8 Signs The Narcissists New Supply Is Not Winning

The new supply, eh? Isn’t it crazy that you’re witnessing the narcissist frantically find somebody new to manipulate and control?

Seeing as you’re likely no longer that person, the narcissist will need to get what they extracted from you, so they search, and they find.

But what if things go wrong sooner rather than later? When the new supply isn’t winning, expect to see these 8 signs.

#1 Overposting Overcompensation

Is the perfect life on full display? 

Look at us!

So happy!

Here we are, at the theater.

Cheers!

Cozy night in with my love.

These kinds of captions go on and on and on and on. It’s intense. They mean it all, they love it all, but is it real life? Absolutely not! Love is beautiful, but it’s also a lot of things, too.

It’s doing the dishes, and putting the trash out. It’s forgetting to put gas in the car, or burning the dinner. It’s being too tired to talk before bed sometimes, or using all the hot water.

It’s life. And love is woven into it all every single day, but it is not always perfect. 

Overly posting perfection means the photos only serve to paper the cracks behind it, and I firmly believe that.

Sure, post your happy memories and experiences. But let’s not pretend love is always perfect, because it isn’t. 

If you do, somebody somewhere isn’t winning. 

#2 Copy-Paste Romance

Something seems odd, right? You’re sensing a lot of similarities, and sensing the same pattern of love-bombing and general dynamics that you were once stuck in.

You see the narcissist taking their supply to the same places they took you. The same flowers, even. The same TV shows. The same food. In fact, it’s pretty damn scary to see their new relationship copy out play by play. 

And that’s how you know it’s not going to last. I mean, if it were, then you’d still be together, right?

This is a prime example of how narcissists don’t go into relationships based on the person; they go and play the same game over and over again with different people with everything they have rehearsed in the past. 

Copy it, paste it, and don’t even do anything differently. 

It’s a frightening thing, guys!

#3 The Glow-Up’s Gone Dim

Didn’t take long for the spark to go at all, did it?

You look and from afar, everything seems in order. The two of them are still together, making it work, doing things together. Then you take a few steps closer, and a different picture begins to emerge. 

You see a faded smile, and a puff of smoke where the park once was. 

You see a little imperfection beginning to seep through the cracks that you didn’t initially notice.

Yep – the honeymoon period is officially over, and you’re starting to see your own memories be reproduced in their relationship. 

In a way, it makes you feel pretty good, but you can’t help but feel sorry for the new supply.

They’ve got to go through all the pain you did, and you know it’s a hard journey to climb out of.

Here’s where you have to remember that it’s not really your problem. 

#4 Already Searching For More

Bored already, huh? Well, I’d guess the new supply was good for a little while, but now the narcissist is hungry for more, and won’t stop in their quest until they find more of it elsewhere.

You see, that’s the issue with narcissists. They will love hard on you until they suddenly realize you aren’t enough.

And that has nothing to do with you actually being enough as a person. It just means the narcissist is never satisfied. 

There are only certain types of losers in this dynamic. There’s you, the person who loses out on experiencing real love.

Then there’s the narcissist – the actual loser. 

#5 Hyper-Validation Mode

Listen, if the new supply is trying to prove they aren’t happy, there’s something bigger going on under that surface.

I think all victims head into a relationship with a narcissist thinking it’s the best moment of their life.

They feel on top of the world – think of all that affection, attention and feeling special. 

The narcissist is so good at that. 

And it’s so validating to know that you see it for what it is – for what you went through.

It’s fair, too, right? It’s fair that the truth should appear before you like this, so you can know that you weren’t imagining that gut feeling of something not being right.

Now it isn’t right for the new supply. 

It doesn’t matter how much they try to smile their way through it, you see it for what it really is. 

Fake. 

#6 Mini-Me Makeover

The new supply is getting tired of being compared to you. The narcissist has made them over to be some kind of cardboard cutout, and they think that comes with the new supply acting just like you, too.

We aren’t all the same though, and while similarities may run parallel, that doesn’t mean the narcissist is going to get the exact same response from them as they did you.

Remember, this is what they’re hoping to achieve. They think if they treat somebody else the same, abusive way, that that person will offer out the same results.

How mistaken they are – and naive, too. They should know that people are more complex than that, but again, they’re living in their own world. 

The same could be said for the feeling they get as they extract that supply. It just doesn’t feel good, it doesn’t feel the same.

That’s because nobody can replace you, and nobody can mimic what you went through quite in the same way as you.

The narcissist can make their new supply up however they want. They’re still never going to replicate you entirely. 

#7 Love-Bomb Hangover

It doesn’t take long for the dust to die down, does it? The texts have gotten tired, the constant compliments are running out and sounding repetitive, and the charm isn’t having the same effect as it initially did when they first met their new supply.

There is a sting of staleness in the air, as the love-bombing dissipates, and the hangover begins. 

All is not as it was built up to be, and the rose tinted glasses are falling off. 

And you, the outsider, can see it. The narcissist senses it, too. That’s why they’re starting to lose (their worst nightmare, by the way).

Narcissists only want to win. If they seem to be losing, they’re running the strong risk of being exposed as the imperfect, disingenuous person they really are. 

Hey, that’s not your problem.

#8 You’re Still the Obsession

Only one sure way of knowing that you are still the narcissist’s obsession is the evidence that their new supply just isn’t winning. 

And it’s funny in a way, because the two of you were done a long time ago, yet it feels as if the relationship hasn’t ended in the slightest.

That’s because for one of you, it hasn’t. And for them, they can’t let it go that you’re officially out of the picture and have taken such a good source of supply with you. 

And so they obsess over what they once had. And it pains them that they cannot replicate that with somebody else, even though they’ve tried really hard to make it happen. 

Let them obsess over you. Because it’s the closest they will get to actually having you again.