Idealization. De-valuation. Discarding. Hoovering. Once the narcissist has you, they start to display a disinterest in you. They love the chase, and may well threaten to leave. What happens more often is that people decide to be the ones to leave the narcissistic relationship because the above cycle does not change. As you leave – … Read more
Handing a narcissist a Q-Tip to clean their ears out so they can hear you better is pointless. They could have the cleanest ears in town – the fact remains – they’re still not listening. They aren’t interested. They won’t change for you, or anybody else. They only want you to answer their call and … Read more
Have you ever had your reality denied? You’re being too sensitive. You’ve no right to feel this way. It didn’t happen the way you’re describing. I wish I could point out every single gaslighting phrase – but knowing what it means can help you spot the signs when you next feel you’re in the presence … Read more
Have you ever seen a flying monkey? Of course not – they don’t exist, right? Wrong. They absolutely exist in world’s where narcissists are prevalent. Think back to the Wizard of Oz, where the flying monkeys had the Wicked Witch’s back and treated Dorothy with disdain. Now apply that to real life. You’re being treated … Read more
Narcissists are so charming that they are like magnets to some people. For those lucky enough, there is no power in being drawn to them. Still, for others, they feel absolutely pulled with the seemingly effortless demeanor of the narcissist, who reels in a person of a certain type, and starts quickly chipping away at … Read more
We all know narcissists are more than capable of punishing you. One wrong move is all it takes. In fact… punishment is one of the strongest forms of control, accompanied by the progressing approach to chipping away at your character. They think you criticize? They punish. They think you aren’t listening? They punish you. You … Read more
It’s a tale as old as time: someone falls for a narcissist based on the love bombing that occurred early in the relationship, only to be confused when the narcissist begins to show their true colors. Maybe the narcissist shows cruel behavior toward you, withdrawing affection and slinging insults your way as soon as they … Read more
If you’ve ever been with a narcissist, you know that before long, they will show a dark side. The relationship might have started as rainbows and butterflies, but chances are, it quickly declined. Early on in a relationship with a narcissist, it will become clear to you that there is something off about them. They … Read more
SILENCE! Probably something you have wanted for a while, right? What makes that peace impossible? The narcissist! There is no greater pleasure than shutting down a narcissist. When you’ve had weeks, months – even years of tolerating their noise – you know you’re ready to take firm action. Wanting to shut down a narcissist can … Read more
So… the time has come when you can no longer tolerate the toxic effects of being with a narcissist, and you decide you want to leave. Leaving any narcissist is never going to be as straightforward as bowing out of a healthy relationship. You’ll be pushed and pulled in all directions as they repel your … Read more