17 Signs An Older Woman Wants To Sleep With You

So, you’ve met an older woman and find her attractive, but you’re not sure she’s into you. Or maybe she’s married, and you suspect she’s flirting with you, but you want to be certain before making a move.

Some signs that an older woman wants to sleep with you include she makes sexual jokes, she’s very flirtatious, and she lets you know she’s looking for some fun. Sleeping with an older woman is the ultimate fantasy for some men because she’s experienced and knows what to do in the bedroom.

If you want to turn that fantasy into a reality, here are seventeen signs that an older woman wants to sleep with you. 

#1 She Makes Sexual Jokes Around You

Making sexual jokes around the person you want to sleep with is a great way to break the ice. If the person laughs along with you or tells their own sexy joke, you’ll know they’re comfortable talking about sex with you.

She Makes Sexual Jokes Around You

That’s her way of testing you. She’ll feel confident enough to take things further if you go along with it. Of course, where she goes from here will depend on your reaction.

Even if you’re the shy type and don’t respond as enthusiastically as she’d like, she’ll find another way to entice you.  

#2 She’s Very Flirtatious

Some women are naturally flirtatious, so don’t get too excited that she’s flirting with you unless you know you’re the only person she acts this way with.

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She's Very Flirtatious

Whenever you get the chance to observe her around other men, pay close attention to how she acts with them. If she’s all over them in the same way she’s all over you, then she’s a natural flirt.

However, this doesn’t mean she doesn’t fancy you, so watch out for other signs. 

#3 She Lets You Know She’s Looking For Some Fun

During conversation, she doesn’t hesitate to tell you she’s looking to have some fun. For example, she might start telling you that marriage life is boring, and she no longer enjoys or has sex with her husband.

She Lets You Know She's Looking For Some Fun

Or, if she’s single, she’ll tell you that she hasn’t had any action in a while and is looking for someone to have some fun with. She might go as far as to ask if you know anyone.

But when she does, she’ll make it more than obvious that she’s referring to you. 

#4 Her Body Language Gives It Away

According to experts, people say more with their body language than they do with their words. So when your older lady friend is speaking, pay attention to the way she moves her body. Several signs indicate she wants to sleep with you, and these include the following:

She Plays With Her Hair

According to body language expert Blanca Cobb, women play with their hair in the presence of the man they’re attracted to. It is common for her to pull a strand from the side or the back of her head and start twirling it around her finger while she’s talking to him.

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She Licks Her Lips

People lick their lips when they see something they want. Research suggests that one of the biological reactions that take place when a person is attracted to someone is they produce excess saliva.

She Licks Her Lips

This causes the individual to lick their lips, so if she’s licking her lips when she’s around you, she’s hungry for you! 

She Tilts Her Head In Your Direction

She tilts her head in your direction when you’re talking because she’s interested in what you’re saying. It also indicates that she wants to connect with you deeper and feel closer to you. It’s important to mention that if you’re alone and she tilts her head towards you, don’t misinterpret it as she’s going in for a kiss. It’s a subconscious action, and if you try and kiss her, it might startle her. Instead, wait for the right moment. 

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Her Feet Are Pointed Towards You 

This is a strange form of body language, but according to the experts, it’s one of the most telling.

For example, our feet walk us in the direction we want to go, so if her feet were pointed towards the door, it’s a sign that she’s not comfortable and wants to leave.

Her Feet Are Pointed Towards You

However, if her feet are pointed towards you, it indicates that she’s exactly where she wants to be. 

She Touches You Lightly

A woman who touches you during conversation feels comfortable around you.

If she weren’t attracted to you, first of all, she wouldn’t be standing close enough to you to touch you, and second of all, she wouldn’t touch you because she doesn’t want to give you the wrong idea.

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If you’re both standing up, she might put her hand on your arm to emphasize her point. She might put her hand on your knee if you’re both sitting down. 

She Mirrors You

Mirroring is an unconscious action that lets the other person know you like them and that you’re interested in what they’ve got to say.

When you’re talking, she’ll match your energy by speaking in the same way as you, making the same facial expressions, and moving in the same way as you.

She Mirrors You

For example, if you touch your face, she’ll touch hers, or if you take a sip of your drink, she’ll take a sip of hers. 

#5 She’s Always Staring At You

Do you notice your older lady friend staring at you whenever you look up? It’s because she admires your good looks.

There’s something about your face that intrigues her. It might be your hair, piercing eyes, or chiseled jaw line. She may even like how you dress and think you’re very well put together.

She's Always Staring At You

She doesn’t look away when you catch her staring because she wants you to know that she’s attracted to you. She may even smile to give you a further hint that she’s interested in you. 

#6 She Dresses Provocatively

Let me clarify that not all women wear revealing clothes to get male attention. Some females are just confident about their bodies, and they enjoy showing it off.

