If you think two narcissists are going to cause maximum destruction together, you’d be right.

They are a powerful duo, capable of causing much damage on the path they walk…. And I mean to each other and the rest of the world.

There are reasons why they work, though. And by work, I don’t mean they’re all destined to live happily ever after…

…But they do enjoy dating each other.

Are you prepared to hear about how two huge egos can make it work?

You’d better hold on…

Is it Even Possible…?!

You’d be surprised!

Of course, yes, two enlarged egos can find each other attractive and successfully date…

…I didn’t promise the reasons wouldn’t be awkward though. 

Does Forever Really Mean “Forever?”

Forever doesn’t really matter to narcissists. They can say it, because to them, ‘forever’ is just a word. That doesn’t mean they have to live by that; indeed, they understand that about each other.

When one narcissist leaves the other, you will find a lot of scorn and a great deal of unpleasant reactions. That’s not because they thought they’d be together forever, but mostly because they were the ones ‘dumped.’

There really is no love lost when two narcissists part ways, which for them, works really well.

Let’s Get To Those 9 Awkward Reasons Why Narcissists Enjoy Dating Other Narcissists!

1. Intimacy Can Be Something Silently Understood

Narcissists hate intimacy. They pretend to love it because it helps them get involved with their spouse. After all, there must be good things about them for the spouse to remain, right?

Narcissists are fleeting with their intimacy, and it tends to be that intimacy is where their comfort zone begins and ends. They aren’t afraid to bump with you, but they’re afraid of the post-intimacy conversations about love and the future you’re going to start up.

That’s why two narcissists work when they are together – the latter tends to not exist. 

Intimacy starts and ends, and then it’s business as usual. Their equally shallow views on life compliment each other during times like this – and as awkward as it is – they enjoy that!

2. Two Egos Joining Forces

Who has the biggest head? 

Hey! They both do! 

Can you imagine the destruction that one ego has, then double it?!

People had better take cover!

Nothing is high quality or pleasant about two egos in the same room. They openly compete and become in competition with each other, but that’s how it works for them.

Nobody else really gets a look in. People go truly unnoticed because it’s just about the two main characters.

3. To Make Them Look Good

Oooh, look, another person who loves the finer things in life.

What a great trophy this person would make on my arm.

They have it all – and even if it’s fake – they pretend well!

Narcissists love having each other on their arms, especially when they are out. They love to impress separately so when together, they really do make each other look good. 

Little do they know how much they equally suck all the positive energy out of the room…

4. Their Material Lives Blow UP

Narcissists are equally as obsessed with owning the best of everything as each other. If it’s not the hottest kitchen appliances they can brag that they have, it’s the newest car or the vacation on the most envied airline. 

It goes beyond showing off. Narcissists’ material lives make up most of their image. They think that people will associate that greatness with their character if they have great stuff.

You heard me right.

Narcissists are shallow enough to think the two correlate. 

As narcissists usually fight to be first, if you have two narcissists dating, they come as one, and will compete as one. 

5. “Look At Us” – The Power Couple

Without being involved with another, narcissists love people looking at them.

Check me out, I have so much going for me.

Look at what I can do in the world!

Look at all my connections, people I know, places I have links to.

Combine this with the ego of another narcissist, and you will definitely be watching two people be even more powerful together. 

Anybody not in that bubble of toxicity will be made to feel less than. On the outside, it really does appear that they live in their own world, and we are all merely ticket holders to see the show.

6. Two Wrongs Somehow Make a Right – For Now 

I find it strange to think that two wrongs make a right because, in essence, they don’t. Two people who destroy and intend on doing so shouldn’t suddenly become angelic – and they don’t.

However, they work together, even just for a short while. I don’t want to assume that all narcissists, when dating each other, always break up – but they mostly do.

You simply cannot sustain two huge egos in one relationship forever – it’s not even healthy when one is in a relationship!

But initially, yes, there are sparks, even fireworks. And it works for a little while. 

7. Fireworks!

Speaking of fireworks – I think this reason needs a category all by itself!

When two narcissists meet and decide to date, it’s usually down to one thing – passion. They know exactly how to please the other, and things will likely be spicy and fiery. 

It’s what narcissists know how to do well, and in doing so, they’re kind of canceling out their insecurities, albeit temporarily, with a lot of physical closeness

8. A Reflection Of Themselves

Narcissists are familiar with other narcissists in the sense that they see them as reflections of themselves. 

It’s that familiarity they feel they can handle and deal with on a daily basis, and it’s what keeps many of the relationships floating above water.

Neither narcissist wants to raise subjects like insecurities or promises for the future. They both know how uncomfortable that makes them feel – so it’s always avoided.

You can see why they really work for the space of time they do!

However, that’s one mirror I don’t wish to own!

9. Blissfully Unaware of The Dramatic Ending

Narcissists don’t look ahead. If anything, they only look to the past, which is where all their grudges originated!

There will always be a dramatic ending when two narcissists part ways, but they aren’t thinking about that right now.

They only care about the present moment and how much they’re getting from supplying each other.

The lack of worry that it will end often means the relationship thrives more…

…Until it burns out!

How To Outsmart The Narcissist?

Outsmarting a narcissist might seem like something you would never be able to do.

Think of all those times that toxic person has made you feel small, or even nothing. The idea of outsmarting them won’t come naturally to you, right?

Wrong!

You can absolutely outsmart a narcissist. They won’t see it coming, they won’t see you coming – and it will be a shock to their narcissistic system!

