Imagine the day arrives where the narcissist finally starts being honest, both with themselves and with you. What a shock, right?
The words that fall out of their mouth transition into authenticity, and you are amazed at the truth – even if it’s hard to listen to.
I want to talk about 8 things the narcissist would say if they were being honest, and exactly what that might mean – for all of you.
Honesty…
I know.
It’s a big ask for any victim of narcissistic abuse, isn’t it?
You want the narcissist in your life to be honest. And I think I’m inclined to want the same for you, but I know it would change everything.
For example, if the narcissist was nothing but honest, do you think they’d still be a narcissist?
No way!
All narcissists lie, and they lie about pretty much everything. Even when they criticize you or put you down, they’re still lying (as much as they want you to see it as truth).
So let’s take a look at those things a narcissist would say if they could be totally honest…
…For once.
#1 “I’m Scared”
We all get scared, but is it a big ask to expect the narcissist to admit that they’re feeling it a little?
We just want them to say if they’re not feeling something, or if what they’re going through feels like a little too much.
I know.
It would be nice.
An honest conversation about a vulnerable moment.
But it doesn’t happen because ‘narcissists are never scared.’
That’s what they will tell you, anyway. And to admit otherwise would be to do their own image a huge disservice.
They’ve worked hard to build up an iron-clad character, so you can forget it if you think you’re going to come along and demand that it be knocked down!
#2 “I Just Do This For Attention”
Oh, believe me, we know.
Everything you do is to get a reaction, and cause misery and pain.
Wherever you go, you like to stir the pot, get people to fall out, create distractions, and control or manipulate your way through it.
Narcissists thrive wherever and whenever the attention lands on them, and why shouldn’t they? They worked hard for this gameplan!
It would confirm so much of what we already know if they just admitted they craved attention, like little toddlers.
#3 “I Don’t Know How To Do This”
It’s okay to not know how to do something. I ask family and friends from time to time if I’m unsure what I’m doing, or how to put furniture together, or whatever it may be.
I’ve no problem raising my hand and saying, “You know what? I don’t have this in this moment.”
I think because narcissists see themselves as needing to be perfect that they can’t reveal an uncertainty.
They don’t want to look like they’re unable. It’s all a sign of weakness, and if they show it, they look like they’re not the big, entitled idiots they actually are.
You’d be surprised just how much narcissists fumble their way through just so they don’t have to ask for help.
And if they look unsure and you ask if everything’s okay, they will almost insult you for even daring to ask.
The laughable thing is – it’s actually the strongest in our society who admit they need help. There’s no shame in it, and nothing wrong with it.
But try telling that to a narcissist, who only wants to lie their way through their own ‘capabilities.’
#4 “I’m Sorry”
For some, saying sorry is a big thing. Pride can get in the way, and humble pie needs to be sliced and served.
I understand that.
But that’s not the same as a narcissist, who refuses to utter the words because they never think they’re wrong.
If you do happen to hear it, it will be at a time where they want other people to see that they’re capable of saying sorry.
But get you on your own again? They will punish you for embarrassing them and take that apology back.
I think the world would be far more peaceful if we could all admit when we did something wrong, and say sorry for it.
Sorry not only shows that you have a care for another, it proves you’re mature enough to just take it on the chin and move on.
#5 “I Don’t Like Much About Myself”
The truth that no narcissist will care to admit. Think about how long it takes them to build a strong image for the public to see.
If they were to casually admit they didn’t like much about themselves, it would be one huge surprise.
Then again, it would be nice to hear them be so honest, wouldn’t it? That way you could listen to them and help them.
But wait! Narcissists don’t need help, and the honest realization should be that they really just want to keep their self-hatred a secret.
#6 “I Love The Drama”
If only we could all be warned about the level of drama the narcissist loves, then we wouldn’t be so inclined to fall for the bait.
I know in my own life, I’ve fallen into the trap of getting caught up in disagreements with narcissists.
It leaves you feeling drained, and it’s almost as if you were cornered and without choice.
Drama follows the narcissist because their life would be boring without it. They can’t just be.
To live a life in peace is just not acceptable nor possible, but if they were honest, they could admit that.
#7 “I Don’t Know How to Love”
Not one narcissist knows how to love. They don’t even love themselves, despite trying really hard to look like they do.
It’s like a barrier between them and the real world, but they’re happy to stand behind the screen and pretend.
If victims of narcissistic abuse knew that narcissists were so incapable, I know it’d save a lot of heartache.
#8 “Don’t Get Involved With Me”
What a warning! Please tell the whole world to stay away from you so you can all gather in your narcissistic group and stick together.
Leave the innocent to find true love.
Narcissists won’t be this honest. If they did, they’d never get to suck the life out of you the way they do.
They want you to head into your relationship with them blind so you can be charmed, lured and propelled into a lifetime of abuse.
Lucky for you, the red flags of a narcissist do exist, and if you’re knowledgeable enough, you will spot them.
