Narcissists live to seek revenge. As much as they hate it when a plan doesn’t go the way they’d hope – they love a bit of payback.
Do you want to be in their way when they do? Do you even want to be the recipient of their hideous acts?
Sometimes, it can’t be helped. I don’t want you to have to suffer at the vengeful hands of these people, but I won’t lie…
…Sometimes it’s inevitable.
So let’s take a look at the 9 things narcissists do when they want revenge.
I can only prepare you!
Revenge? Uh-oh!
Listen, I don’t know if any of you have previously been subjected to the vengeful plotting of a narcissist, but it can be pretty hard going.
Narcissists are some of the more ruthless, conscienceless people that I know of, and they won’t hesitate in bringing out your worst worries or fears for the sake of getting revenge on you.
A Narcissist Adamantly Wants To Ruin You
It’s almost like they were born to ruin lives, isn’t it? The time and energy they give to themselves heading into the world and cracking good relationships and strong friendships is beyond warped, but it’s a daily hobby for them all.
If you’ve done something – and something innocent at that – which happens to clash with what the narcissist approves of, you’re heading for Revenge Highway.
You’re never going to please a narcissist, no matter what you do, so remember – revenge will boil even when you’re just innocently living your best life.
Let’s see exactly what they do to get back at you. I hope that you get away from them far enough before any of these affect you.
#1 Spread Lies
You’d better watch your back. The narcissist is out to get revenge, and they are going to hand out lies to passers by, no matter the time or day. In fact, they don’t even care if you’re present or not, they’ll still do it.
The more lies that can be crop dusted into your circle of people, the better.
Narcissists engineer lies to create mass destruction inside you. They mentally torture their victims because they feel there is some kind of payback needed.
To get back at you.
To make you suffer.
To leave you on high alert.
To push back and show you just who is in charge.
Don’t underestimate them – not ever.
#2 Pretend You Don’t Exist
The biggest fear of the victim of any narcissistic abuse is to feel as though they’re not loved.
That attachment forms at an early stage with the narcissist, who makes them – maybe you – think that you can’t live without them.
In truth, you lived without them up until you met, and you could live without them if they left.
However, if a narcissist wants revenge, they know right where it will hurt when they kick you.
Pretending you don’t exist will ignite all your fears of abandonment, and the narcissist knows it.
They will act as though they’re more than fine without you around, and you’ll panic and worry that it’s really over this time.
I know that it being over is a good thing – you want out of this toxic situation!
But you need a little more convincing at this stage, so let me be the person to give you that.
If they’re acting like you don’t exist, then walk away.
#3 Hurtful Comments
To your face or behind your back – however the comments come – they’re going to all be based on getting revenge.
Your good nature and kind heart isn’t a trait of you that the narcissist will be afraid to dent. If you think about it, it’s what they intended on denting from the moment they met you.
#4 Punish You
Punishment comes in all kinds of forms, but a good few examples can be:
- Going silent on you. They want to play to all your triggers
- Shouting at you. They know you hate conflict
- Taking away your bank cards or access to the car. You’d struggle without those
- Ensuring the people you know hear something about you that they won’t like. Way to isolate you!
#5 Pick Your Weakest Fear and Make it Come True
Imagine knowing you have a real phobia of flying, and booking a trip away they can take you on.
The revenge is so reversed here, but believe me, it’s such a popular way for narcissists to get revenge on you.
You’ll freak out understandably, and the narcissist will use that against you.
You’re so ungrateful.
I try to do something nice…
After all I’ve done for you, this is how you thank me.
You’re just a huge wimp.
It’ll all come, and it’s nothing to feel good about.
#6 Trigger All Your Triggers
Victims commonly feel triggered by their narcissistic partner or friend when there has been no contact for a while.
If the narcissist chooses to ignore, go silent, switch their phone off, not follow through with texting or calling when they say they would – it’s big.
What this trigger does is ignite the fear of abandonment the victim has, and that comes from the trauma bond built in quick time by the narcissist.
If they want revenge, prepare for their phone to go off, or to be blocked, even if it’s temporary.
Childish? Yep!
#7 Threaten You
Threats shouldn’t be taken lightly at all. When you get yourself stuck in a situation where a threat determines what you do, how you think or act, then you’re in trouble.
Knowing that you’ve not done anything wrong is a good enough reason to protest your innocence and stand up for yourself.
If that means involving services that can help you through threats, then so be it.
Threats can get very serious very quickly.
Make sure you’re taking care of yourself, and don’t let the fear from the threats overtake you.
#8 Make People Hate You
Before anybody gets a chance to even know you properly, the narcissist will take care of it all.
Don’t go near them. They cause so many problems.
I heard they’re really two-faced.
Yeah, they seem nice, but they’re not. It’s all an act.
They could be talking about themselves here, couldn’t they?
Narcissists only want you to feel and be hated to isolate you even more.
#9 Triangulate You
Pitting you against somebody you are close with is a commonplace for narcissists. They love to ruin what they can never actually get for themselves.
They will gossip about you, drag your name down, or spread lies to the other person for the sake of revenge, so that your own relationships with others start to crumble.
