Last Updated on October 11, 2022 by Alexander Burgemeester
Why did your ex disappear from social media? If you’ve recently gone through a breakup, you probably expected to continue seeing your ex’s activities on your social media feeds.
After all, if they’re interested in remaining friends or possibly getting back together later, they’d keep in touch, right?
But what’s confusing (and hurtful) is when your ex suddenly disappears from your feed.
Whether they’ve blocked you or they’ve just stopped posting altogether, it can be tough to figure out why your ex has decided to vanish into thin air. What’s going on?
Luckily, there are 10 possible explanations why your ex disappeared from social media. Read through them now, and you’ll better understand precisely why she decided to go dark from you.
10 Reasons Why Your Ex Disappeared From Social Media After The Breakup
We’ve all been there. You’re scrolling through your social media feed, and you see that your ex has left most, if not all, of their social media accounts. At first, you think it’s weird.
But then you wonder if they’re trying to move on. Let’s look at some reasons why your ex might have left social media.
#1: They’re trying to move on.
This is the first thing that comes to most people’s minds—their ex disappeared from social media because they wanted to move on.
For some people, social media is a constant reminder of the past. Every time they log on, they see pictures and posts from when they were still together with their exes.
And every time they see those reminders, it makes it much harder for them to move on.
So, by leaving social media, they’re trying to forget about the past and move on with their lives. It’s an understandable reason, so you shouldn’t feel too bad about it.
#2: They need some time away from everything.
After a breakup, sometimes people just need some time away from everything. And social media can be a big part of that everything.
Seeing pictures of happy couples and hearing about other people’s relationships can be challenging when you’re fresh out of one yourself.
So, by taking a break from social media, your ex is giving themselves some time away. By doing so, they may be giving themselves time to sort their negative feelings out.
And it might just be what they need to decide whether to get back with you, be friends, or never chat with you again.
#3: They’re trying to make you jealous.
If your ex was only on a social media site to communicate with you more easily, suddenly disappearing from social media may be their way of making you jealous.
Naturally, you’ll feel the urge to find them, track them down, and see what they’re up to now that you’re no longer dating.
Why would they want to make you jealous? The most likely reason is that they feel insulted by the breakup and think making you jealous will make them feel better.
Naturally, if your ex is willing to hurt you like this, they’re not worth pursuing. End the chase and move right on.
#4: They don’t want to see you happy.
If your ex left social media, it’s probably because they don’t want to see you anymore.
Seeing you posting pictures of you and your new partner or hearing about how happy you are in your new relationship may be too painful for them.
They’re trying to spare themselves from that pain by leaving social media.
#5: They feel guilty about what they did.
Did your ex leave social media because they felt guilty about breaking up with you? Here are some signs this might be the case:
- Their social media account is “deactivated.” If your ex just wants to take a break from social media, they should reactivate their accounts after a week. Meanwhile, if they felt guilty about the breakup, they won’t be back because they felt guilty about what they did.
- They make a new account with a different name. If your ex suddenly pops up on social media with a new account and name, they feel guilty about breaking up with you and don’t want you to find them. This is especially true if their new account is private and you can’t see any of their social media posts.
- They unfriended/unfollowed you (and everyone else). Suppose your ex suddenly unfriended or unfollowed you (and everyone else). In that case, it’s likely because they felt guilty about breaking up with you and didn’t want to be reminded of you every time they logged onto social media. They’re not disappearing from social media—they’re just out of reach.
- They block you. This one is self-explanatory: if your ex blocks you, it’s probably because they felt guilty about breaking up with you and didn’t want to have any contact with you, even on social media.
If you see any of these in your ex’s social media behavior, they likely feel bad about something they said or did.
#6: They’re embarrassed about the breakup.
If you notice that your ex’s account is no longer active, it might be because they were embarrassed by the split and didn’t want anyone to know about it.
If your gut is telling you that your ex’s reason has more to do with embarrassing photos of the two of you, then chances are you’re right.
This is usually the case when you have many mutual friends. Your ex may have created the expectation that you were perfect together and that it was only a matter of time before you tied the knot.
That your relationship ended is an embarrassment for her, so she decides to go into hiding.
Try not to take it personally; they’re probably just trying to move on as quickly as possible. It’s the most natural reaction to avoid being shamed.
#7: They want you to reach out to them first.
