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The Step-by-Step Plan to Go No Contact and Actually Stay Gone
Exact scripts for when they text at midnight. A plan for when they show up at your door. The honest truth about what the first 30 days feel like, and how to survive them.
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Is this for you?
This Guide Is for You If…
- You have been thinking about going no contact but do not know where to start.
- You have tried before and been pulled back in.
- You know what to do but not what to say when the moment actually arrives.
- You want something specific, not vague advice about “loving yourself more.”
The decision is not the hard part. You have already made the decision, probably more than once.
What stops people is everything after. What do you say when they text you at midnight? What do you do when they show up at your door? What happens when a mutual friend passes along a message? What do you say to yourself on day 14 when the grief feels exactly like love?
That is what this guide is for. Not motivation. Not affirmations. A plan.
What it is
This Is Not a List of Affirmations.
The No Contact Playbook is a step-by-step guide through every stage of going no contact with a narcissist, written by Alexander Burgemeester of The Narcissistic Life. Not vague advice. Real, specific guidance for real situations, including the exact words to use and the exact words to avoid, and why one works where the other keeps you trapped.
Because the difference between holding no contact and breaking it is almost never about willpower. It is about having a plan before the moment arrives. This guide is the plan.
What is inside
Six Parts. Each One Building on the Last.
Part One
The Decision
The ten signs it is time even if you do not feel ready. The five fears that keep people stuck, answered honestly. Why you do not need closure before you leave.
Part Two
Before You Begin
The full preparation checklist. What to tell people in your circle. Why a final message almost always makes things worse.
Part Three
Day One
The exact order of what to do. What to expect when you do it. What happens when you run into them in public and your body reacts before your mind catches up.
Part Four
When They Come Back
Eleven scenarios for when they reach out. For each one: the exact words to say, the exact words not to say, and why.
Part Five
The First 30 Days
Why you miss them. Why you feel guilty. Why checking their profile is self-harm with a screen in front of it. A day-by-day guide through the first month.
Part Six
The Traps and The Tools
Seven ways no contact fails and the counter to each one, including the one nobody talks about: checking from a secondary account.
What Readers Are Saying
“I read Part Four three times before he texted me again. I knew exactly what to say and exactly what not to say. For the first time I did not feel caught off guard.”Sarah
“I had tried no contact twice before and broken it both times within a week. This time I was prepared. Day 14 was brutal but I had already read what to expect. That made all the difference.”Rachel
“The part about mutual friends sending messages is something nobody talks about. That was always my weak point. Now I have a script ready and I am not afraid of it anymore.”Maria
About the author
Alexander Burgemeester
I am the founder of The Narcissistic Life, one of the most-read resources on narcissistic abuse with over 15,000 newsletter subscribers and hundreds of thousands of monthly readers. I have a background in psychology and have spent years helping people understand what happened to them, name it, and find a way through it.
This guide is the most practical thing I have ever written. It is what I wish I could hand to every person who has ever asked me: “So what do I actually do now?”
You Do Not Need to Feel Ready.
You Just Need a Plan.
The people who get through this are not the ones who felt strong enough. They are the ones who knew what to do in the moments when they felt weakest.
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Questions
Is this only for romantic relationships?
No. The guide covers going no contact with any narcissist, whether that is an ex-partner, a parent, a friend, or a colleague.
What if I have tried no contact before and broken it?
That is exactly who this guide is written for. Part Six covers every way no contact fails and how to prevent each one.
How is this different from your free content?
The newsletter and articles help you understand narcissistic abuse. This guide gives you the exact plan, scripts, and day-by-day framework to act on it. It is the difference between knowing and doing.
Is there a refund policy?
Yes. Gumroad offers a 30-day money back guarantee. If it is not useful to you, you get your money back.
What format is it in?
PDF. Works on any device including your phone, tablet, or computer.