If you think narcissism dilutes with age, I strongly encourage you to think again.
It doesn’t. In fact, I would go as far to say that it only gets worse.
Narcissists in later life are impossible, and as youth becomes a distant memory for them, they become even more impossible than you could ever imagine.
This may spell trouble for you if you aren’t prepared, which is why I am here.
This is about you, and how you can cope with narcissists who are getting older by the day.
#1 The younger narcissist
A narcissist who has age on their side lives a life they never think will change or end.
They are indispensable, and make the most out of every feature their youth allows.
The ego is big, but so are the games they play. The younger narcissist is conniving and sharp, and they are acutely aware of the kind of person they want to trap and abuse.
Narcissists these ages are keen to manipulate and control, and they have the memory to be able to (mostly) execute this kind of character with ease.
#2 Everything on their side: everything to play for
What’s not to love? The younger a narcissist is, the more they have to play for.
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Everything is on their side, from their job opportunities, to their physical health.
There’s no messing around with them, and they let the whole world know exactly how powerful they think they are.
They love to keep their mind on the prize – which is the downfall of you – and work hard to achieve it.
They flirt, and those who receive their flirtations feel flattered by their obvious and overt charm.
They are down with the latest fads and technologies, making them more materialistic than you could ever imagine.
Narcissists who are younger in years are wiser in how they treat people. They have the potential to be very dangerous people.
#3 As ageing develops
Then ,the inevitable happens, as it does to all of us in life:
They get older.
As life creeps up on them and the years pass by, narcissists start to change. It’s the kind of image you’ve wanted to see for many years, but there’s a lot to be said for being patient and waiting for the right time.
Aging is the right time, and it starts to allow the narcissist to show up in different ways to how they usually might.
It’s the worst nightmare for the narcissist, who becomes aware that they’re losing a part of them they once relied on.
They are overtaken by a new generation of narcissists, and start to fade into the background. They’re not used to living this way, or being treated this way either.
This can cause much bitterness and resentment for the life they once had, and as they see it shrink, they struggle to know how to hold onto the control they once had.
Aging is a gift, but narcissists see it as a threat to their image. They lose track of things, they start to ache in places they didn’t know existed, and they see themselves as becoming weaker and weaker with each passing day.
What are their choices? They can’t turn the clock back and start again from their mid twenties.
They have to continue getting older, which means everything they’re feeling now only stands to feel much worse by the day.
#4 Behaviors later in life
Patterns never soften with age, if anything, they become harder, and more immovable.
This is down to years of avoiding any kind of accountability. I mean think about it, a person doesn’t just become more insightful overnight, and narcissists will never be that person.
You’ll notice they become more critical in older age, and generally more suspicious. Of what? Of you! Of everything you do and what you want from life.
Older narcissists will exude more need for control. Because they know full well this is something they’re actually losing more and more of each day.
The world stops feeding their ego. The world needs them less as they age, and with that, the narcissist will find it harder to keep hold of the mask that is slipping and slipping.
There’s no charm, because it has been replaced with bitterness and resentment that age is hitting them.
Patience of others tends to wear very thin, and instead of reflecting on all of this and perhaps redeeming themselves in some way, they double down.
Their frustration grows, and any blame they have that they want to dish out gets louder.
This is probably the largest amount of evidence you need to confirm that unexamined behavior just gets stronger and more solid over time.
#5 You? The bad guy?
It’s a narrative that won’t change, so why even bother pretending?
There are people in the narcissist’s life who will always be the villain. The narcissist will rewrite history to keep that theme alive.
You are so ungrateful.
You were never loyal.
You’re just so difficult.
What do these comments do? They prevent the narcissist from confronting their own faults; their own loneliness.
Think about it. If everybody else was the problem, then they would never have to face what’s really going on.
And so the story they tell themselves becomes their comfort, at the cost of their relationships with everybody else.
#6 The mask is harder to hold onto
As a narcissist starts to get older, their later life makes it harder for them to retain the energy to cling onto their mask.
There is a definite status shift in anybody who becomes less important or remembered in society, and the more age that’s added on, the less likely that person is to be in the same circles they once were.
Cracks appear, and the charm they once had that may have opened doors for them refuses to work.
I’ll hand it to society, they really do see through inconsistencies in a more efficient way when a narcissist is older.
It’s harder to see the good in a person if their real character is coming through more often.
Once upon a time, there may have been excuses made for them, but not likely as they age further.
That’s good news for you, who has waited a lifetime to be able to seek just a snippet of justice from all the abuse you’ve had to tolerate.
Guess whose insecurities scream even louder, knowing they are losing that depth of control?
You guessed it!
#7 The life of an older narcissist
While not every narcissist ends up alone, many relationships grow distant. The superficial layer is too obvious to ignore, and connections become more obligatory than wanted.
The aging narcissist may have people around them, but that doesn’t mean they have relationships that mean anything. People feel as though they should see them, rather than actually wanting to.
Later life is hard for the narcissist, even though they will never admit why.
It’s because they’ve spent their whole life chasing people away and treating them unfairly, that they’re beginning to see the consequences of that.
It was never going to be good, was it?
