No One Falls In Love Faster Than a Narcissist Who…

While you’re sitting there thinking they love you for who you are, and for the love and care you provide to them, the narcissist has other motives.

Their vision for you is to fulfill a favor for them, a wish they have, or a chance they get to use and abuse you. 

The more open you are to this, the more the narcissist is going to love you.

But what is this love? And why is it landing on your doorstep so suddenly?

It’s time to look at what really drives a narcissist to fall so fast, and what that means for you. If it felt too good to be true, you’re about to find out why.

Love is real

Let’s get it clear; love is very real. And it’s beautiful. It’s respectful and clear and communicative. It is compromising and supportive. It’s real. 

When you ask a narcissist about love, they will tell you what they think it is, but they don’t act in accordance with it. 

They just act.

And you want it to be true, and you feel amazing for the shower of emotions they’re coming at you at full speed with. 

You love how they make you feel when they buzz around you like bees to honey, but the truth is, this is usually because they want something from you. 

Love isn’t real to the narcissist. It’s just an emotion they fake to get what they want. As quickly as they fall, they can drop you.

Need, need, need

That’s what all of this boils down to. The narcissist loves you because they need you. 

You’re their favorite person as long as you keep giving, so they can keep taking. When this happens, they can fall fast.

So what kinds of things am I talking about when I say ‘they need you?’

I wonder if you’ve already got a few ideas, let’s see if they align!

A place to live

A narcissist strikes gold when they discover you have the space and willingness to accommodate them.

You will never see bags packed faster than a narcissist with a new environment to turn toxic.

This is their opportunity to get their feet firmly and fully under your table before you’ve even had a chance to lay it. 

Living with you means they get to take off their mask a lot more quickly than if you were living separately.

There’s something instantly attractive to walls they can hide from the world behind but show you who you’re dealing with. 

Once this happens, the abusive cycle really gets the chance to ramp up. 

The worst part for you about having them say they have fallen for you simply for a palace to live is that you believe them.

You take them in and assume it to be the start of an amazing relationship that will last forever.

The truth is, it’s not. You’re a commodity. And getting them out of your house will prove difficult when (not if) the time comes. 

Childcare

Have you got a lot of time on your hands? If so, you’re the perfect person for a narcissist!

They will see your spare time as available time for them, and nothing more. Never mind all the other things you love to do with it, or even need to do with it. 

As a result, you will be the default person to help with their childcare needs, and you will be loved more than you could imagine, until of course, you start to let them down for whatever reason. 

And those reasons might be legit; you’re sick, you need to take the car for a service, you have an appointment. 

Soon will come the texts that read:

Never mind.

Okay, I understand you’re too busy.

Can’t you rearrange?

No, you cannot. But they will see it as a direct attack on them, and fall out of love with you just as fast. 

“Please fund my delusional business plan”

If the narcissist sees the dollar signs in your bank account, you will see them immediately in their eyes as they stare keenly at you, wanting a huge favor from you.

We all know how delusional they are. A business plan can literally be thought out over lunch, and by the last bite of their sandwich, they’ve already pictured themselves being a millionaire overnight. 

The only thing is, this plan won’t come into fruition. If we’re being honest, it isn’t just that the narcissist doesn’t have any money and wants to lead you blindly into their new grandiose idea.

The reality is, the idea won’t take off because the narcissist will receive your money, fritter it away on God knows what, then come back to you for more, and more, and more. 

A narcissist will love hard on you until you agree to help them, promising you a cut of the income, and that they will ‘pay you back and then some.’

Sounds enticing, and many people fall for it.

Don’t be one of those people, though. 

New supply? Get the tears ready…

If a narcissist is proclaiming to be falling in love with you, it’s because they’ve singled you out to be their new source of supply. At the time, you won’t know what that means, but in the long run, the damage will take place. 

Usually when a narcissist needs a new source of supply quickly, it means they’ve been left high and dry by their old source.

They have nowhere to go, and they need your fuel before they themselves burn out. 

The tears will come alongside their sob story, and they will cling to you like you were the best thing to ever exist.

These feelings and expressions are strong so you believe them, and the more you like them, the more likely you are to stick around and see where it all leads. 

For you, you’ve finally got somebody who cares and loves you, but for them, they’re shaping out a new dynamic that will enable them to continue to manipulate other people – a place they love to be best. 

Needs you to look normal

Something has happened in the narcissist’s life that paints them as a bad person, and they need a new, kind and genuine person to be associated with. You fit the bill!

This means they will latch onto you and use you to portray a good image of themselves. 

I am a great person, and I attract good people.

If I was that terrible, this person wouldn’t be with me.

This is where you have to realize that you really are a commodity to them, and that the only specific thing they like about you is your passion for compliance. 

If you are walking into a room with them, arm in arm, they look normal. You’re there because you want to be, and that must mean you’re arm in arm with a person worth being around.

That’s the only thing they want from you, and for that, they will make sure they offer a lot of love to you to prove their authenticity.

Let’s be honest – it’ll take more than you alone to make these people look normal!