You might now know it’s coming, but you’re officially on borrowed time. The narcissist has plans up their sleeve, and those plans involve breaking up with you. 

When they know what is coming, they’re going to shift in the way they act toward you, and the signs coming from them will be small, almost unnoticed. That is, until now!

You see, it’s better to be aware of the subtle acts of sabotage that the narcissist will pull out the week before they leave you. At least that way, you get to know what’s coming, right?

It’s Happening

If there is a break up looming, it’ll be the making of the future you, have no doubt about it.

Narcissists struggle to find appropriate ways to end a relationship because they don’t want to just come out and say it.

They think if they can sabotage what they’ve got with you, it’ll make both of you moving on a whole lot easier. 

So, cue the destruction. They will throw everything they have into making you their biggest problem in as many ways as possible. 

Let’s see how!

#1 Picking Petty Fights

The fights are the worst, am I right? You’ve had to tolerate their petty, direct yet indirect ways to goad you into conflict for what feels like forever. Now you’re seeing a huge spike in this, and that increase is noticeable to your wellbeing. 

I hear you. It’s the same for a lot of victims of narcissistic abuse. Thoughts like, “What is going on?”, “What am I doing that’s so wrong?”, “Why do they hate me so much?”, all come to mind.

Remember though, that’s your mind, not theirs. They are lying happily, knowing they’re destroying something they no longer want to be a part of.

Narcissists will do this by picking fights with you, and you’ll really know about it.

What are you trying to imply?

Why are you acting up?

What is wrong with you tonight?

Why won’t you give me a straight answer?

Why are you so quiet?

What time do you call this? 

Why did you put onions in this chilli? You know I hate them.

On and on, no matter what you’re doing. That fight, if they want it to happen, is going to be dug out of you with such force that you’re going to feel cornered and trapped into responding. 

Then, guess what?

We are fighting so much.

I can’t be with somebody I am always arguing with.

I just want to leave and feel at peace again.

Not only will the fights increase, but so will your anxiety about the fights, after all, they’re the last thing you want. 

#2 A Spike in Public Criticism

When you think it can’t get any worse for you, it can. Where criticism is concerned, a narcissist is going to have a field day with you, especially in public.

You’ll think you’re enjoying a nice day together, but it will come laced with moments where you just want the ground to swallow you up whole. 

And you know what the biggest shame is? That the narcissist has no shame.

They really don’t. They will lay it thick on you to make you dread going anywhere with them.That’s the exact definition of self-sabotage.

When the break up ultimately happens, they’re left ending it, and you’re (hopefully, to them), left thinking, “Thank God for that.”

#3 Flirting With Zero Shame

Flirting is the best part for the narcissist! Why should they flirt with you if they’re planning on leaving you?

The beauty of being able to flirt (in their eyes) is that it opens doors for new relationships that come after you. 

Imagine being so toxic and delusional that you feel you’re lining your ducks up in a row before you’ve even got to the pond yet. That’s what they do, and there will be no guilt involved in any of it.

If you’ve been stuck with a narcissist for some time, this is their way of starting to blow off steam, and they haven’t even walked out the door yet. 

#4 Last Minute Grab of Funds

If there’s money to be had, they’re going to take it while on their way out. If it’s yours, they won’t care at all. 

Your funds will be accessible to them because they will know the ins and outs of everything, passwords and all!

Leaving you means they need to scrap everything that’s good from it all before they take that final bow, so they can set themselves up nicely in the next chapter of their pathetic lives.

It’s a warning to you to lock your finances, change your passwords and cancel cards if you need to.

#5 Where Are Your Items Disappearing To?

Honestly, do you even know where that watch went? Or what about your laptop? The rare CD you know is worth a fortune? No – that’s because the narcissist is stashing them all away.

Now, these are going to be used for one of a few things. Yes, they could sell them and get a little money on the side from you after they leave you. But, what can also happen is that these items are used as bait or blackmail.

Meet me and I will give them to you.

Tell people that you left me, or I will destroy them.

You can’t have them unless you agree to stay friends with me.

Whatever the request, it will be something that works in their favor, not yours. 

#6  Texts Thick With Guilt

Text messages are a strong way for narcissists to misbehave. They can be as cutting and cruel as they want to, knowing it doesn’t matter anyway because in a week or two, you guys will be a thing of the past. 

If you’re being made to feel bad, it’s time to ask yourself who is really in the wrong here. 

I promise you one thing; it isn’t you. 

#7 Telling You What They Really Think: 2.0

When you thought their nastiness couldn’t reach a level any higher, they go and dive up into the sky and tell you what they really think even more directly. 

The criticisms get worse, the heckling gets more frequent, the way they hurt you with a ‘truth you need to know’, it’s all uncalled for. 

It’s a very horrible way of pushing you further in distance, and they will not stop until it’s time to leave. 

#8 Burning Wider Bridges

Being mean about your friends, speaking unkindly about your family, and not attending important things you usually attend together are all ways the narcissist will burn bridges before burning that final one – you – at the end of your relationship. 

It makes it easier for them to slide away into the past when they’ve pretty much walked away not just from you, but from your whole lives together.

If you’re careful, you can easily spot this happening. 

#9 A Shift In Routine

Routines are usually pretty rigid with narcissists. They love doing what they do, and watching you tag along for the ride. 

