When a narcissistic relationship ends, it’s hard not to get out your critical lens and break everything that happened down. You’ve grown accustomed to viewing everything as being your fault, so why not this, right? On this occasion, yes, it’s important to reflect on what happened in your relationship, from start to finish. Grace your … Read more
They’ve got you! You’re in a place where you are desperate to respond to a narcissist. They’ve wronged you, or made yet another incorrect assumption – and it’s high time you did something. Except … you don’t know what to do. Your response will alter what happens next, so it needs to be right. It’s … Read more
Narcissists are incredibly astute characters. You think they don’t see everything, but they do. They see you. They have a way of knowing you that makes you wonder if they’re actually psychic. They seem to have the gift of reminding you exactly what makes you feel so insecure. They also love watching you react to … Read more
There are three people in a narcissistic relationship. There’s you. There’s the narcissist. Then there’s the narcissist’s mask. Who they pretend to be for the outsiders. And I know. It feels like an injustice to you because everybody only gets to see the masked version, right? It’s an injustice because you have to tolerate all … Read more
Before I delve in, let me declare one important thing: Vulnerabilities are not weaknesses. Narcissists see them as such, who believe the only way to behave is to be perfect, tough and never wrong. Their attitude towards their vulnerabilities starkly contrasts with how you feel about yours. I want to get into the difference between, … Read more
Not a single person ever wants to purposely devalue ourselves. If I said to you today, “You must keep quiet whenever you experience any kind of abuse. Don’t tell anybody. They won’t care” – what first comes to mind? Is it: Actually, I refuse to keep quiet. I will speak the truth. I understand that … Read more
Narcissists are well known for betraying trust and hiding their deceptive acts from you. It’s what they do. They don’t care about you enough to treat you well, and that’s what people tend to struggle with. Why do they tell me they love me, then treat me so terribly? What am I doing wrong? Who … Read more
So the hoover has officially been switched on (again?!). You feel that pull, and you can’ stop yourself getting swept up in their gravitational power. The narcissist is getting you back. Your withdrawal has given them little option but to engage with you in a way that lures you back to them. You know in … Read more
Narcissists behave in ways that are abusive, insidious, unacceptable and toxic. They don’t care about your feelings, and the less you respond to their abuse, the more they will bully you. Part of the reason why their behavior can appear so normalized is due to how much of a show they put on in the … Read more
Toxic behavior goes hand in hand with every single narcissistic personality. It’s what they exude. It’s how they survive. And you might think, “Well, they aren’t all bad.” But you’re wrong. Even when they’re acting appropriately, there will be consequences. And you will learn how and why they act that way. But… How do they … Read more