Female narcissists might not be something I talk about a heck of a lot, but today that’s all going to change.
I am noticing a rise in hearing about male victims, and the reason is because female narcissists present so differently than their toxic male counterparts.
They play their victims in ways that will shock you, and they manipulate men in these very cruel 9 ways.
Don’t say I didn’t warn you.
#1 Use their sexuality
Female narcissists know exactly how to use their sexuality to get what they want, and to hook victims in.
I don’t just mean using their sexuality for intimate purposes.
I also mean leaning into their softer, more feminine side to appear to be holier-than-thou, when really they are testing the waters of their victim.
It’s the female equivalent to that charm a narcissistic man presents with, but in a much more captivating way.
The playing of the hair, the giggle, the intent yet gentle listening.
I’d say this was a pretty dangerous way of presenting, and is a mask all in itself to hide behind.
#2 Get clued up on narcissism
Female narcissists have got a bit of an upper hand on male narcissists, and that all comes down to how much easier and more acceptable it is to lean into what narcissism is.
Narcissistic men love to deny or not know what you’re talking about. They play the traditional game of narcissism.
Narcissistic women will read up about narcissism and get clued up on the tactics and warning signs just so they can evade them and make it look even less obvious that they’re a narcissist.
Like I said, this is whole new level stuff, and it is actually how they are able to fool so many people.
They even talk about narcissism like they’ve been negatively affected by it themselves in the past.
This makes them appear to be a victim of abuse, and leave it much more likely for their victims to see them as one of them, and not the enemy.
#3 Take victimhood to a new level
Victimhood really does go to a whole new level with female narcissists.
Let’s start with the tears. Women are generally more emotional than men, but I don’t see that as a problem or a weakness.
They talk about their problems, whereas men tend to bottle theirs up more.
If a woman is a narcissist, she already has the advantage of using her tears to show what a victim she is.
Or how sad somebody made her. Statistically, women are the victims in abusive situations more than men, which is terrible.
However, a female narcissist can use this and spin a lie that her male victim is the abuser when in fact, she is.
This is deeply manipulative, and is a real problem for male victims.
Trying to protest your innocence with difficulty is hard enough, but knowing the odds of people believing you are already against you makes it all that much worse.
And so narcissistic women play on it. They act the victim, and are the kinds of people who won’t stop until they get the result they want.
This is usually at the detriment of the man who by all intent, just thought he met somebody he was attracted to.
#4 Use spirituality as a tool to appear humble
Ah, the good old spirituality card. For a lot of people, spirituality is a genuine tool they use for life.
For narcissistic women, they think a little bit of namaste will paint them in a humble, good light.
I want you to see through this because it’s nothing but a guise.
If the world sees them as good, calm, level-headed, aware and mindful, they won’t even be slightly pegged as a narcissist.
And that is why the spiritual card works so well.
#5 Get a best friend, dump a best friend
Narcissistic women are constantly talking about who they are friends with, and who they’ve fallen out with recently.
There is never a steady, consistent pattern of friendships when it comes to them because of how much they love to control friends, friendship circles, and dynamics.
The second a fiend annoys them, they’re history. The moment a new person comes along and worships her, they will be joined at the hip until it all inevitably goes pear-shaped.
#6 Manipulate using their soft side
A woman’s soft side is innate to their sexuality. They naturally approach life and the world with a gentle touch and level of kindness.
That’s why it’s always worth noting that narcissistic women are women too, and they can switch all of that and more on to suit.
Just because a female is soft, it doesn’t mean they can’t be a narcissist.
You might want to watch out for that!
#7 Pretend they would make the perfect wife and mother
It’s every man’s dream to know they’ve married a good woman who they can love and appreciate, and start a family with someday, and the same for all the good women out there about men.
There are the kinds of people who play on that though, and narcissistic women fit that category.
Everything is all, “I’m great wife material. Look how I will look after you. I can’t wait to be a mom. I will make our house a home.”
Naturally, a man will love hearing these kinds of words. How wonderful to know that they will have a happy family in the future, led by a strong, nurturing woman.
Except… things are never as they seem, and if I can teach you anything, it’s that if something seems too good to be true, that’s usually because it is.
#8 Get clever with their hormones
I appreciate the rise and fall of hormones that women have to go through every single month.
I don’t for one second underestimate how much it must drain energy and feel difficult from time to time.
Narcissistic women still have hormones, but the difference is, they actually use those hormones as an excuse.
An excuse to accuse their partners of cheating. To snap and rage. To go silent.
To ask for things while they do nothing. To cry and act the victim. I’m not saying hormones don’t cause emotions to yoyo, but narcissistic women do pull out the hormone card as a disguise for abusing the people they are closest to.
And that’s not cool.
#9 Isolate through emotion
I really love it when we spend our evenings together.
It makes me so sad when you go out and do things without me.
I don’t feel good enough.
Can’t you cancel and spend a romantic night with me?
For the narcissistic woman, their tempting offers laced with guilt-ridden emotions are the perfect package to get everything they want from their victims.
Consequently, the victim will miss out on everything they might normally do, isolating them in the process.
This is classic female narcissist behavior, and is a huge red flag if you experience it yourself.
