Cruel Ways Narcissists Destroy Your Happiness

I mean, is there a nice way to destroy happiness?!

No!

There’s nothing nice about narcissists. The nice act is pretend – it’s not even close to real.

What you need to do is realize that this isn’t going to change – and those cruel ways they destroy your smile is how they will wear you down…

…Until there’s nothing left.

So what can you do?

Well, you can start right here!

Why Would They Do Such a Thing?

Why not?

It’s fun for the narcissist. They like to make you feel broken, because it somehow temporarily makes them feel as though they’re fixed.

Fixed from their insecurities and self-loathing.

Fixed from being so obviously toxic that they don’t have any true friends, or know what it’s like to love or be wholly happy. 

So it comes as no surprise that they don’t give a stuff about your happiness, and will do whatever they can to rip it up into tiny little pieces. 

If a person likes seeing other people happy, it means they have compassion. They care about what’s going on in their lives. What successes or good moments they’re experiencing. If you’re lucky, they might want to share it all with you.

They may even actively make you happy, as well as support you when outside influences do, too.

These people are who you need around you, not narcissists.

If happiness were a smoothie, they would suck the glass dry with the biggest straw they could find. 

The Human Battery

Imagine yourself as a cell phone. You’re charged to 100% and ready for the day. Showering and making breakfast takes 3%. Getting to work takes 5%. Before you know it, it’s the end of the day, and you’re left with 9%. 

You recharge, right?

Narcissists will hide your charger, and leave you to wake up the next morning with that ‘low battery’ sign. 

They will enjoy watching you struggle, and any happiness you receive that might charge you naturally is stolen before you even grasp it fully. 

That is why they are so toxic, and why you’re far better off without them. 

Destroying Your Happiness: The Invisible Conscience

Come on. You’d have to have zero conscience if you’re going to spend your time destroying other people the moment they assert a little happiness in their lives.

Whatever is going on that is an obvious cause for celebration ought to be marked that way. Destroying it tells you a lot more about the narcissist than it does you, but of course at the time, you’re just left with the feeling of being less than.

Like the rug has been pulled out from under you.

Narcissists don’t know what a conscience is. If they did, they wouldn’t care anyway. Instead, they live their lives free of caring how other people feel unless it benefits them greatly.

Remember – a narcissist isn’t going to overtly destroy anything in front of anybody else.

Criticizing You

Do you ever get the feeling that when you do something, you’re doing it wrong, even when there’s nobody around? Is it enough to make you think, “Why am I bothering doing this at all?”

You want it to be perfect, or it just feels like you’re failing at it.

If so, you’ve likely been heavily criticized in the past. That desperate need to just get it right. It’s almost a deeply ingrained belief that it’s all or nothing. You don’t want to let yourself or anybody else down in the process. 

Oh yeah, criticism will do that to a person, and it’s how narcissists rip at your happiness.

You’ve worked hard all day at cooking a special meal for the narcissist. They take a bite and look right at you…

What on earth do you call this, because it certainly isn’t food?!

That’s it. Right there. That moment they know you’ve poured your heart and soul into the food, and they can just dismiss it in a single second. 

You’ve decided to try to sell your paintings. As an artist, you’ve had so many compliments in the past.

Really? You want to sell these? They’re just splashes of color. What do they even mean?

That’s it, too. That is enough to make you store the painting and never want to see them again. If the narcissist is really clever, they’ll convince you that you’re no good, too. 

I’ll let you in on a little something:

You’re talented. You can cook. The narcissist can’t do either half as well as you, so they want to steal your light. 

Mocking You

Mocking can be done both in public or private. The narcissist is very good at reading the room, so if it’s in public, it’ll be just enough to get under your skin, while simultaneously going over the heads of those you’re with. 

They may even laugh along!

Have you ever been mocked, right when you’re having a lovely time, or feeling pretty good that particular day?

The room is filled with friends or family, and you say how much you love the latest dance show on TV. Suddenly the narcissist pipes up:

You should see her every Saturday like a 7 year old. “Oooh quick, we can’t miss it!” Then she starts trying to copy the dances. You all know how clumsy she is – I have to tape the ornaments down so she can’t knock them over!

Ha ha,,,,

People giggle as his act of impersonating you becomes his main 

Punishing You

What are they punishing you for? Having a good day?

They’ll do that by hiding your car keys and blaming you for losing them.

They’ll punish you by forgetting to tell you that your friend stopped by or called when they said they would.

They’ll make sure your new shirt is burned under the iron but blame you for keeping the setting too high when they ‘tried to do something nice for you.’

Think of the most sneaky ways somebody could bring you down, and then shine a magnifying glass over it. 

The Cutting Nature of Disinterest: Soon, There’s Nothing Left

A true destruction of happiness is apathy.

Narcissists have nothing to give when they feel the recipient is undeserving. 

Which is most of the time.

When you are screaming with happiness or excitement, and all you get in return is a confused frown, you’ll know that you haven’t got somebody who is happy to see you joyous. 

It immediately brings you down, and makes you feel guilty for even thinking you should celebrate whatever that ‘thing’ was. 

Soon enough, you’ll learn not to get excited by anything. It’s not that you even think the narcissist will deflate your happiness.

It’s that it’s not even worth feeling good, because you’re not worth it.