Extremely Selfish Or Truly a Narcissist?

Q: How can you tell the difference between an individual who is extremely selfish, spoiled and acts child-like if he/she does not get his/her way vs. an individual who is truly a narcissist? I am referring to adults, not children.

A: An extremely selfish, spoiled, immature person might very well BE a narcissist or certainly have narcissistic traits. There is sometimes a blurred distinction between the end of selfish, immature behavior and the beginning of NPD. One of the major differences is empathy. Can the selfish, spoiled, immature person sometimes show genuine concern, feelings for another human being? Can he or she EVER put another person’s needs first (their own children’s needs for example)? A narcissist is incapable of feeling empathy for another. They can only see things from their own vantage point- how it affects or doesn’t affect them- they are not able to put themselves in someone else’s shoes. You might want to read “How to Identify a Narcissist” on this website.

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Alexander Burgemeester has a Master in Neuropsychology. He studied at the University of Amsterdam and has a bachelor's in Clinical Psychology. He devotes himself to writing important information about certain mental health topics like Narcissism and Relationship problems. He is the main author of all content on Thenarcissisticlife.com Want to know more? Read by author bio page.

2 thoughts on “Extremely Selfish Or Truly a Narcissist?”

  1. Hi Alex,

    I have good similarity of Narcassistic Life . I want to improve my behaviour and want to get rid of or minimise this , as its affecting my and my families life. Could you please guide me hat to do? I shall be great full to you for this.

  2. Extremely Selfish Or Truly a Narcissist?

    I will also add that some people with special physical, mental, or emotional needs are at great risk of being falsely accused of being narcissists. Some people need to be more selfish than others, just to survive. And everyone need to put themselves first.

    Also consider that true narcissists are masters of not seeming like narc’s, and will also falsely accuse others to take the blame off themselves.


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