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So don’t conclude that she’s doing it because she wants your attention. Nevertheless, if she’s wearing revealing clothes and blatantly flirting with you, then it’s safe to assume that she wants your eyes on her.

She Dresses Provocatively

So she might wear a low-cut top and make sure she leans in front of you so you can get a good view.

Or she may wear a short skirt and bend over in front of you to pick something off the ground. And she’ll be looking directly at you while doing so. 

#7 She Asks If You’re In A Relationship

Whether she’s married or single, she wants to know if you’re in a relationship because she’s trying to work out where you’ll have your rendevous.

It can’t be at her house if she’s married, but it can be at yours if you’re single.

However, if you’re in a relationship, she’ll need to start thinking about other ways to get some alone time with you. 

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#8 She Invites You Around For Tea

If she’s single and lives alone, she’ll invite you around to her house for a cup of tea.

A cup of tea sounds innocent, but she plans that a cup of tea will turn into a hot and sweaty romp in between the sheets. 

She Invites You Around For Tea

#9 She Asks You To Fix Something

Whether it’s her car, something in her garden, or a lightbulb needs changing, she’ll be sure to ask you to fix something for her. You see, older women are a lot more experienced and understand men in a way that younger women don’t.

She knows that men can’t resist a woman who needs help, so she will play the damsel in distress role to get his attention. According to relationship expert James Bauer, men have a biological need to be a hero.

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They are wired to provide for and protect their women and children. When a woman taps into this biological need and makes him feel as if he wants to provide for and protect her, she’ll have him eating out of the palm of her hand in no time. 

#10 She Laughs At All Your Jokes

You know full well that you’re not the funniest person in the world. But for some reason, every time you tell a joke, she laughs as if you’re Kevin Hart!

She Laughs At All Your Jokes

She either really does find you funny, or she’s laughing because she knows it will impress you. Research suggests that men are more likely to be attracted to women who find them amusing.

If your lady friend is aware of this, she’ll keep laughing at your jokes even if they’re not remotely funny. 

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#11 She Asks If You’re Attracted To Older Women

Your lady friend will drop as many hints as possible that she wants to go to bed with you, and one of them will be to ask whether you’re attracted to older women.

She’s basically asking if you’re attracted to her. She’s hoping you’ll say yes so that she can take her flirting to the next level. 

She Asks If You're Attracted To Older Women

#12 She Has Sexy Conversations With You Via Text 

Whether by text message or WhatsApp, your lady friend doesn’t hesitate to tell you what she wants to do to you in the bedroom.

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If she’s really brave, she’ll send you provocative pictures of her wearing sexy underwear in the hopes that you’ll reply with a compliment and raunchy suggestions about what you want to do to her.

She Has Sexy Conversations With You Via Text 

#13 She Looks At Your Lips

When you’re talking, pay attention to where her eyes fall. If she’s looking at your lips, she’s doing so because she imagines what it will be like to kiss you.

She Looks At Your Lips

She’s fantasizing about the day when she locks lips with yours, leading to the passionate encounter she’s been dreaming about. 

#14 She’ll Change The Tone Of Her Voice

Pay attention to how she speaks to other men, then compare it to how she speaks to you.

One of the things women do when they’re attracted to a man is increase the pitch of their voice. 

Research suggests that men are more attracted to women with high-pitched voices, so to draw you in, she speaks with a higher tone when communicating with you. 

#15 She Whispers In Your Ear

It would make sense if you were in a crowded bar and she spoke directly into your ear.

But when you’re alone, and there’s no noise at all, and she whispers in your ear, she’s doing it for one reason only.

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She wants to get as close to you as possible and you to know that she wants to be close to you. 

#16 She Hugs You Often

When she greets you and says goodbye, she gives you a long and lingering hug. She’s not being polite because she doesn’t hug everyone like this, not even her female friends.

She Hugs You Often

Instead, she wants you to feel the curves of her body so that you spend night and daydreaming about what it would be like to feel her naked body against yours. 

#17 She’ll Ask How You Spend Your Spare Time

She knows you go to work during the week, so she wants to find out what you do after work and on the weekends. Do you go to the gym, do you have any hobbies?

She'll Ask How You Spend Your Spare Time

The only reason she’s asking about your spare time is that she’s trying to figure out when you’ll be able to fit her in for those passionate love-making sessions she’s been dreaming about. 

Final Thought

Now that you’re certain your older lady friend wants to sleep with you, it’s time to make a move.

When you’re unsure about how a person feels, hitting on them is a gamble most men don’t want to take in case they’re rejected.

However, if she’s displaying several of these signs, you can more or less guarantee she’s up for it. 

Last Updated on August 29, 2022 by Alexander Burgemeester

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Alexander Burgemeester has a Master in Neuropsychology. He studied at the University of Amsterdam and has a bachelor's in Clinical Psychology. Want to know more?

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