Alexander Burgemeester
There’s usually a honeymoon period at the beginning of any new relationship. A time when the two of you are head-over-heels in love and flooded with happy endorphins. If your partner is always available for you, continuously showering you with affection and gifts and making great promises for the future, you have every right to … Read more
A narcissistic stare is so intense and penetrating that it seems to consume all the attention and energy in its path. It draws you into the Narcissist’s world, leaving you floundering in a mire of self-obsession and manipulation. Behind those penetrative eyes is an insatiable need for dominance, control, and admiration. A narcissist uses eye … Read more
A breakup usually signals the end of a relationship, but not when you break up with a narcissist. Even if you stop all contact, a narcissist will persistently seek new ways to get your attention. Even if they dumped you, they wouldn’t let you move on because they can’t bear to have their narcissistic supply … Read more
Even though someone may not engage in this behavior consciously, unintentional gaslighting is real. It refers to denying, dismissing, or distorting someone’s sense of reality. It can be considered emotional or psychological abuse. Anyone can become an unintentional gaslighter- even a white lie or strong exaggeration may fall under this category. But when someone constantly gaslights- even … Read more
Getting a narcissist to leave you alone can be one of the most complex parts of managing narcissistic abuse. You may have tried many different strategies, but narcissists are persistent and relentless regarding having control. Sometimes, rather than dealing with their drama, giving them what they want feels easier than standing up for yourself. Getting … Read more
Dealing with a narcissistic mother-in-law can be exhausting and potentially damaging to your marriage and mental health. Any mother-in-law can be difficult, but a narcissistic one can be downright destructive. She’ll manipulate, gaslight, bully, and take advantage of you. She’ll also undermine you, taking every opportunity to make you look bad in your spouse’s eyes. … Read more
Being in a relationship with a narcissist is traumatic and destroys your self-esteem. Discarding a narcissist isn’t easy, but it is necessary to survive the trauma and reestablish your sense of worth. If you’re thinking about discarding the narcissist in your life, you’re probably worried about how they’ll react, and rightly so. Dumping a narcissist … Read more
Narcissists can intentionally or unintentionally trick therapists, as they are used to masking their emotions and putting on a facade to impress others. They can present as a victim to gain empathy from therapists. They might also downplay or lie about how they treat others. In family or couples therapy, people often note that the … Read more
How to ignore a Narcissist? For something that seems so simple (just don’t talk to them!), it can feel incredibly complex. That’s because narcissists rely on manipulation tactics like gaslighting to convince others they’re the problem. They don’t respond to being ignored favorably, as it threatens their sense of power and control. So when you … Read more
Narcissists generally dislike spending too much time alone. They crave attention from others because it provides them with validation. But they can also be introverted and enjoy their own solitude. Whether they want to be alone at a given moment varies based on their mood, desires, and current connections to others. Keep in mind they … Read more