Q: Can a Narcissistic get that jealous of a family pet an potentially hurt it? If the stories are odd about his ex (kids mother) alarm bells are ringing about his ex issues is it worth talking to her to get closure or ignoring it?
A: Yes, a narcissist can get jealous of a family pet. But hurt/kill pets? That is sadistic, as is much of his behavior toward you. You say you are in a No-Win situation…I say you are in a Lose- Lose situation. And you need to lose him- quick! Before he harms you or your children. He seems to enjoy hurting you emotionally and mentally…leave him before it becomes physical, too. People who can so easily injure/kill beloved pets often move on to the significant humans in their lives. Whether he is labeled a narcissist, s****t, sadistic narcissist, sociopath or psychopath–the name is irrelevant, but his malignant, dangerous, punishing behavior is something to be afraid of. Don’t walk away- run! I understand it is not easy to leave someone you love, but he does NOT love you back. Narcissists are incapable of love or genuine intimacy. They will not, and can not, ever put your needs first even when you really, really need them (example: the hospital incident).
Please read,”The Sadistic Narcissist” on this website. I do hope that you are serious when you say you have had enough because you have put in your all and got nothing back–this will not change. He can not ever put in his “all” as this is something he does not possess– he has no “all”–the best he can give you is false romance, empty words and charm which he can only give in the beginning of a relationship and when you threaten to leave. As for pursuing ” his ex-wife’s issues”, what is the point? You know he is abusive, paranoid, probably lies, and is only concerned with his own needs- she would simply confirm what you already know. Please ignore it, put it behind you and get away from this toxic and emotionally abusive relationship. Now.