Dynamics work to the point when narcissists act like narcissists, and empaths act like empaths.
These two kinds of people bring out the worst in each other, but somehow, they both need each other to be the exact way they are.
When an empath feels broken, it can spell trouble for the narcissist.
Gone are the usual traits that the narcissist takes advantage of, replaced by several ‘problems’ they then have.
This is why the broken empath is the worst nightmare for the narcissist.
#1 Physical symptoms equal very little patience from the narcissist
When an empath feels broken, often that feeling is aligned with physical symptoms that occur within them.
Take feeling totally fatigued, for example. Every limb feels heavy and ached, like they’ve just run a marathon.
They haven’t, they’ve just been around toxic people for far too long, and it has drained them of all life.
On a regular basis, it will start to have a physical effect on an empath, and that’s just the tip of the iceberg.
This can be the worst nightmare of a narcissist because – well – when was the last time you met a narcissist with any patience?
They don’t have it when it comes to other people feeling down, unwell, or at the point of mental or physical break.
Now they have this person, this lump, to put up with. It should be easy if you are compassionate, but we all know narcissists possess none of that.
#2 Narcissists can be seen as ‘the fault behind the break’
Panic sets in when an empath feels broken, and that panic is usually set firmly in the narcissist’s mind.
What if people suspect it’s me who was the cause of this?
What will they think?
How can I make it better so that I look good again?
These questions are never about the person who is broken, instead they revolve around how to save face.
So they’re left with a dilemma, and that is where you can see them rush around trying to protect their image, and finding the whole thing a nightmare.
Wouldn’t it be lovely if, rather than having to ignite damage control, that narcissist would just be decent people who weren’t a toxic threat to the mental health of the innocent?
The world would certainly be a better place, that’s for sure.
#3 They ‘ask for too much’
When broken, empaths don’t necessarily outright ask for things, but their mental exhaustion and rock bottom is an indicator that they’re asking for some support.
Even the most basic amount of support is too much for a narcissist.
This would involve them stopping putting themselves first for a while and prioritizing the person who is in evident need of a shoulder to lean on.
If you’re with somebody, or you love them as a friend or family member, this should go without saying, right?
It’s not like that with narcissists. They wouldn’t even hesitate to throw their own kids into the ring of fire if it meant saving their own repudiation.
That’s why none of them should ever be trusted, and why being broken – which can happen to us all at times – is not a situation they consider ideal, or happy to deal with.
And yeah, in case you were wondering, these people can shame and guilt the empath even when they’re broken.
Huge red flag.
#4 Empaths can be easily distracted
Empaths are known to walk into a room and immediately pick up on the energy inside of it.
They are constantly at war with how deeply they feel, and it can become a huge distraction for them.
Imagine a narcissist and an empath going out for the night, and the narcissist wants everybody’s eye on them and their ego.
They don’t care who feels what or why, they just know they feel they deserve all the attention.
A broken empath will usually feel even more than usual, because they’ve got to a point where they are struggling to contain it all, and taking everyone’s problems on as if they are their own.
This is hard for the narcissist who is basically at this point stomping their feet looking for attention.
The empath is distracted by their own energetic field, and they will have less time to entertain the narcissist the way they usually might.
That’s where things can get tricky for them, and where the narcissist usually finds themselves living and breathing a nightmare.
Hey, would it hurt for them to stop and say, “Is everything okay?” to the empath?
No, but in the eyes of the narcissist, it would hurt like standing on a million needles.
#5 The love of the pets or kids outweighs the love of the narcissist
Empaths are strongly drawn to animals and children due to their innocence and abundance of energy and joy.
I don’t blame them in that respect. Animals are known and proven to be therapeutic, as are kids, and empaths are always looking for that break from the real world.
So their love, as much as they would hate to hurt anybody’s feelings, is bigger for the more innocent beings out there.
Try telling that to a narcissist, who is really not going to be happy to hear or witness or experience that, because broken empaths will turn even more to what they’re drawn to.
The comfort of a lap cat, or walking a dog, visiting an animal shelter, or even picking up that snail on the street as they’re out for a walk will all interrupt the narcissists’ day and cause them to roll their eyes.
The more broken the empath, the more they will lean into wanting to save and be comforted by what they already love much more.
For that reason, the narcissist will never win.
#6 Leaning into creativity can take attention off the narcissist
Empaths are known to be a creative bunch of people, and I think that can really rile and undermine the narcissist.
If a person can pick up a creative outlet such as learning an instrument with ease, or writing a book or a song, then the narcissist will experience first-hand what true jealousy looks like.
And what is the empath doing if they’re painting that vase, or playing the piano, or are fully concentrated on chapter five of their latest masterpiece?
They’re not paying any attention to the narcissist!
Look at me!
Why can’t you just talk to me for a little while?
I didn’t realize this was so important to you.
What about me?
Like a fully overgrown child, the narcissist will stomp and sulk when they aren’t getting any attention.
When an empath feels broken, they’re far more likely to do that more and more, which will make it even more impossible for the narcissist to stay calm and of sound mind.
Nightmare mode is activated, and when it is, the narcissist will panic, feel a level of fear that they can’t compete with, and prove to the world that they really can’t live among people, they have to live above them.
What a sad world for the narcissist.
