Empaths don’t even realize they’re doing it, but by their very tuned in, sensitive, all-feeling nature, they torture all narcissists.
I don’t know how comfortable they would feel knowing they make a negative impact on anybody, but I think if you’re going to do it, do it by being 100% yourself, right?
This is where the fun part comes in; learning exactly what it is empaths possess that pains a narcissist.
These 9 ways will open up your eyes to just how toxic narcissists truly are.
#1 They have the kindness by nature the narcissist longs for
Well, in fact, they are right at the maximum end of kindness that any person can possibly get.
Ask any empath, and they probably won’t fully like that at times because they give so much to people so much of the time.
The first thing we absolutely have to address is the kindness scale. Where do empaths sit on it?
Now let’s look at narcissists, because where they sit on the kindness scale is right up the other end.
The non-existent end.
There is no kindness in their body, but I will give you this snippet for free:
They really wish they could be even a fraction as kind as the average empath. They want to care, so people think they’re genuine.
What a shame, eh?…
#2 People naturally trust them
Trust is born from those who earn it, and empaths have a really good way of earning it without even trying.
That’s because you can share news with them, tell them a secret, or ask for support, and empaths in exchange will give their time, love and understanding.
They don’t spread gossip, and they don’t spill the beans.Instead, they hold whatever they were trusted with, building that very thing between them and the other person.
When trust becomes so natural, a narcissist sees that person through envious eyes.
I wish I could be like you.
I wish people would trust me so naturally.
This isn’t because they want to be good people, it’s because they want to appear to be, and to get all the gossip first-hand.
#3 Empaths know how to be authentic
Authenticity is the empath’s middle name. Being born this way makes it really hard to be anything other than, and this is the real beauty of a person who is so themselves and comfortable with being so.
A narcissist struggles to even know what that might look like.
Be myself? Then everyone would hate me!
And so they pretend. And it’s a challenge. And they have to fake so much just to look like half-decent humans.
When an empath’s authenticity upstages the narcissist’s desperate acts, you know you’re going to witness what it looks like for them to be really intimidated by good.
#4 They have the emotional maturity upper hand
Empaths are so tuned in to the emotions of others, they have to have not just emotional maturity, but complex emotional maturity.
They feel what others may feel, and they feel it hard. This can prove exhausting for the empath, but the truth is, it’s there, and it exists.
A narcissist would love to have emotional maturity, but instead they resort to raging at their victims, giving them the silent treatment, and attacking their victim’s every move and passion. They criticize, mock, slander and smear.
These are signs of a person who has no level of maturity where emotions are concerned, and no matter how old they get, they never will, either.
#5 Compassion is incredibly frustrating to the narcissist
Your compassion is natural, and you were born with it. This type of trait cannot be bought, and cannot be pretended.
You can’t fake care and concern, or the desire and drive to care about other people, it’s just either something you have, or something you don’t.
Imagine how frustrating you are because of that to the narcissist.
Remember, these are toxic goblins who have to falsify their compassion just to make it look like they’re good people.
They do it for show; for the kind of attention that others can smile at and say, “Wow, they’re such a kind person.”
#6 Jealousy seeps through the narcissist’s veins
Jealously, downright jealousy. I can’t call it envy, because natural envy of certain people or situations is such a relatable feeling in life.
But real envy drives another person to be better, or inspires them to start forging their own path in life.
Jealousy is riddled with negativity, and only really comes about in the people who are drained to be around, you know, the energy vampires that are narcissists.
Their life is so hard that they can’t possibly be happy for another person. And that is where they put the empath.
Everything they do and have and feel, brings out that jealous streak.
#7 Empaths love nature
Nature is what brings out an empath and makes them be more aligned and at ease with the world.
It is the balance of the busy, everyday life that can feel overwhelming and stressful, and helps those who feel too much, feel comforted.
Try telling that to a narcissist, who stares blankly at anybody who looks out into the horizon at the beach and wonders at the awe of the beauty the world has to offer.
I just don’t get your obsession with a bit of water.
Nope. Don’t let their frustration and torture at your good character weigh you down.
#8 Creativity is off the charts
What could be more torturing to a person who wants to be the best at everything than watching the empath sail through their creative endeavors?
This isn’t just a slight skill, empaths are known and famous for being fantastically skilled at something creative.
That might be writing, art, sculpting, pottery, playing an instrument, or anything that involves using their wide, endless and deep imagination.
I’d say an empath’s creativity is off the charts’ which is quite the opposite to that of a narcissist.
They don’t know the first thing about being creative, and see any kind of outlet to that description as pathetic and a waste of time.
That’s not because it is, but because they simply don’t know how to deal with it.
They don’t like not being good at something, so it’s easier to dismiss it as ridiculous.
I’d say that was torturous, wouldn’t you?
#9 Narcissists hate that you can enjoy time alone
I can’t understand why you want to stay in and not go to all these places.
I’d say empaths can understand it. And that’s probably due to the fact that they’re comfortable in their own skin, and like to take time out and reflect, relax and just be from time to time.
Not to mention the fact that this is something empaths genuinely need, with everything thrown at them that they absorb in the world.
Narcissists can’t do that. Being alone gives them time to hate themselves that little bit more.
It gives them the time to overthink, feel paranoid, and sit with the reality that they’re lonely and bitter.
But trust me, underneath it all, they’d love to be able to do what empaths do.
