A narcissist is happy until they’re not, and the two moods can occur within seconds of each other.
If you look closely, you’ll see how much you can piss them off the happier you are.
You’re successful. You’re joyous. You slept well. You have friends. You got that promotion. YOu stood up for yourself.
Whatever you do that’s good for you, will be terrible for the narcissist.
Here are 9 solid things to piss them off to get you started.
#1 “You Know, You Are Not Even That Special”
If you are brave enough to tell a narcissist that they aren’t as special as they’d like to think they are, you would be successful in cutting right through their overly-inflated self-image.
This is an image that isn’t real, but has been made to look like it. It’s been maintained over so many years by the narcissist, to the point where they’ve almost convinced themselves that they’re this wonderful person.
If it weren’t for the fact that they go to bed each night hating themselves, it would all be true.
Nevertheless, their belief is practiced every day as they act like every single person exists beneath them.
You can take all of that away with just a few choice words, and if you do, I promise it will be one of the most powerful things you can do for yourself. Just don’t expect a happy response!
#2 “I Do Not Have Time to Listen to You Brag”
Why should you give the narcissist any time at all? They don’t deserve it, and if you remind them that you’re not around to appease them, they will hate it.
What you’re doing here is flipping the whole script back to them. Usually, they’d be the ones who wouldn’t give you the time of day, but as it stands, it’s now your turn to tell them that you aren’t their audience, and you do have a life.
You’re walking out on their performance. Can you imagine how crushing that would be to the narcissist?
You don’t need to say anything else after this. This is your mic drop moment.
#3 “You Should Start Considering Everybody Else’s Feelings”
They should, but will they? Still, it never hurts to say it, and say it you should!
If you really want to piss them off, this phrase is perfect because narcissists don’t consider anybody. If you’re waiting for it, you’ll only be disappointed.
You have to be firm in your words, and when you tell them to be more considerate, you’re challenging a belief that’s so ingrained in them that only their feelings carry any weight attached.
So come on! Say it like you mean it. Go forth and be your own kind of person. Holding your ground this way will show them that you’re no longer a person to be messed with.
#4 “Actions Have Consequences”
It never hurts to remind a narcissist that their actions affect people around them. It’s the truth, and you’re speaking it, but here’s the thing…
…Narcissists already know they’re hurting people. They just choose to deliberately ignore the fact that they’re being so cruel.
Of course, you remind them of this, and they will throw a surprise, almost shocked stare right back at you.
What do you mean?
What are you talking about?
How dare you?
Same old!
Don’t be fooled here. You’ve caught them, and like a deer in headlights, they simply do not know how to respond in a way that they know will wriggle them out of the hole you’ve thrown them into.
#5 “The Constant Attention You Need Is Exhausting”
You do end up pouring a lot of your time and energy into narcissists when you’re around them a lot. Their constant need to be the center of the universe means you have to feed them that desire for them to know it’s true.
So what happens to you? You end up giving everything you’ve got and sacrificing your own wellbeing as a result.
You don’t need that, so stop. Telling them directly like this will be a long overdue statement, and honestly, they aren’t going to love hearing it.
That doesn’t mean you should stay silent.
#6 “I Refuse to Be Manipulated by You”
Yes! Speak your truth! This is so powerful, and it calls to end all games they’re playing.
Moreso, it informs the narcissist that you’re so done with everything. You’ve tolerated it and tolerated it, and you’re not saying no more.
This is where you really claim your power back, and you can do it. Narcissistic abuse will leave you feeling weak, but that doesn’t mean you are weak. This is a clear message: stop messing with me.
The toxic tangle the narcissist has pulled you into is now being burned down.
Saying this will tell them that you are finished – and so are they. It’s also a huge stepping stone toward your long overdue healing journey.
There’s no question here. You’re not a pushover any more, and all the times you have felt a pin from the narcissist, you’re now breaking free and starting to live life on your terms.
It ends today.
Yes, that kind of message will shake up the narcissist, then really piss them off. So what? They deserve it.
#7 “I Am Not Interested”
Ouch. What a way to hit the narcissist where it hurts. Telling them outright that you aren’t interested will dent their self-esteem and crack their ego in half.
In truth, you’re not interested. You used to be, but where did that get you? Nowhere at all.
So now it’s your time to tell them that you aren’t interested in any games they’ve got going on, or in any kind of lies they want to try to convince you are true.
You’re done.
#8 “You Are Trying to Gaslight Me Again”
Oh, you’ve learned, and you’re not letting their actions and abuse bypass you any more.
You spot when the narcissist is trying to gaslight you, but additionally, you’re letting them know that you know their tricks.
It’s simple for you, and complicated for them. It means they can’t gaslight you at all now, because you are wise to it.
It’s satisfying to be in that position. A person can fundamentally change over time with gaslighting, but you?
You’re just about getting ready to let them know they can’t have access to your memories any more.
Those are just for you.
#9 “This Charm You Are Trying to Keep Alive Will Not Work With Me”
You fell for it initially, but now you’re over the charm. You see it for what it is: fake any actually rather annoying.
You’re almost a little annoyed with yourself for falling for it, but you should cut the slack because most people don’t see charm as bad.
It’s only with time and experience you learn that narcissistic charm is the preface to pain. Once it’s clear in your mind that you fell for an act, you can go on and move along from it. Yes, you’ll leave the narcissist pissed off, but so what?
They can go and find somebody else to charm, because you’re done!
