Excuse me. I just need to know…
Why can’t you answer me?
Hello? Is anybody there?
Nobody’s there. Nobody worthy anyway.
You have questions, and I get it. You want and need answers. Narcissists make people feel this way because they hide so much from us.
They leave puzzle pieces purposely missing for you to guess and assume.
These 9 questions forever circle around the minds of people affected by a narcissist, and I want to tell you not only what they are, but why they’re never answered.
Burning Questions….
We all have questions up our sleeve we’re dying for the narcissist to answer.
The problem is, what do we do with those questions because we know the narcissist isn’t going to be honest with us?
Still, each question burns away, without anywhere to go.
Will You Get The Answers?
It depends on the question. Narcissists are capable of being brutally honest, and if you’re prepared to hear what they have to say, you’ll be given that answer in very direct terms.
The answers to the questions I wanted to raise with you will never be answered, but that doesn’t mean we don’t wish they’d at least try.
Hey, Narcissist! Answer Me These 9 Things!
1. Why Are You Such An Energy Vampire?
Narcissists suck the life out of everybody they encounter. When you feel like you’re having a good day, it’ll be taken from you when you cross a path with one.
They don’t want you to have a good day. Your life to them means nothing, so ruining it is just something they do to pass the time.
You could wake up and be filled with happiness and hope, and a narcissist will sniff you out and steal it.
It’s why so many victims feel like they have nothing left. The exhaustion can be a sign that you have severely overstayed your welcome in Narcissist City.
Asking a narcissist why they’re such an energy vampire would be an interesting way to understand how and why they operate like they do.
They have no moral compass and no conscience about why they act the way they do, which leaves people like you and me baffled.
But wouldn’t it be nice to have an explanation?
Come on, we need answers!
2. What Happened To You?
Seriously, what happened to you to make you so cold and evil?
Why did you turn out this way?
Why did nobody save you from the pits of entitlement as a child?
What road did you walk to even get here?
Sitting a narcissist down and digging out their back story would be something that would help all victims. It isn’t justification for their acts of toxicity, but it most certainly helps with understanding.
Of course somebody so deprived of love would turn out this way.
Of course those with ‘be perfect or else’ parents would end up being a narcissist themselves.
But wouldn’t it be nice to get a description to go with that face?
3. Why Can’t You Be Happy For People?
I imagine getting any narcissist to answer this honestly is going to be really hard work. Nevertheless, knowing why they can’t be happy for people would be refreshing.
It would also be very refreshing to smile and say well done without wanting to outdo them somehow. Alas, we do not live in this world.
We all want narcissists to be accountable for their emotions, and jealousy is one of the top emotions I refer to.
Why is it that you can’t clap when somebody else wins?
I can tell you now – the reason is:
Narcissists hate attention being on anybody else other than them. They love to be able to be first, win, be better and show up more successful than anyone else they know.
4. What Did I Do That Was So Terrible?
This is a more personal question that you might want the narcissist to answer.
Everything they put you through and how they make you feel.
Why?!
What for?!
Narcissists know you haven’t done anything terrible to receive their abuse. They simply see you as the person who will tolerate it the longest.
And yes – the abuse itself is appalling. But that doesn’t mean you are.
5. Why Can’t You See What You’re Doing?
Huh?
You want the narcissist to reflect on what they’re doing?
You want them to suddenly give you the awareness that they are perhaps upsetting and hurting others?
You want them to understand that their unkind and sometimes evil words have consequences?
Imagine!
6. Why Can’t You Live in Peace?
Narcissists don’t know the meaning of the word peace. All they know is how to stir up conflict, and ignite drama in situations that were otherwise perfectly fine.
If a narcissist lived in a peaceful world, they’d last all of five seconds before they got bored. That’s why they have to create a mess and blame you for it!
7. Why Do You Lie All The Time?
Lying gets me off the hook.
Lying excites me.
Lying makes me appear more exciting than I actually am.
Lying gets you into trouble instead of me.
Lying creates conflict.
Lying is fun.
Oh, you won’t hear the narcissist say any of this because they don’t want you knowing that truth.
Oh, how we wish they would. It’d be so much fun to hear!
8. Why Do You Intend On Making People Feel So Terrible?
Narcissists hate it if you feel good, so feeling terrible is each and every one’s aim.
Use this moment as the sole reason never to give too much to narcissistic people. You won’t find honest intentions at the end of it, nor will you find a heart that cares one bit about what you’re saying or confiding with them in.
People do feel terrible around narcissists. They have this incredible way of extracting feelings of inadequacy and low self-worth in those they are able to get under the skin of.
As they do that, they feel great because you feel terrible.
9. Why Are Strangers More Important Than Me?
Narcissists want to impress people they don’t know because they see them as clean slates.
They must present themselves perfectly, even if they get just 30 seconds to impress a stranger. They want those 30 seconds to be unforgettable.
What a great parent/partner/boss they are!
How lovely to know that person!
And yes – naturally that’s what they want to have people believe they are.
You? You know them. You know their personality twists and turns, and you know how they can be evil as well as charming.
If you had 30 seconds with a stranger, you would want to keep a lid on that evil, and set the charm free.
