“Dear Universe,

Was once not enough? Could I not learn the first time round? 

Why are you doing this to me?!

I just want the narcissist to leave me alone!”

Dear You,

Sadly, narcissists will always make you pay twice. If you’re willing to fund, they’re willing to steal, even after they’ve gone. Here are 10 reasons why.

Love, The Universe.

You Think It’s Over…

And I bet you wish you were when you find out you’re still funding the narcissist.

It’s like they know you’re there with your seemingly endless supplies of cash ready to just hand over.

And don’t make any mistakes about it, if they know it’s there, they’re going to take full advantage. 

If you thought there would be a sense of relief after they left, it’s time to think again. 

#1 The Child Support Game

I hear about this kind of thing all the time. And guys, it’s serious. You meet an amazing person, you marry them, you start having kids with them, and then the fairytale comes crashing down all around you, resulting in divorce.

You know, you don’t even have to marry them to be entitled to child support, so this still applies!

Child support is a legal process, and if you are no longer living with the narcissist yet you have kids with them, they have to pay. It’s that simple. However, what if the tables are turned?

That’s right. You have to pay the narcissist. Is it not enough that they’re officially out of your life, but they have to loiter like a bad smell getting money from you?

I’m not talking about the standard rates you have to legally pay, I’m talking about the extras.

The trips, the clothes, the hobbies –everything. Suddenly, you’re down a whole load of dollars, and for what? What exactly is there to show for it?

Money and narcissism do not mix well for those on the other side of the coin, and you will definitely pay twice for getting stuck in this kind of situation. 

#2 Manipulated Legal Fees

Stretching over those kinds of fees and you will find yourself in a bigger pool of general legal fees.

Separating usually involves some kind of solicitor, and when you’re dealing with a narcissist, you should expect to be met with a different heap of stress.

Yeah, I can’t afford that.

You’re going to have to cover the costs.

I get paid next week, I will sort it then.

I can’t look into this kind of thing until I have saved. 

It can go on and on. You might even notice it with selling properties or assets, too.

Everything that goes with it is going to have to be organized or paid for by you. And don’t think they will cough up eventually, because there will always be an excuse. 

#3 Surprise: Medical Bill!

Oh, would you look at that? A medical bill has landed on your doorstep, and it doesn’t have your name on it.

What’s happening here is they have nobody else to help pay for it. So where does that leave you? It leaves you accountable to helping them pay it. 

Dentists, doctors, hospitals; whatever it may be, you’re going to be put under the pressure to put some finance forward in order to give them the support they’re asking of you.

And I’ll be totally honest, there are payment plans usually provided for this kind of thing, but they want the money up front from you.

Even more insultingly, they will likely not even pay the bill in full, instead paying off a small fraction.

With the rest of what you’ve handed over, they will treat themselves to something, and show it off all over social media. 

You paid for that. And that is how you end up paying twice. 

#4 Leeching Subscriptions

Remember that TV subscription you paid for, for the entire year? Yeah, that’s about to run out and you’re going to end up needing to cough up another 12 months’ cost.

But here’s where it gets worse. You’ve unknowingly paid for multi screens, so not only are you overpaying, you’re always giving the narcissist a free ride with it.

They get to watch what they want from their screen without you even being remotely aware. 

It’s not cool, is it? Some advice for you right now is check your subscriptions. Not just the TV ones, but apps, too. If you’re paying over, you can change your plan, no problem. 

#5 Identity Theft Charges

Does the narcissist have hold of any of your ID? I’m sure if they did, they’re going to use it to fund something, usually online.

This might look like credit services, such as setting up a plan online to purchase something using what they have of yours. 

Then what? Well, you get the charges! By then, it’s too late to be able to do anything about it. 

#6 Debt is Debt Shared…

Signing up to live with a narcissist means you share that residence. All mail for them will arrive in the same way mail to you arrives. Which is fine, until it’s companies asking for money. 

What isn’t your responsibility soon becomes it, especially when debt collectors roll up at your door and try to pull assets out of the property to pay for what’s owed. Even when you’re apart, this will still happen.

#7 Emergency! I Need a Loan

Hey, remember me? I really need your help.

I’m in a bit of a pickle…

Why is it your responsibility? Well, newsflash, it isn’t. However, the narcissist will drag you in because they know one thing; you will help them.

They know what a kind hearted soul you are, and they’re still lurking around to take full advantage of it. 

The biggest shame is when they feel they can still encroach on your boundaries that way. 

#8 Credit Card? Got It!

Hey, if they have it, they’re going to use and abuse it. It isn’t just you they abuse, after all.

Credit cards aren’t free money, but the truth is, the narcissist sees it as such because they know it’s in your name and they will never have to pay it back. 

Unless you take drastic action by keeping on top of purchases, checking your balance online regularly, or cancel all cards and have new ones sent to you, this will keep happening. 

#9 The Dog Got Sick…

The one thing you feel tugged toward is the very thing they’re asking you to pay for.

You know all the times they called you kind, thoughtful, and loveable, and relaxing, and therapeutic when you both first met?

Yeah. Not so much now for the both of you, but when it comes to animals, they’re hoping you will put your hand in your purse and hand the cash over. 

It’s a tough one, that’s for sure!

