Narcissists? Hate? Alexander! How could this be?!
You know as well as I do that the main element running through the veins of the narcissist isn’t blood – it’s hatred.
It isn’t difficult for them to absolutely despise certain traits about you either, and there are 8 specifically that I want to talk about today.
Attaching to their overly jealous and cold, cold heart – any narcissist you know is going to really have a problem with you if you display any of these.
Once you read them, I don’t think you’ll need to ask me why.
Narcissists Seek Out Traits to Spew Over
People with strong traits of narcissism don’t want to like anybody!
Their agenda is based purely around the idea that you serve them well by being a certain type of person.
If you aren’t, they’re going to hate you even more because of it.
It’s almost as if they seek out these traits so they can have a direct reason to allow their anger and negativity to spew over.
They Will Try and Make You Feel Small For Having These
Now to you or me, these aren’t traits you’d never think twice about wishing you had.
Yes, it’s known for people to not like users, or cheaters – that goes without saying/ You build your morals based on what you think is right or wrong.
Narcissists don’t know what’s right or wrong, they just know what they want and how they’re going to get it.
If it hurts you, so what?
Prepare To Hold Onto Your Essence!
I’m told all too frequently things like:
I just felt like my innocence was stolen from me.
Every time I was near them, I felt like they were taking away an innate part of me – like my essence.
I just don’t understand why he won’t let me be me.
I’ve got news for you:
It’s because you’re a threat to them!!
It’s time to hold onto that essence and never let it go again, as we enter that list of traits.
8 Traits in People That Will Make The Narcissist’s Heart of Hate Beat Incessantly!
1. You’re Kind
Okay. Shall we just stop it here? I feel like this reason is so big that there can’t possibly be any other reasons!
Your kindness is a virus to them. The more you spread it, the worse the narcissist feels.
The more you give out, the more hatred they feel for you.
How dare you think of others and try to help people? What are you doing it for, anyway?
What?! For no reason?!
Narcissists are only kind when there’s something in it for them, and even then it’s always going to be something they remind you of for years after.
Don’t forget I was kind to that person once! So I can’t be a narcissist!
Yeah, yeah. Whatever.
2. You’re Naturally Talented
People who are naturally talented are incredibly lucky people.
I knew somebody at school who could literally draw any movie or cartoon character from memory. It was absolutely insane to watch this creation just come to life on paper in minutes of suggesting what to draw.
I couldn’t draw to save my life, but there was never one part of me that hated this person for their ability. I am so fully aware that we are all different, and we have so many diverse skills and talents.
That’s what makes the world go round, right?
Narcissists aren’t of that thought, though. Instead, they see the talents of others as an incapability of themselves.
If you can do that and I can’t, then you’re taking away a part of me that wants to be portrayed as perfect.
So yes – prepare for the hate. Prepare for the envy. Prepare for the destruction of whatever it is you are good at just because they can.
3. Living Life Regardless
Knowing a narcissist and getting stuck in their games is exactly what they want from you.
They adore you suffering, and will only have a problem if you brush off their narcissism like it cannot get anywhere near you.
Believe it or not, there are people like this in existence.
Yes, they see the narcissism that exists. But they refuse to be affected by it.
They won’t change for anybody, and if the narcissist dares to abuse them or manipulate them, these people will continue to happily live their lives without being affected by a single attempt.
I salute you all!
4. Strong Boundaries
If your boundaries are stronger than titanium – congratulations. That doesn’t mean I commiserate the people who struggle with their own boundaries, but think about it:
Narcissists aren’t going to want to know you if you are already making it clear you won’t allow them to overstep.
Narcissists only thrive when people they know they can manipulate give themselves up so freely. If somebody comes along with strong boundaries that look like:
- No
- I will not continue this conversation if you keep shouting
- I enjoy spending time with you, but I also like to see my friends and that isn’t going to change
- Please respect my personal space. If you keep encroaching, this isn’t going to work
Imagine throwing these comments at narcissists!
Hey, perhaps you should!
5. Intelligence
Stop!
You can’t know things!
If you know things, you might outshine the narcissist and make them look stupid.
You could show them up with all your facts!
No. Sorry. This won’t do.
6. Thoughtfulness
So, let me get this straight. Your mom isn’t well, so you want to buy her some flowers and grapes, and take them round to visit her?
Sorry, I don’t get it.
What’s in it for me; the narcissist, if I do that?
Where are you getting the notion to be so thoughtful from?
This won’t do either.
All you’re doing is showing up those toxic people for who they are because they didn’t think of it first.
7. Joyous
You see joy in all the little things. In every way, there is something to appreciate each day. The flavor of your coffee, or the beautiful sunrise.
You smile, and feel grateful that you have the life you have, even if it isn’t perfect every day.
You do everything the narcissist can’t – and hates.
If joy came naturally to them, then they wouldn’t have to spend so much time stealing everybody else’s, at least, that’s what I think anyway.
8. Generous
This doesn’t automatically mean you’ll give me $20 every time I ask for it.
When I talk about generosity, I’m talking about time, love, patience, compassion, and empathy. You’re there for people, and you always make the right time to give them what they need.
You’re a good friend, and a trusted son or daughter or sibling. Loved ones or coworkers come to you as the person they know will care and help or support.
These are traits you cannot pretend to have.
That’s why the narcissist hates them about you.