How can you tell if your ex left social media because they want you to chase them? Here are a few clues:
- Their account is set to private. If you find out your ex’s disappearing from social media was nothing more than them setting their account to private, it may be because they don’t want you snooping around. But if they’re still reachable via private message, that could mean they’re hoping you’ll take notice and reach out to them.
- They haven’t blocked you on other platforms. If you still have their number and they haven’t blocked you, it might be because they want you to reach out first. Why? Because by cutting off communication, they know it’ll probably make you curious about what they’re up to and why they’re not talking to you anymore. If this is the case, proceed with caution before reaching out—you don’t want to come across as desperate or clingy.
In a way, disappearing from social media is a win-win for your ex.
If you reach out to make amends, they win; if you don’t, they get the chance to move on, and they still win. So be careful if this is the case.
#8: They’re not ready to face their friends and family yet.
This is most likely the case when, after some snooping, you find out your ex hasn’t completely gotten off social media—but they’ve already deleted all traces of you from their social media profiles.
That’s because they don’t want people to know that you existed in the first place.
Suppose they’ve untagged all the happy pictures of you two together and deleted every mention of you from their posts.
In that case, they don’t want anyone asking them about you or the breakup. They most likely can’t deal with having to explain themselves to the people important to them.
And that’s totally understandable. Everyone deserves a little privacy after a breakup, even if it involves disappearing from social media.
#9: They’re trying to protect their privacy.
If your ex suddenly changed their privacy settings so that only their real friends can see what they’re posting, it’s probably because they don’t want you to see what they’re up to.
Could they be plotting revenge? Or are they trying to start a relationship with someone new and don’t want you complicating things?
Either way, their new beginning is none of your business, so it’s best to just let it go.
Meanwhile, suppose you discover they’ve also changed their privacy settings towards their friends and family.
In that case, they don’t want anyone to see what they’re up to. They don’t want people asking them questions about the breakup, which is understandable.
#10: They know you’re still keeping tabs on them, and they don’t want that anymore.
They know you’re stalking them on social media and don’t want to give you the satisfaction of seeing what they’re doing. And so, they unfriend or block you.
How do you know this is the case? First, look them up on a different browser or in incognito mode. If your ex’s social media pages are still hidden, that’s a good indication that they’ve blocked you.
You can also try searching for their name on various social media platforms. If their profiles come up, but you can’t view any of their content, that means they’ve made their account private or blocked you.
What Should You Do When Your Ex Disappeared From Social Media?
Let’s be honest; we’ve all done it. We’ve all gone through an ex’s social media to see if they’re still single, what they’re up to, and who they’re hanging out with. Your ex may also be doing that to you right now.
And while it may give us a temporary sense of satisfaction to see that they’re not doing as well as they are, it never really makes us feel any better in the long run. So why do we do it?
Well, there are a few reasons. First, when we see that our ex is jealous, it makes us feel good. It’s a way of getting back at them for hurting us.
Second, it’s a way of trying to get their attention. By making them jealous, we’re subconsciously trying to get them to realize what they’re missing out on and hopefully come running back to us.
And lastly, it’s a way of proving to ourselves that we are still attractive and desirable. After all, if our ex is jealous, it means that someone else finds us attractive enough to date or be in a relationship with.
Regardless of the reason, it’s important to remember that your ex’s disappearing from social media is ultimately their own business.
It doesn’t necessarily reflect how they feel about you personally. If you’re struggling to move on yourself, try unfollowing them so that you can stop torturing yourself and focus on healing instead.”
If you absolutely can’t resist the urge to check up on your ex, then try following these tips:
- Unfollow or unfriend them on all social media platforms. If you’re obsessing over your ex, it’s never healthy. Sometimes a brutal, fast intervention like this is the best thing you can do for yourself.
- Delete any happy pictures or videos of them from your own social media accounts. If you can’t bring yourself to leave social media, then at least delete all traces of your past relationship. You don’t need all these constant reminders of what you lost.
- Block them from being able to see your activity. If you feel they’re about to cause you some sort of trouble over the breakup, blocking them may stop them from doing so.
- Focus on healing yourself and moving on from the relationship. Let’s face it: you’re only obsessed with your ex because there’s no one around to replace them.
Focus on yourself, heal fast, stay connected with people, and gain new experiences. These will replace your ex in your mind, allowing you to move on truly.
After all, life’s too short to be stuck in the past, right?