Narcissists are absolutely sadistic, and they can become even more so when they are bored.
To prove my point, I’ve got 8 of the most sadistic things narcissists do when they’re bored, and they carry as much danger with them as any other approach a narcissist has.
Boredom doesn’t equal peace to these people, and I want you to be aware that the moment the narcissist seems as though they haven’t spoken much lately, they are still thinking up what to say and do to ruin your life.
Let’s not pretend any more, let’s just dive in.
#1 Pick fights over nothing
The narcissist sits, bored at the state of nothingness the day is bringing.
They wonder what to do to make things more interesting, and before you know it, you are a victim of their next game. Let’s not pretend the game is fun, either.
When a narcissist is bored, they will pick fights over nothing. One word from you that they can twist or turn into a fight, a tone of your voice that they decide is brutal or rude, and one imagined act.
That’s all it takes.
And this shouldn’t make you feel on edge, because that’s not how this works.
It’s not that you should walk around not knowing how to act. You aren’t the problem, the problem is that boredom feels like emptiness to the narcissist, and they need stimulation.
They find it in picking fights with you for their enjoyment, nitpicking and doing anything to break the monotony.
#2 Spread rumors or gossip
When life gets dull for the narcissist ,they love to create stories. Yes, sometimes that may involve your name, and others not so much.
People will be on their hitlist, and that’s where the invention of stories or the spreading of rumors and lies comes up.
The narcissist wants to point fingers, trying to find drama where there is none, and looking to cause as much damage as they can.
Suddenly, where boredom once was, there lies power and control, and they feel important.
Pretty sad if you ask me, wouldn’t you agree?
When a narcissist lights fire just to feel the heat from it, it’s you who will have to suffer the flames without condition. It’s your name, or those you love.
And no, it isn’t in the slightest bit fair.
#3 Ignore you to see how you will react
Silence shouldn’t be used as a weapon, but when a narcissist is bored ,they will pull the silent treatment card out and make you feel like you’ve done something terrible to them.
They don’t need space, they are only interested in watching you panic.
They pull away, disappear emotionally, and they stop responding when you need them.
Will you text or call? Will you say sorry even though you aren’t quite sure what you’re apologizing for?
They wait and watch, wanting your reaction.
It’s crazy to think that all of this is born from boredom, isn’t it? Alas, here we are discussing the immaturity of a narcissist who doesn’t know how else to act.
Don’t doubt yourself in the slightest. This is all their own doing.
#4 Play mind games
A narcissist will say one thing, but do another. They will want you to hear the words they speak, but they won’t want you to know what they really feel.
Tomorrow you may receive praise, but tomorrow you will be heavily criticized, and this is all from being bored.
It’s that kind of confusion that keeps you focused, but the focus lays entirely on them, and not you.
You spend time trying to figure them out, but how can you figure out something as odd as odeon?
Normal people might go for a walk or take up a hobby if they are wanting to pass time productively. It’s not an excuse to become even more abusive.
Your confusement shouldn’t be the narcissist’s entertainment, and being bored is no excuse to take it all out on you and make you suffer further.
#5 Hide stuff
When your keys disappear or your phone goes missing, you might start to think you’re going crazy.
You’re sure you left them on the side, but they’ve gone – again.
You search the house and stress out completely, doubting your memory or where you even deem important places to be.
All the while you’re looking, the narcissist is watching you. They shrug when you ask if they’ve seen any of the aforementioned items, but nothing.
Soon enough like magic, the items show up, and you wonder why you didn’t see them before.
That’s because they were missing, and the narcissist hid them. For entertainment, they wanted to watch you try and find them, and watch how unsettled looking for them makes you.
They love to watch you doubt yourself, because it’s the best entertainment going. And so the chaos is manufactured, and they get power from it.
Disturbing? I’d say so.
#6 Gaslight you
Gaslighting is a great way for a narcissist to rewrite history, in the boldest of ways.
They love to make you think that your memory is shrouded by inconsistencies, and they convince you that they know what really happened, or what was really said.
You are imagining that.
It never happened.
You’re too sensitive right now.
Boredom strikes again, and they want to destabilize you and make you think you’re going mad.
It’s fun for them, and a boredom reliever, for sure. When you experience gaslighting, you experience an opportunity for the narcissist to own your mind and the more you doubt yourself, the more the control will shift to them.
All this from boredom? Absolutely. Narcissists can’t live peaceful lives. They have to always be ruining the lives of somebody.
#7 Test your patience
A narcissist will test your patience and push and push you until you are at your breaking point.
They’re late to dinner on purpose. They forget the important things. They don’t call when they say they will.
They constantly cross small boundaries that lead to the demise of the bigger ones, and all because they’ve got time on their hands they want to waste.
It’s all for fun and games to them. They measure your limits to know how far to push you next time, and when you stay calm, they go further and further to see what you’ll tolerate.
This is not love, it’s harmful, and I know it can be a wicked wake up call, but it’s one I feel you all need if you have a narcissist in your life.
#8 Pretend to break up with you
I think we’re done.
I’m not happy any more.
I can’t do this.
Maybe we should go our own way.
These lines are heavy, and they should come at a point where there is nothing genuinely left.
Sadly, narcissists will use these lines when they’re particularly bored, because they want to see your face and judge your fear. They love to watch and sit out your pain and pleading.
Then they will eventually give you the benefit of the doubt and want to ‘try again.’
Could there be anything crueler?
No.
