Have you ever had a conversation with someone who made you feel small and insignificant without saying a single word? 

I have! The chances are, you were dealing with a narcissist, and trust me, they can be brutally rude.

These people have a way of ruining communication with a mere glance, or a smirk…

…or dead silence. 

It’s time we exposed the 9 shockingly rude ways narcissists destroy conversations without even opening their mouths.

All those times you’ve felt unheard, dismissed, or drained? You’re going to want to read this.

#1 They cover their mouth as if to suppress a laugh when you talk

What a way to make you feel even more self-conscious! You know, I struggle with this one.

I’ve seen it live in action with people I’ve met or known in my own past, and every single time I want to say, “Are you five years old?”

That’s the crux of it, folks. You’re dealing with a person who is so mentally underdeveloped that they can’t help but remind you of a child in adult clothing.

But they are not kids. They’re fully grown men and women, and they still think it’s fun to try to throw you off by acting like that in front of you. 

Does it work? Of course! It causes the person on the receiving end to think, “What are they trying to not laugh about? What’s wrong with me? Do I look funny? Am I speaking strangely?”

None of the above. 

They’re just rude assholes.

#2 They clear their throat loudly just to interrupt

As you’re telling a story or speaking to somebody else or even a small group of you, the narcissist won’t like that all eyes are on you for once.

And it’s not like you’ve craved or asked for the attention, but that’s how conversations go!

Sometimes we all get that moment where we’re the walkers, and everybody around us listens. 

Narcissists? They want that all the time. They want the glory wherever they can get it, and if that means clearing their throat so loudly that it interrupts you, then that’s what they will do. 

Far be it from me to call them out in that moment, because I’d end up looking like the bad guy, but trust me, I know every trick in the book, and you need to, too.

#3 You see nothing but their back in group settings

The height of rudeness comes to light when you are faced (or not) with a narcissist in a group setting.

When they don’t want to acknowledge you, or if they deem you not interesting or important enough to speak with, you can bet you’ll be treated like you don’t even exist.

It’s all a design to yet again make you feel like you aren’t good enough. They do it to assert their power over you, and treat the whole event as an excuse to intimidate you.

They want to do this on purpose. You’re a target to them, which evidently means you have something that they want or are jealous of.

The ability for good conversation? A beautiful dress? A new job offer that you are telling people about?

To them, they can’t stand it, so they turn their backs rudely. 

#4 They roll their eyes when you talk

Is there really a need to be so rude? The minute you open your mouth, and it doesn’t matter what you have to say, they totally shut you down by acting like you’re a pain in the ass.

Maybe they want you to think that whatever you’re saying isn’t productive or of any real value. 

Rolling their eyes is a sign that they actually feel threatened by you. For you, you think, “Oh God, they don’t want me to talk.”

That’s kind of true, but only because you do say things of value. You’re naturally funny and charming, and people warm to you for who you are.

There’s no act. 

And yeah, they roll their eyes and it’s so rude. But see it as them hating that you rock. 

#5 Yelling at somebody else when you’re mid-sentence

What a way to cut you off, right? Yelling at you when you’re mid-sentence is an act of verbal war to them.

You’re speaking and they want to cut your words into pieces and make you feel as though you don’t matter. 

We know you do, and you know you do. 

That’s all there is to it, right?

#6 They sigh and fold their arms when conversation isn’t about them

Like little children waiting for their parents to finish a conversation with somebody they bumped into in the street!

You know what? Life isn’t always all about the narcissist. Why can’t they see that instead of working you into some kind of stressed out soul when this happens?

I find it so unfair, but alas, these are the kinds of people we’re talking about here. 

Let them sigh and fold their arms. Let them be rude. 

Continue anyway!

#7 Tapping fingers impatiently while you talk

When will this be over? 

When can I get away?

I am seriously unable to tolerate much more of this!

Is it really that painful for narcissists to listen to you talking?

