Do Guys Notice When You Stop Texting Them?

Whether a guy notices if a female stops texting him will depend on whether you had texting banter, he’s thinking about taking things further, or he sees you as nothing more than a one-night stand.

Figuring men out is generally tricky when you haven’t defined the relationship status.

Whether you meet a guy at a bar, a friend, or work, those beginning stages are always exciting.

The butterflies in the stomach when he calls or texts, late-night conversations, and loads of passion. But out of nowhere, he suddenly stops contacting you.

You don’t know why and wonder if you’ve done something wrong. So now you’re thinking about whether you should stop texting him to see if he’ll notice. Before you do that, you need to know whether playing games will be worth your time. Keep reading to find out. 

Do Guys Notice When You Stop Texting Them?

The answer to this question is yes and no because it depends on several things, such as whether you had texting banter, he’s thinking about taking things further, or whether you were a one-night stand.

If you want to know whether guys notice when you stop texting them, keep reading. 

Do Guys Notice When You Stop Texting Them?

#1 You Had Texting Banter

Do you text each other often and have really good banter? In most cases, when you text him, he responds immediately with something cheeky.

This interaction sometimes goes on all day, and in the evening, you have a conversation elaborating on the text messages you’ve sent.

When you’ve got good texting banter with a guy, they will notice when you stop texting them. Whether he tries chasing you will depend on how he feels about you. 

#2 He’s Thinking About Taking Things Further

If you’ve been talking to a guy for a while, thinking about taking things to the next level, and you go ghost on him, he’ll want to know why. If he thinks you’re worth it, he’ll reach out to find out what’s happening.

He’s Thinking About Taking Things Further

At the end of the day, there could be any number of reasons why you stopped texting him. Maybe you lost your phone, you’re busy at work, or you’ve had a family emergency.

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If he’s mature and confident in who he is and really wants to get to know you better, he’ll contact you. If not, he’ll assume you’re playing hard to get and move on to the next. 

#3 You Were A One Night Stand

Did you get too excited and end up in bed with this guy, and now you’re worried he’s no longer interested? This could very well be the case.

Unfortunately, sleeping with a man too soon can ruin things, and women are notorious for making this mistake. He may lose respect for you and assume you give away the goodies to every man you’re attracted to.

You Were A One Night Stand

Or his desire to chase you disappeared after going to bed with you. If he only sees you as a one-night stand and doesn’t plan on taking things further, even on a friendship level, then no, he won’t notice when you stop texting him. 

#4 He Only Text You When He’s Bored

Maybe you met this guy when he was in between jobs, and his days were spent on the couch in front of the TV, so when you texted him, he texted back immediately because he didn’t have anything better to do.

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But now that he’s found a new job, and he’s busy again, you’re not someone he thinks about, and now that you’ve stopped texting him, he hasn’t noticed. 

#5 He’s Not Looking For A Relationship

Sometimes, you can meet a guy on a night out. You were both pretty drunk, had a bit of a kiss, and exchanged numbers.

You really like him, so you’re texting him all the time, and he’s just texting back to be polite. He probably can’t even remember what you look like.

He’s Not Looking For A Relationship

Since you’re always the initiator, you decide to stop texting him to see if he texts back, but he doesn’t. Unfortunately, there’s a high chance he won’t text you again because he wasn’t interested in taking things further in the first place.

So now you’ve stopped texting him. You’re no longer a figment of his imagination. 

#6 He’s Friend Zoned You

Maybe you’ve been on a couple of dates, he’s got to know you a bit better, and he’s decided you’re not for him. So instead of telling you how he feels, he just stops asking you out.

Now you’ve stopped texting him, hoping he’ll reach out, but you haven’t heard from him. That’s because he’s friend zoned you and no longer sees you as a potential girlfriend.

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Since he’s not interested in taking things further, it may not be that he hasn’t noticed you’ve stopped texting him, but he’s decided not to acknowledge it because he doesn’t want to give you the wrong impression. 

#7 Men Compartmentalize Their Lives

Men have a unique ability to compartmentalize their lives. In his brain, he has several compartments for his life, and one of them is you.

Even if he does like you, there will be times when he doesn’t think about you because he’s filed you away.

He’s Not Looking For A Relationship

So you may have stopped texting him for a few days, but he doesn’t realize you’ve stopped texting him because he’s focused on something else. 

#8 Depends How He Feels About You 

Whether a guy notices you’ve stopped texting him can also depend on how he feels about you.

Even if you haven’t discussed the nature of your relationship, but he can feel something brewing, he’ll notice when you stop texting him.

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If he’s not really into you and sees you as just another female, he’s been interacting with, even if he does notice you’ve stopped texting him, it won’t bother him. 

What Happens When You Stop Texting A Guy?

When you stop texting a guy, and he likes you, several things can happen, including he starts liking you, even more, he thinks you’re different from other females, he starts putting more effort into contacting you.