When that routine starts to shift, it’s because narcissists are trying to carve out a new pattern for when they leave you.

Maybe that looks like a new gym, or a different walk to work meaning a different chain of coffee shops to talk with people in.

Kissing goodbye to you leaves them wide open for a brand new life in all aspects.

What Eventually Happens To Narcissists?

How Does it End For Narcissists?

Narcissists are like a really painful, long book that you have to read to understand. They don’t come with an index or bullet points. If they did, half their toxicity would fall through the cracks.

Sadly, people like you or I must experience them fully before we know each trick.

If I can offer you one fragment of light at the end of this treacherous tunnel – it’s this:

What happens to narcissists is an ending that you’re going to want to hang on for.

Let’s get into it.

“Look At Them!”

It’s enough to make you sick, isn’t it?

They live their merry little lives, seemingly getting away with anything and everything, making you want to scream from the rooftops.

Yes – it’s unfair. 

You wish they would just crumble and fall down, so you could finally see them suffer as much as they made you suffer. 

You want what happens to them to be detrimental to everything they pretend to be. 

Does The Tide Ever Turn?

What do you think? I mean, I want to be able to tell you that they do indeed turn honestly.

I also know and appreciate how it really doesn’t feel that way at the time. Constantly waiting for them to taste their own medicine can feel like waiting for rain in a drought.

But I am here to say that, yes, eventually, that rain will come.

And it will feel amazing.

The Beauty of Karma

I don’t like to meddle with Karma. Instead, I trust that everything will work exactly how it should.

Sometimes we win, sometimes we lose. The circle of life appreciates both good and bad happenings, and I am certain that includes narcissists and how they treat others. 

Karma doesn’t need you stepping in and taking over, so if you ever try to gain justice from a situation involving a narcissist, you’re likely to lose. 

Rather than that – it’s nothing but a waiting game. 

But a game you’ll definitely not want to quit.

How Does It End For Them?

No narcissist has a really happy ending. 

Ultimately, they go home alone every day, even if they go home to somebody. 

Narcissists always want to be part of something, yet never feel part of anything. It’s all empty. It’s all meaningless. They don’t have layers to them or an ounce of appreciation for their family or friends. 

That alone should tell you how it ends for every narcissist. 

They’re nothing but lonely people craving some kind of something. 

That is something they never end up getting.

#1 The Slipping of the Mask

You may have to wait a while, but the mask of a narcissist will always, I repeat, always slip off.

I know you think it can’t happen soon enough, and many of you will be screaming for it to be today—but it doesn’t work that way.

In fact, the more you try to rush the mask’s slipping, the crazier you will look.

If you want to allow their true selves to unfold naturally, you’ll have to wait for the day.

#2 Inability to Keep Up With Their Lies

We all know that lying can lead to serious trouble. Not only do you have to remember this, but you may also have to build potential lies around it so they make sense. 

Narcissists are great at lying, but they can do it so frequently that they fail to recall them all.

When you see a narcissist caught in a lie trap, they will fluff and fumble their way out as best they can with the charm they were born with. 

I want to remind you, though – the lies do catch up with them eventually.

Lies catch up with everybody. 

#3 One Small Mistake

This is all it takes, believe me. One tiny little slip up to get people talking is all it takes. 

I once knew a narcissist professionally who never took any accountability for his mistakes.

He used to cover up all his mistakes, blaming others or deleting evidence that he was responsible. 

One day, he was caught in the act. He had no defense, and even though he got really angry and tried to blame somebody else, it was clear he was to blame. 

His mistake was leaving his work pass in the room where he shredded all the information he wanted to discard. 

It’s all it took for the dominos to all fall down, and for the past to come together like a jigsaw puzzle. People saw what he was like, and nobody trusted him again. 

#4 Time Will Tell

You’re all familiar with the saying, ‘Time will heal.’ It helps if you are going through hard times or have lost somebody close to you. 

Time also heals your own heart as it allows narcissists to be revealed for who they really are.

As much as it will cause chaos, it will be healing to be validated by the entire event. 

It’s how so many victims breathe a sigh of relief and say, “Thank goodness everybody can now see them for who they truly are.”

Time will give you that. You just have to wait for it. 

#5 They Won’t Hesitate To Move!

Narcissists are renowned for moving. 

To start again, if things get too heated where they live,

Looking for work in a new city or town for a ‘fresh start.’

Usually, when they run everybody else down or play them all in their games, they run out of people.

They run out of supply.

So what do they do?

They run away.

It won’t end there, though. Moving anywhere new only restarts the whole process.

Narcissists, for that reason, never really admit to having somewhere to call home.

#6 New Friends

Of course, moving anywhere means starting up a new friendship circle. People will mingle and meet with everybody, as all new people are considered to be fresh pawns in their game. 

Friends end up being enemies before long…

In The End

You can wait and wait, but eventually, the narcissist will get their comeuppance.

In one way or another, whether being found out, having their mask slip, or having to keep bouncing from town to city to stay relevant or liked.

Please allow that to be the justice you need, because it is.

Narcissists will always be miserable. They hate the idea of being stuck or figured out, so they must constantly work out their plan to keep their true selves a secret.

Isn’t that the end you want to hear about?

I know it is for me.