I’m sure it’s because they feel they have something else far more valuable to contribute to the conversation in an attempt to hijack it and make it about them. For now, they have to shut up and listen. 

And no, they will not like it one little bit.

#8 Walk away while you’re still sitting

Whether you’re trying to finish your meal or drink, or if the movie has just finished and the credits in the theater are rolling, the narcissist will get up and leave when they want to. 

If that means leaving you sitting down by yourself wondering what the heck is going on, then that’s exactly what they’ll do. 

I don’t think it’s polite at all, and I don’t know many people who would disagree with me (unless I ask a narcissist). 

If you’re supposed to be out somewhere together, why would they feel so inclined to cut you out and just move whenever they want?

Because they expect you to hop up and follow them, like a little puppy.

If you make it so you don’t do that, you will win in life!

#9 Shaking their head in disapproval

As much as this one might pain you to experience, I want to try to get you to see the funny side of it.

These people really are incessant and determined to make your life miserable.

They will go to any lengths to make that happen, including shaking their head in disapproval at you. 

And there you are, innocently conversing or living your life, and they just hate it.

They want you to know they hate it so much that they feel a head shake will do it.

I find it laughable that this level of toxicity is so rife, but let this be known…

…You are not a problem person for initiating a conversation. They are a problem person for wanting to drag your character down. 

What Do Narcissists Fear the Most?

The 20 Biggest Fears Of Narcissists

They don’t look like they fear anything, do they?

Narcissists really do walk around acting as if they are perfect. If you were to ask them what they’re scared of, they’d laugh in your face and tell you to move out of their way.

Well, I’m here to tell you the truth.

Narcissists are petrified of more than you have ever known…

…Until now.

Here, I unlock the 20 biggest fears of narcissists, so you don’t need to embarrass them by asking them what they’re scared of ever again.

When The Narcissist Can’t Sleep At Night

Tick, tock, tick, tock,

3am?!

What’s keeping the narcissist up at night?

It’s likely to be thinking about their fears, as believe it or not, they cross their minds from time to time. 

Those fears remain buried under the guise of the charmer – the person everybody sees when they initially speak to the narcissist. 

Well, I’ve got my shovel, and I am about to dig each fear up.

#1 It’s Expose Time! 

Imagine the look of terror on the narcissist’s face when you expose them. It’ll be brief, sure. If you blink, you miss it.

Because soon enough – that fear will convert into rage – an emotion you’re probably much more familiar with when you think about the narcissist in your life. 

Before that rage, that fear will be evident. The idea of you telling everybody the true character of the narcissist fills them with an impalpable dread. 

It all starts to crumble.

They’ve nowhere to hide, and they cannot fool everybody anymore. At least some people will believe you, and that’s all you’d need to expose them fully. 

So yes – it keeps the narcissist up at night to think you could do such a thing, knowing as soon you do so, their power diminishes. 

#2 Control: Officially Lost

Get ready for the narcissist’s foundation to shake, rattle and roll.

Losing control is last on their list of ideals, but it’s a stark possibility when the victim turns to victor.

Seeing through the narcissism to a person who, underneath it all, is just a small-minded, afraid nobody, makes them more worried than you could imagine. 

If that control goes – what do they have?!

#3 The Truth is Feared

What is the truth?

We all know, don’t we?

We’re dealing with a person, or several people if you’re really unlucky, who aren’t who they say they are.

There is a truth behind the lies, and behind that is the ongoing fear from the narcissist that their lies will be exposed. 

Believe me when I say that the narcissist will do what it takes to silence their victims, but that doesn’t mean the truth will never prevail.

#4 The Ordinary 

Ordinary means what to you? For me, it’s just an average day, with nothing standing out. No one big moment.

Narcissists hate not standing out. They always want to be the center of attention, and if they’re seen as normal, or ordinary, that will be the biggest threat – and fear – to their grandiose personality. 

