So you’re waiting on some honesty from the narcissist…?

Can I ask, how long exactly have you been waiting?

If I can be honest myself, you’ll be waiting a lifetime, and even then, it’ll neer happen.

So, if you want to see a narcissist lie live in action, you only have to ask them one of the following eight questions. I’m offering them to you because I know those questions revolve around you wanting answers or reassurance.

You aren’t going to get it.

The Value of Honesty 

It’s priceless, right? I mean, part of me wants to place a value on honesty, but I can’t.

There isn’t a number that would come close to ticking that box, so I’m going to say – honesty is priceless.

Without honesty, what are any of us? In relationships, we all want transparency that extends their longevity.

Although the truth can sometimes hurt, it’s better to know what’s really going on than have it covered up.

Honesty ignites trust, which tightens bonds. You can’t tell a narcissist that though, because all they will do is abuse it, like they abuse everything else.

Living With a Liar

There’s nothing easy or nice about living with somebody who cannot offer you an ounce of honesty. 

And I don’t want you to get this twisted – because even when they seem as though they’re being honest – they’re also lying. You know the times I mean, don’t you?

You look awful.

Do you seriously think you’re going to start a cake business? Your cakes are so dry!

Why are you always so impossible?

It’s hard to step out of the equation long enough to realize that these kinds of criticisms you grow to expect from a narcissist aren’t real – but I’m here to tell you that they really aren’t.

They’re sent to you with such enthusiasm and vigor that they sound like they’re really meant, though. 

That’s the aim of the narcissist!

So the next time you hear anything that tries to pull or drag you down, remember how much of a lie they are, and how 

Security You’re Never Going to Get

When you are asking the narcissist a question – or anybody else for that matter – you automatically assume you’ll get an honest answer.

It stands to reason that the honesty you expect will offer a level of security that sustains your relationship—but it’s never that easy. 

8 Questions Narcissists Can’t Honestly Answer

So, let’s get to those burning questions you might have for the narcissist – and how they dodge each one like it was a bullet. 

#1 “Do You Love Me?”

Ouch.

Are you ready for all the words in the world to come firing at you?

Expect the world’s biggest word salads, followed by the confusing look on your face that reads, “I actually didn’t even get a straight answer from you.”

What kind of a question is that? Why are you suddenly asking me how I feel about you? Is it not obvious?

Oh, I see. I guess you’re feeling a little insecure today. I can’t keep reassuring you of how I feel if you’re going to ask me again the next day or week. 

I guess you need me to write it down for you, would that be easier?

Why are you so insecure? Why do you keep needing my approval?

All those questions could be pointed back at the narcissist. 

You need approval and reassurance because they’ve taken away your self-esteem.

You’d like to know if they love you because just yesterday they acted like you didn’t even exist. You’re questioning their feelings because they blow so hot and cold.

And suddenly your question is your problem?

They won’t give you an honest answer because, no, they don’t love you. They love the idea of you loving them, and they love your supply, but they don’t love you. 

Instead of being honest, they project.

And you end up feeling bad about it.

#2 “Why Do You Blow So Hot and Cold?”

If you get anywhere with this question – let me know! Narcissists will see your question hurtling toward them and immediately respond with defense.

Hot and cold? What do you mean? I try to please you, but it’s never good enough!

I’ve had a long day – am I not allowed to be annoyed?

You know the kinds of responses you’ll get – perhaps you have received them yourself!

They aren’t going to be honest and tell you that it’s all part of their grand scheme.

#3 “What Did I Do Wrong?”

… Narcissists cannot answer this because, in reality, you’ve done nothing wrong!

They like to think you do because they like to control your emotions, especially when you feel on edge.

It gives them an enormous sense of superiority – and you’ll never take that away from them.

#4 “What Do You Like Best About Yourself?”

Incoming awkwardness!

As much as narcissists claim to love themselves, they don’t. Their hatred for who they really are is so intense that you’ll never get them to answer what they actually like about themselves.

Expect a lot of stuttering and bumbling as they try to give you an answer.

#5 “Are You Happy For Me?”

Cue the gritted teeth as they almost angrily reply with a very begrudging yes.

Narcissists are never happy for anybody else unless that person is suffering and in pain.

If something wonderful has happened to you, you’ll be the envy of the narcissist and they will want revenge for you being the center of everybody else’s attention. 

#6 “Do You Promise To Always Look After Me?”

Oh no. This one cuts deep, because it’s a really weighted question they must fulfill.

But they don’t. Even though they say they will. 

It’s all lies, known as future faking. 

The narcissist has no intention of looking after you. They are number one, and they’re all that matters. 

#7 “Will You Be On Time?”

Sure!

And you wait.

And wait.

And wait.

Where are they?

You daren’t be annoyed when they finally arrive because they will override your frustration with their own plus some.

You’re lucky they even turned up at all! They had so many other choices that were better than this!…

#8 “Why Are You Being Quiet?”

