22 Painful Signs Hes Not Into You (Anymore)

Last Updated on March 14, 2023 by Alexander Burgemeester

However, it’s important to consider the context and the person’s individual circumstances before jumping to conclusions.

Whether you have a gut feeling or just want to be sure, this article will help you navigate the complex world of relationships and avoid wasting time on a lost cause.

10 Painful Signs He is Not Into You Anymore

#1 His Tone Of Voice Is Not The Same

When you first started seeing each other, you could hear the excitement in his voice when you spoke to him.

You could hear him smiling over the phone because he was so happy.

He was always deeply invested in the conversation, and his pitch rose and fell depending on what he was talking about. But now, his tone is flat, and he sounds bored and distracted when he’s speaking to you. 

#2 He’s Stopped Paying Attention To You

Your significant other was once very attentive. He noticed every little detail about your physical appearance and your personality.

He sensed your energy, and you rarely had to tell him how you felt because he just knew. Anytime you changed your hair or bought a new outfit, he complimented you on it immediately.

Getting a compliment out of him is like trying to get blood out of a stone because you’ve suddenly become invisible to him. He doesn’t see you anymore. 

#3 You Can Feel It In Your Gut

Your gut feeling is the best indicator that something is wrong, but most people ignore it.

Our instincts are extremely powerful, and they pick up signals in our environment, alerting us of problems.

Deep down, you know something isn’t right, but you can’t quite put your finger on it. However, you don’t need to know exactly what the problem is. The fact that you don’t feel right about the relationship should be enough. 

#4 He’s Always On His Phone When You’re Together

You may as well not bother spending any time together because he’s always on the phone when you’re around.

Whether he’s texting, scrolling through social media, or talking to one of his homeboys, he practically ignores you when you’re with him.

You’ve asked him to put his phone away and be more present, but your requests fall on deaf ears. He doesn’t seem to care about your feelings. 

#5 He’s Always Checking Out Other Women

Men always check out women whether they’re in a relationship, married, or single.

Now, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with a man admiring female beauty even when they’ve got a partner.

The reality is that being coupled up with someone doesn’t mean you go blind and stop noticing that other people are attractive; you just choose not to pursue that person.

The problem isn’t that your man looks at hot women; the problem is that he makes it very obvious when he’s with you that he’s checking out other females.

If an attractive lady walks past, not only will he look directly at her as she’s walking toward you, he’ll turn his head to see what she looks like from behind.

Whether you’re alone or out with friends, this is how he behaves, and it’s disrespectful. A man who disrespects his woman in public isn’t really into her. 

#6 The Relationship Has Become One-Sided

There’s no give and take in your relationship anymore because you’ve become the giver, and all he does is take.

He doesn’t make date night arrangements, only calls when he wants something, don’t listen when you disagree and has just become an all-around selfish guy. 

#7 He’s Stopped Making You A Priority

You used to be number one in your boyfriend’s life, and it felt awesome. His friends, family, and co-workers all knew it.

If someone invited him out and he had already made plans with you, he’d let them know.

Before he made an important decision, he’d check in with you first to ensure it wasn’t going to affect you and that you were cool with it. Those days are officially over. 

#8 Your Time Together Ends Quickly

Whether it’s because you have an argument and he walks out, or he’s conveniently made plans for the day, you’ve stopped spending quality time together.

It seems as if he doesn’t want to get comfortable when he comes around. He won’t sit down, and sometimes he won’t even take his jacket off.

It’s like he’s made his exit plan before he arrived, and it never fails. Within an hour, he’s gone. 

#9 He’s Stopped Complimenting You

You used to be the most beautiful girl in the world to him, and now you’re starting to wonder if he’s still attracted to you.

Those compliments first thing in the morning, when you’ve just come back from the gym, or when you’re having a lazy day at home have stopped. He no longer looks at you with longing in his eyes. 

#10 He’s Changed His Mind About The Direction Of The Relationship

A few months ago, he talked about marriage and kids, and now he’s unsure what he wants.

He always mentioned you when he spoke about the future because he saw you as a part of it.

He always called you “wifey,” and you felt confident he was yours for life. Now you’re literally waiting for the day when he tells you it’s over. 

Texting Signs He’s Not Into You Anymore

If you’re wondering whether a guy is not interested in you anymore based on his texting behavior, some signs to look out for include:

• one-word or late replies
• lack of enthusiasm or interest in your conversations
• abruptly ending the conversation
• not initiating texts or plans
• taking a long time to respond without any explanations.

#11 He Texts You One Word Answers

When you first got together, you would have long conversations over text.

You understood each other’s way of communicating, one question would lead to a full-blown discussion, and you could spend the whole day speaking over text.

But now, his enthusiasm has waned, and he dry texts you one-word answers when you ask him a question.

#12 He Doesn’t Reply

The wonderful thing about phones today is that you can tell when someone’s read your message. So when he doesn’t reply, it’s not that he hasn’t seen your message; he’s ignoring you. 

#13 He Sends Late Replies

He either doesn’t reply, or he responds hours later. You know something’s up because his texting behavior has changed.