#5 Being Alone

Imagine having nobody to manipulate. When they need to suck the life out of another – there’s not a soul available. 

Narcissists need people around not just to do this with, but also, those people are needed to influence. 

The absence of others is the absence of validation and supply, and without a push from others for attention, the narcissist won’t fully know how to function.

They fear being alone for that very reason.

#6 Bye Bye, Attention

Invisibility is the true enemy of the narcissist. They need to be the honey, while the bees buzz around them constantly.

Without that noise, there is silence.

And in silence, there will be zero attention.

#7 Others… Happy… Really?

No single soul on the planet has the right to be happy (according to the narcissist). If you’re so happy, what could you possibly be so happy about? 

How dare you!

Your smile is enough to have it wiped right off your face, and the narcissist is going to love doing so.

Passing judgment. Criticizing you. Bringing you down. Triggering you. Disappointing you. Giving you the silent treatment and yelling at you. Whatever it takes. Why? 

Simple! They fear that your happiness will create this brand new version of you that will tolerate the narcissist just that little bit less. 

#8 How Victims Self-Love

Listen, if you’re loving yourself, then you are loving the narcissist less. It’s great for you – and that’s exactly why it isn’t good for them. 

The fear that comes from you loving yourself is that you will decide you’re too good for them – and leave. 

#9 Financial Independence

You’ve got your money sorted, you earn a large buck or two, and there’s nothing they can do about it.

Seeing you take care of your finances so well, there’s little to no chance of them taking it all away from you – leaving you dependent on them. 

Big fear!

#10 “So What?”

Ah, so you’re indifferent, are you?

That’s a big ache in the gut for the narcissist, who thrives on your reactions. If you don’t have any ones to give, consider yourself immune to the narcissist…

…New narcissist fear unlocked!

#11 Brave Enough To Be Accountable

Accountability is a huge fear of the narcissist, who usually ensures that what they’re doing will never be found out.

They don’t want to own up to any wrongdoing – so you can safely tick this as a huge fear of theirs. 

#12 Losing to Legality

If you want to really send shivers down the narcissist’s spine – threaten them with legal action.

It’s the epitome of doing wrong for all to see as well – which only adds to their nightmare!

#13 New Victims: Gone

Just when they thought they had a good victim in you – you up and leave.

Their plans turn to dust, and they become vulnerable all over again, with no supply!

#14 Strong? Good!

Your strength kills narcissists. It acts as such a strong repellent that you would be hard pushed to see any narcissist stick around.

They’re scared of you! What narcissist wants to admit that they’re scared of somebody?!

#15 Being Alone

You can forgive babies for not wanting to be alone – but grown adults? This isn’t about normal loneliness that can really affect people – this is the fear of having no life to suck out of anybody. 

#16 Mirror Mirror On The Wall

Don’t look into it if you’re a narcissist, because we all know – including you – that you are not the fairest of them all!

The biggest fear of a narcissist is doing so, and seeing that ugliness stare back at them. 

#17 “No Thanks, Bye”

Rejection.

Ouch.

A narcissist experienced enough of this as a child, and it is a huge trigger for them; a reminder that they aren’t good enough for somebody. 

#18 Criticism

What do you mean they aren’t perfect?

You cannot tell a narcissist that they have faults! That’s their job to make you feel shitty – not the other way around!

#19 Partners In The Know

Knowing who the narcissist really is means the power shifts from them, to you. 

What does that mean for you? Well, you’re likely to be a person who wants to do bad with their power, but it does mean you no longer get played by them.

They fear this – they fear you having an education in narcissism. You have the power to expose and all them out.

A powerless narcissist is not a happy narcissist. 

#20 Getting Over: Moving On

If you’ve gotten over a narcissist and moved on – you’ve done what they thought you’d never do.

Always expecting you to be around to use and abuse, you’ve finally made your way out of it.

While that’s a moment for real pride, it’s a moment of fear for them.

What do they do now?