You might not think that a narcissist is able to give you anything positive, but I am here to prove that wrong.
Yes that’s right, through all the pain and suffering, there is a silver lining.
You can become superhuman, just by being around a narcissist and learning about them.
Here are the 9 superhuman abilities the narcissist can awaken inside of you. Let’s celebrate each and every one!
#1 Emotional resilience
If there’s one thing a narcissist is good for, it’s the natural talent to awaken a kind of emotional resilience inside of you.
I’m not talking about how much abuse you’ll tolerate and how much of a good thing that is, I am talking about howmuch you are able to defy emotional dysregulation.
Narcissists push and push their victims, so it’s no real surprise that over time,
you learn how to stand strong in that storm, and become superhuman to their moods, rage attacks, criticism, manipulations and how they insist on controlling you.
It’s the kind of resilience that has to only come from direct experience, but trust me, once it’s there, it isn’t going anywhere.
#2 The ability to instantly read a person
I bet you wish you could go back in time and always have this superpower, right?
To be able to read somebody as soon as you meet them will have saved you the hassle of falling for the charm of a narcissist, but you know, it’s okay that you made that mistake in a way.
At least now, you can read people instantly. You spot the red flags of charm, and you dodge that person as if they were a bullet hurtling towards you at top speed.
Now you know the difference between the characters of people, you are able to keep whom you want in your inner circle, and the others can get lost.
#3 Unbreakable mental toughness
Nobody should be invited to improve on their mental toughness only after they’ve been abused.
It’s like saying, “Well, you know you were treated terribly, so let it make you stronger mentally!”
The term what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger isn’t one of my favorites at all.
However, with narcissists, their presence and abuse can at least help a person understand what is toxic, and how to deal with that toxicity when it is directed at them.
With tools to support you, that mental toughness will help you in other areas of your life, and leave you able to discover your boundaries and limitations.
#4 True awareness of manipulation
It’s like stepping back and seeing an entire picture, isn’t it? Dealing with a narcissist can feel like you’re dealing with the devil himself, but the manipulation can be incredibly hard to deal with.
A client of mine hadn’t spoken to her father in almost 10 years, and one day she was at her mom’s house and he turned up out of the blue (they were separated) to collect something that was his.
Both were surprised to see each other, but both remained respectful, with her father even trying to be nice.
It was hard for my client. If that was the first time they’d met, she wouldn’t suspect him at all as being toxic.
She said to me, “Alex, did I do the right thing all those years ago cutting contact?”
I reminded her that even the most abusive people know how to tug at the heart strings, and that her decision was valid as he caused untold drama and pain over the years.
It’s important to be aware, and I believe it is a real superhuman ability to be able to do so.
#5 The instinct to self-protect
It’s a good instinct to have, wouldn’t you agree? To be able to protect yourself from future abusers has to come from being able to understand how abusers operate.
Protecting yourself can be if you have to be around a narcissist, such as a coworker, and learning how to have – and maintain – a healthy distance between you.
Learn certain phrases to say when they try to overpower or control a situation that you aren’t comfortable with.
Learn the kinds of tones that disempower their games altogether, and trust me, this is totally possible and something you can really achieve.
It’s one of the strongest superpowers to walk around armed with.
#6 Emotional storm survivor
When you have had to deal with emotional storms the narcissist creates, you learn how to steer your ship in any weather.
This means your superhuman ability to ride whatever chaos comes your way leaves you feeling better equipped to be able to do so.
You are the calm in the whirlwind, and people often look to – and appreciate – you for your ability to invoke a sense of calm where everybody else may be panicking.
You think, “If I can deal with a narcissist ,I can deal with anything.”
This is pretty fair to be honest. Narcissists will take you to hell and back with their behavior, so a little work fallout is nothing to you.
#7 To maintain strong boundaries
Boundaries are there for a reason, and if you have ever struggled with yours, you’ll know that your struggle likely comes from a place where you just want to please others all the time.
You will drop your own boundaries if it means making somebody else happy, but narcissists are never satisfied, and will push yours even further, still never fully being satisfied.
When you learn that the only way to fully get rid of narcissists in your life is to maintain strong boundaries, it will become like second nature to you.
The addictiveness of demanding your boundaries remain intact will keep any narcissist at bay, which leaves you living a far more peaceful life than you ever have before.
I’d say that was a pretty wicked powerhuman ability to have, wouldn’t you?
#8 The wisdom to trust yourself again
Victims of narcissistic abuse don’t by nature not trust themselves, they’re taught not to.
This is through various and endless gaslighting techniques that leave you feeling as though you don’t even really know your own self to the full extent you should.
When you wise up to the narcissist’s games, you wise up to the reality that your own thoughts and feelings are still valid, and with that, you learn to start really trusting yourself again.
Sounds ideal, doesn’t it? You can’t get yourself back unless you go out searching for them!
#9 To know when to quit
Chasing a narcissist and hoping they will change someday has got to be one of the biggest on-reflection regrets a victim has.
I spent so much time wishing and hoping.
Nothing changed, and I regret all that time I waited for a miracle that never came.
That’s the case for every victim, as no narcissist ever feels remorse.
Knowing when to quit is an ability that will set you free, and forces you to cut yourself away from toxic relationships that have no future.
Once this is awakened inside of you, you learn not to waste any more time vying for their affection, when you could be finding somebody far healthier to put your time into – like you!