Finding ways to outsmart a narcissist can be fun, and it will put you right back in control of your life.

So, let’s see a show of hands to see who’s with me?

Narcissists: The Truth Behind the Mask

Narcissists! 

You’ve likely encountered them at some point in your life, right? That’s why you’re here!

Narcissists walk into a room and act like they own it, even if they’ve just walked into your kitchen. It’s incredibly frustrating.  

Masters at creating a toxic air of confidence and superiority, narcissists hide behind their mask. Behind it all? Insecurity and neediness!

You know it well, I’m certain!

Narcissists can be charming and persuasive when they want to be. 

They’re also incredibly convincing at it. 

But don’t be fooled. 

Their charm is a well-rehearsed act designed to get what they want, whether from you or from others.

They thrive on control and manipulation, and will do what it takes to continue this weird game of human chess they are experts at. 

Understanding the core of a narcissist is crucial for all of us – especially you. 

Beneath all charm and smiles, they are often fragile. They fear their true selves being exposed – and they do all they can so that doesn’t happen. 

This fragility makes them dangerous, but it also makes it possible to outsmart them. 

Once you know what exactly is lurking behind the mask, you’ll be much better equipped to deal with their toxic tactics.

They Think They’re So Clever!

Narcissists believe they are the smartest person in the world, and nobody else compares even marginally. 

They convince themselves of this, and do their best to convince others too.

They use their quote-on-quote “intelligence” to dominate conversations and situations, which only makes others feel inferior. Is this a familiar story to you? 

It is to so many people, sadly.

The narcissist has a deep sense of superiority, which acts as a double-edged sword. 

Yes, it fuels their confidence and bravado. But also, it makes them vulnerable to being outsmarted. If you think about it, anybody can outsmart them, and it certainly doesn’t take much at all. 

Their arrogance blinds them to their own weaknesses, which can backfire on them!

What does this mean? Well, it means the narcissist can sometimes really underestimate others. 

Good news for you though – as this overconfidence is where you can find your edge.

Dealing with a narcissist requires more than just holding your ground; it’s about understanding their playbook and using their own tactics against them. They think they’re so clever, but with a little knowledge and strategy, you can turn the tables.

You? Really? …

Yes! Really!

You’re here because you’ve had enough of the narcissist’s mind games, right?

Outsmarting them is now a healthy option for you, and you should definitely do all you can to do it.

If the narcissist is your friend, boss, family member or lover – the time has come to regain control and peace of mind. 

You’re so not alone.

Many people struggle with how to handle narcissists effectively. 

The key? 

Outsmart them!

Let’s get to the good bit…

How to Outsmart a Narcissist

#1 Be Firm – Set Your Boundaries!

Narcissists are known to thrive on pushing limits, no matter who they belong to. Oh yes, expect boundaries to be constantly tested. They will look for your weakness and then exploit them, until now, that is!

The first step in outsmarting a narcissist is to get your boundaries as firm and clear as possible. This means being completely transparent about behavior you will accept, and what behavior you won’t.

Don’t stop short at setting boundaries, you have to enforce them too. When that narcissist attempts to walk all over them, you have to calmly and consistently push back. 

Make your language clear – and assertive. No, they won’t like it, but hey, this isn’t about them anymore, is it? The less emotion you apply, the better. After all, narcissists feed off any kind of reaction.

Composure is key, just like consistency. 

#2 “Gray Rock”

The gray rock method is such an empowering tool when dealing with any narcissist. 

The idea of gray rock is to make yourself as uninteresting and unresponsive as possible.

You might think that sounds easy but it does take a little practice to get it just right.

Remember, narcissists crave drama and seeing you act ‘overly-emotional.’ By being boring and unengaging, you deny them that very satisfaction they seek.

Bingo!

When they try to provoke you, be bland. Be the human equivalent of vanilla.

Avoid showing anger, frustration, excitement – any of it. Over time, they are strongly likely to lose interest in trying to manipulate you because you’re not giving them the fuel they need.

You’ve become so boring!

No…. I am just doing my best to outsmart your attitude…

#3 Deflection – Master It!

Narcissists love to put you on the spot – it’s their attempt to make you feel uncomfortable. 

One way to tackle this is to master what I like to call the art of deflection.

Whenever they try to criticize or undermine you, that’s when you redirect the conversation. Ask them a question that shifts the focus back onto them or onto a neutral topic.

I’ll give you an example.

They criticize your decorating work at home (how predictable, right?) 

Now you respond with, “Interesting point. What do you think about the weather lately?” 

It sounds crazy, but it really throws them off and totally stops them in their tracks. 

#4 Information is Preparation!

Ah yes, narcissists will often use misinformation and lies to manipulate everybody else. 

You can outsmart them here by being well-informed and prepared. Do your research, re-check facts, and even have evidence to back it all up. 

Many people I know have been known to write down information or revert to old texts for screenshots to prove their points. 

This will all reduce the narcissist’s ability to use deception against you.

This is all about concrete information – and who can argue with the facts?

#5 Gather Your Support System

It’s not uncommon for narcissists to isolate their victims to assert themselves and gain more control.

You can maintain a strong network of people you love and trust. Seek support from anybody you know who may understand the situation you’re in, and who can provide advice.

Encouragement is also heavily advised here!

Having that crucial support system will help you stay grounded in your reality. When a narcissist is trying their best to get to you, you have people you can rely on to turn to. 

Let’s start unlock that potential!