Money is everything to a narcissist, and when they steal, they take without conscience or guilt.
When it comes to you, I’m sure there are things the narcissist in your life has taken from you that money simply cannot replace.
If any of these are relevant to you, I call on you today to think about what their theft has done to you, and how much as a result you have suffered.
The worst 11 things they steal are here right now. Do any resonate, I wonder?
#1 The love you had for yourself
Where did it go? You might ask this on a regular basis, or if you’re still grappling with the dark reality of what abuse does to a person, you may not yet even realize the changes you’ve been through as a person.
When a toxic person has the chance to take the good from a person, they do it so subtly that you probably won’t even notice it in real time.
It’s only when a large enough portion has disappeared that you stand back and think, “My goodness. I’ve changed.”
No money can replace that.
The love we all possess the potential to feel for ourselves is what helps define us as people.
Without it, we are at the mercy of the abuse and manipulation of everybody else, and who they want us to be.
Don’t let that happen to you.
#2 Your time
Time is a hard one to grapple with, and many victims of narcissistic abuse do struggle knowing they can’t get that precious time back they spent waiting and hoping to be loved and appreciated.
Time keeps moving. It won’t stand still for you to grieve, have a wobble, understand, or heal.
But the beauty about that is, as soon as you realize the extent of your abuse, time is the gift you have for what comes next.
You still have it, even when you look back and see how much of it you spent on them.
You can’t replace it, but you can get more of it for your future.
#3 The confidence that was stripped
When I say stripped, I mean really pulled apart. To the point where you wonder who that person used to be, who would grab opportunities, or say yes, or not think twice about putting yourself out there to achieve and succeed in life, even in the smallest ways.
Narcissists take all you have without a second thought. When they take what you have, they leave you with nothing but their opinions of you.
Over time, you start to believe them because they leave you with nothing else to hold on to.
Stealing your confidence helps them be able to control you more. You won’t have the self-assurance to argue what they tell you, so you succumb to it, believe it, trust their words, and as a result, fall apart over time.
#4 Your credit score
A little curveball in the middle of it all, but narcissists are also great at stealing money from their victims, to the point where their credit score can be heavily affected.
You’ll be lucky if you can repair that over time, if at all. Borrowing money, using your cards, using your name to finance cars or laptops; narcissists will use you if they see a good financial reason to, and it can get so messy.
This happens all too frequently, and is something to really keep your eyes open to. Protect yourselves.
#5 Your innocence
It’s the innocent who are led blindly into abusive relationships. They don’t want to land an abuser, they want to land a soulmate.
When that abused advertises themself as that soulmate, this is when trouble really can start to brew.
Taking your innocence like this and showing you that people can be cruel and hurtful, even the ones who say they love you, is a stark wake up call nobody should have.
There’s no amount of money in the world that can erase the doings of a narcissist, and unfortunately that means you lose a little of your innocence forever.
#6 Your happiness
I mean, what victim doesn’t have their happiness taken from them, right?
Like a thief in the night, the narcissist will not hesitate in destroying all your good memories, or opportunities to make even more in your future.
All the while you are loyal to them, they will be deceptive to you. It’s not a show that will stop unless you put your foot down, apply some boundaries and tell yourself that you deserve so much better.
Never ever compromise on your happiness. If you feel it slipping away, the first thing you need to do is look around you at the company you keep.
It will tell you everything that you need to know.
#7 The idea that love is genuine
This one hurts like a searing pain to the heart, but I hope it doesn’t last forever in the minds of victims of abuse.
What I really want to get across is that the experience you have with a narcissist is not love.
You might think it is, and you may look back and say, “I really loved that person.” You didn’t.
You were trauma bonded from the moment you met. It was made to feel like love because it was so good, and so intense.
It was not.
But genuine love does exist. It’s out there, and there are plenty of emotionally healthy people ready to look after you and support you and inspire you.
In time, you will understand that, but you will always be on the lookout for those who can take advantage.
#8 The joy you get from hobbies
Hobbies are so personal to each and every one of us, aren’t they? I love how we can dive into whatever pastime we want and get creative, or bake, or just let ourselves run free for a little while in our inner joy.
When a narcissist sees you happily doing something, their first mission will be to put a stop to it. Mark my words, it will be anything and everything you love, until there’s nothing left.
But it’s what goes on underneath that, that’s really toxic.
Really? I can’t believe somebody your age loves this.
Are you kidding? This is how you waste time?
It’s like you should be ashamed, guilty even, for liking something.
#9 Relationships with family or friends
Relationships change for good when a narcissist meddles. Even if eventually down the line you do come together again as friends or family, you will never get back that time you weren’t talking because of the narcissist.
They love to steal your most personal or close relationships because narcissists see them as a direct threat.
What if they give you advice? What if you listen? What if you lean on them when the narcissist mistreats you? What if they convince you to leave the narcissist?
All of this is taken into consideration, hence why the narcissist would prefer you to solely rely on them alone.
Stealing your circle is how they isolate you and make you dependent on them even more.
