Narcissists – they make the world go round. Or at least, that’s what they believe. Narcissism is very real and it’s even more prevalent now that social media is front and center in many of our lives.
If you look at your social media wall, you’ll find many signs of narcissism stemming from males and females young and old.
Everyone’s the center of attention on Facebook and Twitter, but who’s really narcissistic and who’s just prideful?
Even more pressing, are you a narcissist? In this quick guide, we’ll go over narcissism and the telltale signs you can find on your own social media account.
By the end, you should be able to answer the question, “Are you a narcissist?” the next time a friend or family member asks.
What is a Narcissist?
Maybe you heard the term narcissism used by friends and in the media. Most have a general idea of what it entails. For instance, being overly self-absorbed and self-deserving.
Some people have moments of narcissism, while others are like this day in and day out.
In a nutshell, narcissism is a personality disorder that’s associated with individuals who are overly vain and have high egos and pathological grandiosity.
About 6% of the American population has narcissistic personality disorder. However, there are a lot more people who just fall short of the criteria used to diagnose narcissists.
And we can imagine how many go undiagnosed because of their narcissistic behavior. It’s difficult to convince a narcissist they have any problem (let alone a mental disorder).
The Relation Between Social Media and Narcissists
Research shows that there’s definitely a correlation between narcissists and their social media activity. For example, narcissism is higher when a user has a lot of followers and many photos.
It’s also common for narcissists to spend a lot of time on their social media accounts. In another study, it shows teens that use Facebook often have more narcissistic signs.
This isn’t something that is restricted by age – both the younger and older generations are affected by social media activity.
This is because social media acts as a platform for narcissists to self-promote and get attention.
Now, we have to answer, “Are you a narcissist?” Your social media activity is the key to finding out. The warning signs are seen in your online and offline life. But social media does a pretty good job of capturing it.
Let’s move on.
So Are You a Narcissist? Here’s How You Can Tell
There are many different warning signs that determine whether you’re a narcissist or not. You can go through your social media account to see if you witness any of the following red flags.
An Abundance of Photos
The first place you want to visit is your photo section. Narcissists care a lot about their photos. This means they tend to take photos that are pre-planned and flashy. For example, you may always have on makeup, expensive clothing or be at a lavish destination.
Your photos help paint a particular picture that’s normally unrealistic. If you don’t have any images of yourself at home in casual wear, then this may be an indicator.
Female narcissists tend to have lots of photos that grab attention. For example, showing off cleavage or other body parts more so than others.
Male narcissists tend to wear clothing that associates with their perceived social status. For example, wearing expensive watches, shoes, and suits. It’s also not likely for these men to wear sunglasses.
The rise of selfies (thanks to selfie-sticks) also plays a role in narcissism. Everyone takes selfies, but not as many and as frequently as a narcissist. Plus, they tend to edit their images to look better and more unique.
Never-Ending List of Followers and Friends
Another sign of narcissism is having a large following and friends list. There’s never enough people to see the photos and comments you post – the more the merrier.
As a narcissist, you’re more willing to accept friends, even if you don’t know them. In a sense, your number of followers and friends is an achievement or trophy.
High-Frequency of Posts
You barely go a day without making a post about yourself, your situation or your thoughts. It’s common for narcissists to have a higher frequency of posts than others.
Look to see if your posts contain a lot of words like “I,” “me,” and “my.” There’s also evidence that narcissists use a lot of profane words to express their anger or negative emotions.
Which Platforms Do Narcissists Prefer?
Another way to answer, “Are you a narcissist?” is to look at the social media platform you use. For example, there are more narcissistic people using Twitter than Facebook.
This is likely because of how Twitter encourages frequent posting. Plus, it’s easier and more acceptable to accumulate a large following. In other words, shallow, non-reciprocal relationships.
However, we can’t overlook Facebook as another preferred platform. It too allows users to embellish their personal lives with photos, posts, and videos.
It also allows users more self-promotion, such as selecting the movies, artists, and hobbies you enjoy.
If You’re a Narcissist, Get Help
All of this information is helpful in identifying whether you’re a narcissist or not. However, there are other ways you can tell as well.
Narcissism doesn’t turn off and on, it’s always there. This means you can see it in your everyday life. And it’s how most people determine if someone is a narcissist.
Here are some of the warning signs:
- You’re very competitive (with no bounds)
- You hold on to grudges (forever)
- You give unsolicited advice (often)
- You can be very charming (to get your way)
- It’s never your fault (no sincere apologies)
If you notice any of the above signs of narcissism, then you can go to a therapist for a proper diagnosis. This disorder can negatively affect your life and those around you, so seek help right away.
You can learn more about narcissism by visiting The Narcissistic Life. Stop by today to read tips for dealing with narcissism.