In the past, if he wasn’t busy, he would text back immediately. If he was at work, he’d text back on his break and even call quickly just to check in.

Or if he did send a late reply, he’d let you know why when he responded. Now, he sends a late reply without an explanation and expects you to just accept it. 

Body Language Signs He’s Not Into You Anymore

Several signs indicate he’s not into you anymore through body language. These include, he doesn’t make eye contact, his feet are pointing away from you, and he turns his torso away from you. Here are three signs he’s not into you anymore through body language. 

#14 He Doesn’t Make Eye Contact

According to the experts, eye contact is one of the most important forms of body language because it helps form a strong bond between the two people communicating.

When you first started dating, you’ll probably remember that he always looked deep into your eyes.

That was because he wanted to connect with you, he wanted to see what was in your soul, and he wanted you to see what was in his.

Now that he’s stopped making eye contact when you speak, he’s indirectly telling you he’s trying to break the connection you once had. 

#15 His Feet Are Pointing Away From You

If you’re having a face-to-face conversation with someone, when you’re interested in the person, your feet will turn towards them because you subconsciously want to be where they are.

But when you’re uncomfortable around someone, and you don’t want to be around them, your feet will point away because you subconsciously want to get away from them.

So the next time your boyfriend is having a face-to-face conversation with you, pay attention to the direction his feet are pointing. 

#16 He Turns His Torso Away From You

When a person’s torso is turned towards you, it indicates receptivity and agreement.

When they turn their torso away from you, it indicates defensiveness, anger, or boredom.

If your boyfriend keeps turning his torso away from you when you’re speaking, unfortunately, he has become disengaged and detached from you. 

Signs He’s Not Into You After The First Date

Several signs he’s not into you after the first date. These include, he doesn’t call you, he’s stops sending you flirty text messages, or he doesn’t mention a second date. Here are three signs he’s not into you after the first date. 

#17 He Doesn’t Call You

It would be great if we lived in a world where everyone was straightforward and direct, and you always knew where you stood with people. But unfortunately, that’s not the case.

After a first date, a guy might decide you’re not quite what he was looking for, but instead of telling you, he ghosts you and stops calling. Should you call him instead?

Don’t let this get you down because you don’t want to date someone with bad communication skills.

The relationship wouldn’t work out anyway. Be thankful that he showed you his true colors before you invested your time and energy in him. 

#18 He Stops Sending You Flirty Text Messages

Before you went on a date, he always sent you flirty text messages, which was cute. But it’s been two weeks since you met up, and you haven’t received one flirty text message.

If he was into you before you went on a date, he should be even more into you because he’s finally met you in person and got to interact with you on a deeper level.

The fact that he’s stopped sending you flirty text messages is a huge red flag.

#19 He Doesn’t Mention A Second Date

When a guy really likes a girl, he doesn’t waste time getting to know her, and he wants to spend as much time as possible with her, so he’ll usually make arrangements for a second date shortly after the first one.

If he senses that you’re a hot commodity and knows that other guys are interested in you, he’ll want to get in there first and show you that he’s serious.

So if he doesn’t mention a second date, he’s not concerned about another guy claiming you, which is a sign he’s not that into you.  

Signs He’s Not Into You Anymore In A Long-Distance Relationship

In a long-distance relationship, signs that a guy may not be into you anymore can be challenging to detect, but some common indications include:

• Less communication
• delayed responses
• lack of enthusiasm or thoughtfulness
• avoiding video calls or being emotionally distant during them,
• and not making plans or commitments to visit each other.

#20 He Stops Calling You As Much

Long-distance relationships aren’t the norm because you can’t just jump in the car and go and see each other; therefore, communication is really important.

Most couples in long-distance relationships spend hours on the phone because they can’t be together as much.

If he’s stopped calling you, it’s because he doesn’t want to, or something or someone is occupying his time. Whatever it is, you need to find out. 

#21 He’s Always Cancelling At The Last Minute

At the beginning of your relationship, you made a commitment to see each other once a month, and that went well for a few months, but now, he keeps canceling at the last minute.

All of a sudden, something more important has come up. Now, you’d understand if this happened once, maybe twice, but he’s done this four times in a row, and it’s getting old! 

#22 Meeting Up Has Suddenly Become Inconvenient

If he’s not canceling on you, he’s complaining about the five-hour drives or the 1-hour plane ride required to see you.

Suddenly, it’s too expensive, and he’d rather put that money in his savings account. It seems that he’s always making excuses not to see you. 

Before You Go,

Now you know exactly what signs to look for to determine whether he’s lost interest in you, start paying attention. You may have already noticed some of them, but either way, before making any hasty decisions, I would advise you to talk to your partner and find out what’s going on.

Tell him what you’ve observed and how you feel about it and see how he responds. He may be stressed out about work, or he’s got problems in his life he hasn’t told you about, and it’s affecting the way he treats you.

If you can work things out, great, but if he doesn’t acknowledge there’s anything wrong, or he promises to change but doesn’t, end the relationship because there’s no point in continuing to invest in something that you’re not getting anything out of. 

I recommend reading:

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