Have you ever had a conversation with someone who made you feel small and insignificant without saying a single word?
I have! The chances are, you were dealing with a narcissist, and trust me, they can be brutally rude.
These people have a way of ruining communication with a mere glance, or a smirk…
…or dead silence.
It’s time we exposed the 9 shockingly rude ways narcissists destroy conversations without even opening their mouths.
All those times you’ve felt unheard, dismissed, or drained? You’re going to want to read this.
#1 They cover their mouth as if to suppress a laugh when you talk
What a way to make you feel even more self-conscious! You know, I struggle with this one.
I’ve seen it live in action with people I’ve met or known in my own past, and every single time I want to say, “Are you five years old?”
That’s the crux of it, folks. You’re dealing with a person who is so mentally underdeveloped that they can’t help but remind you of a child in adult clothing.
But they are not kids. They’re fully grown men and women, and they still think it’s fun to try to throw you off by acting like that in front of you.
Does it work? Of course! It causes the person on the receiving end to think, “What are they trying to not laugh about? What’s wrong with me? Do I look funny? Am I speaking strangely?”
None of the above.
They’re just rude assholes.
#2 They clear their throat loudly just to interrupt
As you’re telling a story or speaking to somebody else or even a small group of you, the narcissist won’t like that all eyes are on you for once.
And it’s not like you’ve craved or asked for the attention, but that’s how conversations go!
Sometimes we all get that moment where we’re the walkers, and everybody around us listens.
Narcissists? They want that all the time. They want the glory wherever they can get it, and if that means clearing their throat so loudly that it interrupts you, then that’s what they will do.
Far be it from me to call them out in that moment, because I’d end up looking like the bad guy, but trust me, I know every trick in the book, and you need to, too.
#3 You see nothing but their back in group settings
The height of rudeness comes to light when you are faced (or not) with a narcissist in a group setting.
When they don’t want to acknowledge you, or if they deem you not interesting or important enough to speak with, you can bet you’ll be treated like you don’t even exist.
It’s all a design to yet again make you feel like you aren’t good enough. They do it to assert their power over you, and treat the whole event as an excuse to intimidate you.
They want to do this on purpose. You’re a target to them, which evidently means you have something that they want or are jealous of.
The ability for good conversation? A beautiful dress? A new job offer that you are telling people about?
To them, they can’t stand it, so they turn their backs rudely.
#4 They roll their eyes when you talk
Is there really a need to be so rude? The minute you open your mouth, and it doesn’t matter what you have to say, they totally shut you down by acting like you’re a pain in the ass.
Maybe they want you to think that whatever you’re saying isn’t productive or of any real value.
Rolling their eyes is a sign that they actually feel threatened by you. For you, you think, “Oh God, they don’t want me to talk.”
That’s kind of true, but only because you do say things of value. You’re naturally funny and charming, and people warm to you for who you are.
There’s no act.
And yeah, they roll their eyes and it’s so rude. But see it as them hating that you rock.
#5 Yelling at somebody else when you’re mid-sentence
What a way to cut you off, right? Yelling at you when you’re mid-sentence is an act of verbal war to them.
You’re speaking and they want to cut your words into pieces and make you feel as though you don’t matter.
We know you do, and you know you do.
That’s all there is to it, right?
#6 They sigh and fold their arms when conversation isn’t about them
Like little children waiting for their parents to finish a conversation with somebody they bumped into in the street!
You know what? Life isn’t always all about the narcissist. Why can’t they see that instead of working you into some kind of stressed out soul when this happens?
I find it so unfair, but alas, these are the kinds of people we’re talking about here.
Let them sigh and fold their arms. Let them be rude.
Continue anyway!
#7 Tapping fingers impatiently while you talk
When will this be over?
When can I get away?
I am seriously unable to tolerate much more of this!
Is it really that painful for narcissists to listen to you talking?
I’m sure it’s because they feel they have something else far more valuable to contribute to the conversation in an attempt to hijack it and make it about them. For now, they have to shut up and listen.
And no, they will not like it one little bit.
#8 Walk away while you’re still sitting
Whether you’re trying to finish your meal or drink, or if the movie has just finished and the credits in the theater are rolling, the narcissist will get up and leave when they want to.
If that means leaving you sitting down by yourself wondering what the heck is going on, then that’s exactly what they’ll do.
I don’t think it’s polite at all, and I don’t know many people who would disagree with me (unless I ask a narcissist).
If you’re supposed to be out somewhere together, why would they feel so inclined to cut you out and just move whenever they want?
Because they expect you to hop up and follow them, like a little puppy.
If you make it so you don’t do that, you will win in life!
#9 Shaking their head in disapproval
As much as this one might pain you to experience, I want to try to get you to see the funny side of it.
These people really are incessant and determined to make your life miserable.
They will go to any lengths to make that happen, including shaking their head in disapproval at you.
And there you are, innocently conversing or living your life, and they just hate it.
They want you to know they hate it so much that they feel a head shake will do it.
I find it laughable that this level of toxicity is so rife, but let this be known…
…You are not a problem person for initiating a conversation. They are a problem person for wanting to drag your character down.
