Oh, I love that!
Really? I think it kinda sucks.
I really want to buy a pair of those, they look nice.
Um, I think they look pretty terrible on you, actually.
I really want to try this for a new hobby.
I don’t think so. You won’t last five minutes.
As I write these words, I know many of you are going to feel them. It’s soul destroying to like something that the narcissist automatically rejects.
I’ve got 8 reasons why they do this to give you some idea that there’s nothing wrong with you at all.
I’m on your side!
That Feeling
Let’s talk about that for a minute before we get into those 8 things, because I know that’s what’s going to surface here with you all.
When you really like something, it’s a great feeling, isn’t it? You’re drawn to a song, or a hobby, or a sunrise, or a property or car, or a new goal or passion you want to follow and create for yourself.
You’ve managed, through the presence of an abusive relationship, to still find a part of you that is alive.
That spark hasn’t completely faded to nothing, and you want to hang onto it and explore it.
And all you want is for the person you’re with to support you, or at least take an interest in what you like.
Because that’s what people do, right? Even having a narcissistic friend or family member, you’d think they’d be on your team.
If it makes you happy, then what could the problem possibly be?
It doesn’t make sense to see a person who supposedly cares about you to hate what you like.
What exactly are they trying to achieve by disapproving you?
#1 To Create Conflict
Anything for a bit of a fight, right?
I don’t necessarily mean physical fighting here, but sadly, there are some narcissists out there with a wild and unacceptable physical streak within them.
Just as hurtful yet invisible to the skin, emotional conflict still packs a hard punch, and that conflict is what all narcissists love.
They want to have a problem and voice it so that you can make your apologies and backtrack, or stop doing what they deem to hate.
They want to rile you up so the memory of what you like is recorded over with that very moment you both fell out.
Of course, the narcissist is fully aware that you’re only falling out because they’re creating this heavy, toxic atmosphere.
It’s not right at all, but here we are.
#2 They’re Jealous of You
What are you liking doing so badly that the narcissist is just completely unable to do themselves? Maybe they’ve tried, but they just aren’t natural like you.
Perhaps they can’t feel the inner joy of seeing that golden sunset.
They’re drastically unlikely to be able to enjoy a show or movie that involves having any kind of imagination, so they will make you feel almost embarrassed for liking it yourself.
The narcissist is limited emotionally – but that shouldn’t be your fault or problem.
Jealousy comes from wishing they could do what you do so freely, but narcissists are much more rigid of character, and see fluidity as vulnerability.
#3 The Desire to Ruin Your Confidence
It’s such an unnatural thing to want to ruin somebody’s confidence.
Even if you don’t know or like a person, why would you want to waste time on it when you can work on your own energy?
Narcissists do have that desire, and they will continue to explore it while wanting to knock the life out of you.
It’s dumb.
Why do you bother?
For you, these words cut like a knife, and all guaranteed to send you spiralling, not wanting to bother at all.
#4 They Hate Everything Anyway
I’ll call it for what it is – they really do hate everything. It’s going to be pretty easy to see when you dig a little deeper into the mind of a narcissist.
You’ll have a bunch of evidence to go by as you notice their disdain on a day-to-day basis…
…But it’s there! The hate they have for everything will include whatever is it you happen to like, too.
In my eyes, that’s a great excuse to not give a bleep what they think.
It’s not your problem they find fault with every little thing in the world. And it shouldn’t be contagious.
#5 As An Excuse to Mock You (Then Make it Better)
The problem, then the cure, right? What a way to spin you out into interstellar space and time.
Narcissists can be so clever like that, you know. They want to be seen as the hero, but only in a trauma they’ve subliminally created.
Mocking you then trying to make it better is just not okay, and it can really affect you in the long term.
If they can tease you, they can make it up to you afterward. So all is forgiven…
…Except you still have the reminder that they were a huge asshole.
#6 To Dismiss Your Passion
Narcissists are passionate about nothing other than looking good. If they’re showing off, then they’re in an absolutely perfect world.
As far as I’m aware, I’ve never come across a narcissist who is genuinely passionate about a project or hobby or person or lifestyle that doesn’t pertain to their self-perfected image.
They need life-boosters. The material. The pain of other people. They’re passionate about fracturing relationships and creating a miserable world to live in for you.
If that includes stomping all over what you feel passionate about, they will do it.
Their aim?
To dilute you in all ways possible.
#7 To Control What You Do Like
You surely can’t like this! What about that instead?
This is where you want to work, not where you currently go to barely earn a check.
How can you seriously enjoy watching this? Try this – this is brilliant!
So, the idea is to stop what you’re doing, listen and tune yourself into what the narcissist loves, because that’s where you will find your happiness.
Newsflash – you are not them, and they are not you. We like different things in life, and if the narcissist can’t accept that, then maybe just maybe, they are the ones with the problem.
Refuse to be controlled, and find yourself rooting firmly in what you like because it represents you.
Let them get on with their toxic life all by themselves.
#8 Because They Can’t Do It Themselves
If a narcissist isn’t able to do it, they won’t like seeing you breeze through it with ease.
I’m not going to lie, they will be livid to see you just enjoy whatever it is you like.
On top of that, they will probably tease you about it, make you regret the day you decided to try or do anything new, and leave you wishing you’d not bothered at all.
All because they’re incapable.
Are you sure you want to quit, just because the narcissist is pushing your buttons?
If anything – it would only make me want to do it more!
If I were you, and I liked something a narcissist was trying to draw a gray cloud over, I’d like it anyway.
It doesn’t matter what they think, even if they’re trying to make their childish emotions a big deal.
The only feeling you get is that what you’re doing is wrong, when in fact – as proof has it – it’s all because the narcissist is being narcissistic!
