The Narcissist in Court

One of the most toxic people you will meet in family court is the narcissist. When it comes to a divorce case, the narcissist will often be pitted against a person with very low self-esteem. Narcissists are usually the cause of that low self-esteem as they have eroded their partner’s self image through a variety […] Read more »

The Narcissist Hates You

“I love to be hated and I hate to be loved.” Sam Vaknin, narcissist and author of “Malignant Self-Love: Narcissism Revisited”. That statement could be further expanded to say that a narcissist loves to be hated, hates to be loved, and also loves to hate. Who do they hate? They hate you. They hate you […] Read more »

The Narcissist HATES Being Ignored

Ignoring A Narcissist How does a narcissist tolerate ignoring i.e. treating them like they were invisible. Theoretically, a true narcissist can’t tolerate being ignored….by anyone. Usually, they will act out or do anything to focus that person’s attention back to themselves. One of the best ways to get a narcissist to leave you alone (eventually) […] Read more »

Narcissism And Empathy

Narcissism is a broad term that includes narcissistic traits on a continuum from “healthy with extreme self confidence” to the severe personality disorder known as Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Empathy involves the ability to put yourself in another person’s shoes; i.e., the ability to imagine yourself in their position and imagine how you would feel, […] Read more »

Female Narcissists

Are female narcissists different than male narcissists? Most narcissists (75%) are males and, in general, there are only minor differences between male and female narcissists. In the manifestation of their narcissism, female and male narcissists do tend to differ. They emphasize different things. Men are likely to emphasize intellect, power, aggression, money, or social status. […] Read more »

How to Deal With Your Narcissistic Boss?

If you frequently feel demeaned, undermined, over-looked or over-worked, harassed, or bullied at work you might be working for a narcissistic boss, supervisor or manager. They can be young or old, male or female. What makes them toxic is that they have little or no empathy or concern for others. They are self-centered and self-serving. […] Read more »

The Narcissist and Communication

The Narcissist and Communication? Perhaps it would have been more accurately titled The Narcissist and Their Lack of Communication. Narcissists are notorious for having one way communication…they do all the talking and none of the listening. Narcissists don’t talk or communicate; they fend off. They hide and evade and disguise. They lecture, badger and preach. […] Read more »

The Narcissist and Apology

Would a narcissist ever apologize? Yes. Would they ever be truly sorry? No. An apology is a process. You apologize, experience regret/guilt/empathy, find out what you can do to fix things, and then you don’t repeat the same mistake again. All of these are important parts of the process. Most important of all is acknowledging […] Read more »

The Narcissist in Old Age

“Do not go gentle into that good night, / Old age should burn and rave at close of day; / Rage, rage against the dying of the light.”  ~Dylan Thomas, “Do Not Go Gentle into that Good Night” “Everything is possible for you, because you have the only two things worth having…beauty and youth”                                      ~ […] Read more »