it?

Suddenly, you’re less tolerable of charm.

You’re stronger than you used to be.

You stand up for yourself without fear of what comes next. 

What happens inside when you heal is something that cannot be reversed. 

Don’t Think This Won’t Be You

I don’t know where you are in your healing journey, but I do know one thing.

Some day, this will all be you. And if you are beginning today, then I want to wish you all the best.

I wouldn’t be writing this to thousands of readers if you were alone. 

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