#10 Insurance Policy Piggybacking

If you have them on your car policy, you can bet they’re going to keep quiet about it.

Driving around not offering you a penny until your policy can be canceled is one way they can piggyback off your finances for months on end. 

And for you? You just have to tolerate it!

Except you don’t. Lift their name off as soon as possible, and if you haven’t, do it today!

What Eventually Happens To Narcissists?

How Does it End For Narcissists?

Narcissists are like a really painful, long book that you have to read to understand. They don’t come with an index or bullet points. If they did, half their toxicity would fall through the cracks.

Sadly, people like you or I must experience them fully before we know each trick.

If I can offer you one fragment of light at the end of this treacherous tunnel – it’s this:

What happens to narcissists is an ending that you’re going to want to hang on for.

Let’s get into it.

“Look At Them!”

It’s enough to make you sick, isn’t it?

They live their merry little lives, seemingly getting away with anything and everything, making you want to scream from the rooftops.

Yes – it’s unfair. 

You wish they would just crumble and fall down, so you could finally see them suffer as much as they made you suffer. 

You want what happens to them to be detrimental to everything they pretend to be. 

Does The Tide Ever Turn?

What do you think? I mean, I want to be able to tell you that they do indeed turn honestly.

I also know and appreciate how it really doesn’t feel that way at the time. Constantly waiting for them to taste their own medicine can feel like waiting for rain in a drought.

But I am here to say that, yes, eventually, that rain will come.

And it will feel amazing.

The Beauty of Karma

I don’t like to meddle with Karma. Instead, I trust that everything will work exactly how it should.

Sometimes we win, sometimes we lose. The circle of life appreciates both good and bad happenings, and I am certain that includes narcissists and how they treat others. 

Karma doesn’t need you stepping in and taking over, so if you ever try to gain justice from a situation involving a narcissist, you’re likely to lose. 

Rather than that – it’s nothing but a waiting game. 

But a game you’ll definitely not want to quit.

How Does It End For Them?

No narcissist has a really happy ending. 

Ultimately, they go home alone every day, even if they go home to somebody. 

Narcissists always want to be part of something, yet never feel part of anything. It’s all empty. It’s all meaningless. They don’t have layers to them or an ounce of appreciation for their family or friends. 

That alone should tell you how it ends for every narcissist. 

They’re nothing but lonely people craving some kind of something. 

That is something they never end up getting.

#1 The Slipping of the Mask

You may have to wait a while, but the mask of a narcissist will always, I repeat, always slip off.

I know you think it can’t happen soon enough, and many of you will be screaming for it to be today—but it doesn’t work that way.

In fact, the more you try to rush the mask’s slipping, the crazier you will look.

If you want to allow their true selves to unfold naturally, you’ll have to wait for the day.

#2 Inability to Keep Up With Their Lies

We all know that lying can lead to serious trouble. Not only do you have to remember this, but you may also have to build potential lies around it so they make sense. 

Narcissists are great at lying, but they can do it so frequently that they fail to recall them all.

When you see a narcissist caught in a lie trap, they will fluff and fumble their way out as best they can with the charm they were born with. 

I want to remind you, though – the lies do catch up with them eventually.

Lies catch up with everybody. 

#3 One Small Mistake

This is all it takes, believe me. One tiny little slip up to get people talking is all it takes. 

I once knew a narcissist professionally who never took any accountability for his mistakes.

He used to cover up all his mistakes, blaming others or deleting evidence that he was responsible. 

One day, he was caught in the act. He had no defense, and even though he got really angry and tried to blame somebody else, it was clear he was to blame. 

His mistake was leaving his work pass in the room where he shredded all the information he wanted to discard. 

It’s all it took for the dominos to all fall down, and for the past to come together like a jigsaw puzzle. People saw what he was like, and nobody trusted him again. 

#4 Time Will Tell

You’re all familiar with the saying, ‘Time will heal.’ It helps if you are going through hard times or have lost somebody close to you. 

Time also heals your own heart as it allows narcissists to be revealed for who they really are.

As much as it will cause chaos, it will be healing to be validated by the entire event. 

It’s how so many victims breathe a sigh of relief and say, “Thank goodness everybody can now see them for who they truly are.”

Time will give you that. You just have to wait for it. 

#5 They Won’t Hesitate To Move!

Narcissists are renowned for moving. 

To start again, if things get too heated where they live,

Looking for work in a new city or town for a ‘fresh start.’

Usually, when they run everybody else down or play them all in their games, they run out of people.

They run out of supply.

So what do they do?

They run away.

It won’t end there, though. Moving anywhere new only restarts the whole process.

Narcissists, for that reason, never really admit to having somewhere to call home.

#6 New Friends

Of course, moving anywhere means starting up a new friendship circle. People will mingle and meet with everybody, as all new people are considered to be fresh pawns in their game. 

Friends end up being enemies before long…

In The End

You can wait and wait, but eventually, the narcissist will get their comeuppance.

In one way or another, whether being found out, having their mask slip, or having to keep bouncing from town to city to stay relevant or liked.

Please allow that to be the justice you need, because it is.

Narcissists will always be miserable. They hate the idea of being stuck or figured out, so they must constantly work out their plan to keep their true selves a secret.

Isn’t that the end you want to hear about?

I know it is for me.