Keep reading to find out what happens when you stop texting a guy. 

What Happens When You Stop Texting A Guy?

#1 He Starts Liking You Even More

If a guy likes you, he’ll like you, even more, when you stop texting him. If he’s interested, but for whatever reason, he’s stopped arranging dates, there’s a reason for it.

He might be busy with work or with other social engagements, so he’s put you on the back burner for a while. You can’t be mad at him for this because you’ve just met, and you’re not in a serious relationship, so even though he likes you, you’re not his priority.

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But if you’re the one who always texts him first, and you stop, he’ll want to know why. His curiosity will cause him to like you even more. 

#2 He Thinks You’re Different To Other Females

When things start going stale at the beginning stages of dating, the average female gets desperate and clingy. They’ll start stalking the guy on social media by over-commenting on their posts, or they’ll send a text message saying something like, “I haven’t heard from you in a while.

He Thinks You’re Different To Other Females

I understand if you’re not interested anymore, just want to confirm so I know whether to move on.” Even if the guy did like the female, this type of behavior is off-putting, and he’ll lose respect for her.

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He’ll start thinking things like, “no wonder she’s been single for so long. She’s too needy.” So the minute you stop texting him and start acting like you don’t care, he’ll put you in a different category to the women he’s used to dating.

He’ll become intrigued by you and want to know what makes you tick. What is it if it’s not the deep desire to settle down and have children? 

#3 He Starts Putting More Effort Into Contacting You

Once he catches wind that you’re not some desperate, needy chick who can’t live without a man, he’ll step his game up.

He Starts Putting More Effort Into Contacting You

You’ve now become someone worth pursuing because, as mentioned, you’re not like other women, and because he doesn’t feel pressured or forced to be in a relationship with you, he’ll make more of an effort to contact you because he doesn’t want to risk losing you. 

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#4 He Will Move On

Some men simply don’t have the time to deal with issues like this. This is typically the case with high-value men. A man who earns six figures and above, has his life together, works on his goals, and is probably extremely busy.

His work is his life, and his life is his work. Therefore, whoever he meets must be comfortable with his lifestyle. It won’t take him long to figure this out either. He typically can’t deal with women who expect to spend much time with him because he has no time to spare.

He Will Move On

Also, he’s pretty experienced with women and understands that when a female stops texting, she’s speaking in code. High-value men want women who communicate well, so they don’t waste time running around in circles.

So, if you stop texting, he won’t flinch and will probably move on very quickly. 

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#5 Should I Stop Texting Him To Get His Attention?

No, if you’ve got to stop texting a guy to get his attention, he’s not worth your time. Men chase the women they want; if he’s not chasing you, he doesn’t want you.

It may not be because he’s a player or a bad guy. It just wasn’t meant to be. If he’s not giving you the same energy as you’re giving him, move on to the next.

The longer you hang onto a man who doesn’t want you, the longer it will take for the guy you are meant to be with to find you. 

What If You Stopped Texting And Haven’t Heard From Him Since?

If you’ve stopped texting a guy and he hasn’t made any effort to contact you, it’s safe to say he’s not interested. That might be a difficult pill to swallow, but it’s the reality of the situation.

When a man likes a woman, he will pursue her until he gets her. He doesn’t have time to play silly games like hard to get.

What If You Stopped Texting And Haven’t Heard From Him Since?

Most men know when they’ve found the right one because they can feel it. Men are known for being unemotional; however, they are fully aware of how they feel, and when a woman pulls on their heart strings, they know.

Even if he were busy and hadn’t responded immediately, he would let you know what’s going on, so you don’t worry.

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Men know when they’ve found a lady they like, other men are also interested, and if they don’t want to lose her to someone else, they know better than to play hard to get. 

Final Thought

Now that you know the answer to the question, “do guys notice when you stop texting them?” what you do with the information is up to you.

You can take the risk and stop texting him to see what happens, or you can hang around and wait. If he doesn’t text back, you know what time it is.

when he goes silent, go silent too, and if you don’t hear from him, pack your bags and move on.

It’s important to mention that when it comes to dating, you’ve got to follow the man’s lead. It’s like ballroom dancing, there’s a leader and a follower, and for the dance to flow, the woman must take the man’s lead.

Apply the same principle when you meet a guy. If he texts you, return the text. If not, don’t text him.

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In this way, you won’t waste time on men who are not serious. Unfortunately, many men will string you along and waste your time if you allow them to.

So, when he goes silent, go silent too, and if you don’t hear from him, pack your bags and move on. 

Last Updated on August 19, 2022 by Alexander Burgemeester

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Alexander Burgemeester

Alexander Burgemeester has a Master in Neuropsychology. He studied at the University of Amsterdam and has a bachelor's in Clinical Psychology. Want to know more?

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