Tell a narcissist the truth, and you’re either going to get the Jekyll or the Hyde response. If you want to see them really lack handling of the truth, you’ll get the latter.
What prompts this response, though? Why are there some truths the narcissists just cannot deal with?
You can see it gets up their nose, and they just lose their minds.
Well, I happen to have eight truths narcissists can’t handle – and these are literally the worst truths to a narcissist.
What are they?
Well, let’s jump in and find out!
Facing the Truth: Possibility?
Is it possible for a narcissist to handle any truths?
You’d hope so. The narcissists you and I know are going to be adults, and adults should be fully equipped to recognize and admit to what’s going on around them.
Narcissists, despite their age, will never handle some truths. It can almost make them more childlike as you see them struggle with it.
Is it ever possible for a narcissist to change and handle it all?
I’ll keep it simple here:
Nope!
You Want Honesty – They Want Lies
Honesty is something we all want. With that comes good and strong relationships.
You’re not going to find that with a narcissist, sadly.
You will find your desperation for honesty becoming more apparent while they continue to lose themselves in the truth.
8 Truths Narcissists Can’t Handle
These eight truths are some of the most brutal for a narcissist. What do you think?
#1 Somebody Else Has More Success
It’s hard for any narcissist to drop their ego low enough to see that other people are capable of success. You see them glancing around constantly, making sure everybody else is slightly below them on the ladder.
If they try to get to the narcissist’s heights, they’re shot back down.
The truth is – people are successful every day, in so many ways. Narcissists might hate it, but they can do nothing about it.
That is exactly why they can’t handle it. Sadly for them, they just need to be the best all the time. If they aren’t, they will claw down those who are and take their place.
#2 The World Doesn’t Revolve Around Them
SHOCK HORROR!
I haven’t been this surprised since I found out the Tooth Fairy wasn’t real!
(Wait, what?)
Okay… The world doesn’t revolve around the narcissist at all.
It doesn’t revolve around anybody. Admitting that is impossible for the narcissist who needs to know that everybody is focusing on them and paying them attention.
Narcissists are totally let down by the idea that life moves with or without them. Some people don’t even need them in their lives.
It’s enough for the narcissist to experience sleepless nights of worry and sheer panic.
It’s tough though, right?
#3 They Actually Don’t Have Control Of Anybody Else
Narcissists have to work daily to keep or gain control of other people. They use tactics that destroy the souls of the innocent. It’s done because as far as the narcissist is concerned, there’s really no other way to live.
In truth, they know they don’t have control, which is why they need to do so much to gain it.
Instead of admitting they lack control of what everybody else does, they just do everything in their power to keep that control switched on all the while they can.
#4 How Abusive They Are
No abuser is going to hold their hands up and say, “I am abusive.” To be completely serious, abusers will hide from you all the ways they covertly and overtly abuse, while maintaining the smiling, innocent public demeanor.
To them, it’s a case of denial. It’s also a huge case of, “I do what I have to do in order to remain in control.”
They can’t stand being stood up to, and they prefer their victims to be submissive and obedient.
The second you rise up and tell them that they are abusive, they won’t be able to handle it at all.
That’s not to say it isn’t the truth – I mean we all know narcissists are toxic and unhealthy, and incredibly abusive. I’m here to tell you that I see that, and I especially see it in narcissistic characters.
Try telling them that though? They aren’t going to be happy, and they won’t be able to handle it.
#5 That They Are Responsible For Their Own Actions
Narcissists are forever blaming other people.
What they did is somehow your fault.
What they said is somehow the problem of somebody else.
A problem at work has to be because a coworker wasn’t listening.
It goes on and on, but the fact of the matter is – narcissists are responsible for what they do, but they will go to their grave smiling before they admit that.
Not being able to handle the blame comes from a deep seated fear of being exposed as the real version of themselves.
They’d rather cover it up with lies and project the blame onto everybody else than go down in the fire.
#6 They Messed Up
Oh yes, I tried to do it, but it didn’t work out and I totally messed up. It was all me.
If you’ve ever heard a narcissist say anything remotely similar to this – you’ve done better than the vast majority.
Narcissists mess up all the time in some ways or another. Hearing them admit it will never happen because admitting they did proves they aren’t the perfect people they made out they were.
I mean – we all knew that anyway, right?
#7 That They Cheat and Lie
Narcissists can’t handle the fact that they aren’t good people. By that I mean the entire side of them that’s okay with cheating and lying their way through life.
A narcissist wouldn’t be the toxic person that they are without the innate and self-forgiving act of cheating and lying their way through life.
They don’t care who they hurt, they don’t care who they cause pain – as long as they’re getting what they want.
#8 That Growing Up Is a Real Challenge
Can we all agree that narcissists can’t grow up? I mean, physically, yes, they’re adults. But inside, they’re just kids with no emotional regulation or patience. They think the world owes them a favor. They believe the world also revolves around them.
It’s challenging for a narcissist to be a grown-up; it really is. They pretend so well, and they are great at booking vacations, paying the bills, or generally getting by, but the emotional stuff?
That’s a truth they can’t handle – because they have no emotions.
They never did, and they never will.