I’m being quiet because I know it will get to you, and when it does, you’ll start asking me if you love me.

This will make me feel important, which I have to feel every day; otherwise, my world will implode.

I like to watch you squirm, especially if you’ve had a good day, because then your happiness will fade and I’ll have you right where I want you.

Well – in an ideal world – narcissists will be honest and say all of that, but…

Instead, you’ll probably be blamed for something you didn’t do or continued to be ignored.

What Eventually Happens To Narcissists?

How Does it End For Narcissists?

Narcissists are like a really painful, long book that you have to read to understand. They don’t come with an index or bullet points. If they did, half their toxicity would fall through the cracks.

Sadly, people like you or I must experience them fully before we know each trick.

If I can offer you one fragment of light at the end of this treacherous tunnel – it’s this:

What happens to narcissists is an ending that you’re going to want to hang on for.

Let’s get into it.

“Look At Them!”

It’s enough to make you sick, isn’t it?

They live their merry little lives, seemingly getting away with anything and everything, making you want to scream from the rooftops.

Yes – it’s unfair. 

You wish they would just crumble and fall down, so you could finally see them suffer as much as they made you suffer. 

You want what happens to them to be detrimental to everything they pretend to be. 

Does The Tide Ever Turn?

What do you think? I mean, I want to be able to tell you that they do indeed turn honestly.

I also know and appreciate how it really doesn’t feel that way at the time. Constantly waiting for them to taste their own medicine can feel like waiting for rain in a drought.

But I am here to say that, yes, eventually, that rain will come.

And it will feel amazing.

The Beauty of Karma

I don’t like to meddle with Karma. Instead, I trust that everything will work exactly how it should.

Sometimes we win, sometimes we lose. The circle of life appreciates both good and bad happenings, and I am certain that includes narcissists and how they treat others. 

Karma doesn’t need you stepping in and taking over, so if you ever try to gain justice from a situation involving a narcissist, you’re likely to lose. 

Rather than that – it’s nothing but a waiting game. 

But a game you’ll definitely not want to quit.

How Does It End For Them?

No narcissist has a really happy ending. 

Ultimately, they go home alone every day, even if they go home to somebody. 

Narcissists always want to be part of something, yet never feel part of anything. It’s all empty. It’s all meaningless. They don’t have layers to them or an ounce of appreciation for their family or friends. 

That alone should tell you how it ends for every narcissist. 

They’re nothing but lonely people craving some kind of something. 

That is something they never end up getting.

#1 The Slipping of the Mask

You may have to wait a while, but the mask of a narcissist will always, I repeat, always slip off.

I know you think it can’t happen soon enough, and many of you will be screaming for it to be today—but it doesn’t work that way.

In fact, the more you try to rush the mask’s slipping, the crazier you will look.

If you want to allow their true selves to unfold naturally, you’ll have to wait for the day.

#2 Inability to Keep Up With Their Lies

We all know that lying can lead to serious trouble. Not only do you have to remember this, but you may also have to build potential lies around it so they make sense. 

Narcissists are great at lying, but they can do it so frequently that they fail to recall them all.

When you see a narcissist caught in a lie trap, they will fluff and fumble their way out as best they can with the charm they were born with. 

I want to remind you, though – the lies do catch up with them eventually.

Lies catch up with everybody. 

#3 One Small Mistake

This is all it takes, believe me. One tiny little slip up to get people talking is all it takes. 

I once knew a narcissist professionally who never took any accountability for his mistakes.

He used to cover up all his mistakes, blaming others or deleting evidence that he was responsible. 

One day, he was caught in the act. He had no defense, and even though he got really angry and tried to blame somebody else, it was clear he was to blame. 

His mistake was leaving his work pass in the room where he shredded all the information he wanted to discard. 

It’s all it took for the dominos to all fall down, and for the past to come together like a jigsaw puzzle. People saw what he was like, and nobody trusted him again. 

#4 Time Will Tell

You’re all familiar with the saying, ‘Time will heal.’ It helps if you are going through hard times or have lost somebody close to you. 

Time also heals your own heart as it allows narcissists to be revealed for who they really are.

As much as it will cause chaos, it will be healing to be validated by the entire event. 

It’s how so many victims breathe a sigh of relief and say, “Thank goodness everybody can now see them for who they truly are.”

Time will give you that. You just have to wait for it. 

#5 They Won’t Hesitate To Move!

Narcissists are renowned for moving. 

To start again, if things get too heated where they live,

Looking for work in a new city or town for a ‘fresh start.’

Usually, when they run everybody else down or play them all in their games, they run out of people.

They run out of supply.

So what do they do?

They run away.

It won’t end there, though. Moving anywhere new only restarts the whole process.

Narcissists, for that reason, never really admit to having somewhere to call home.

#6 New Friends

Of course, moving anywhere means starting up a new friendship circle. People will mingle and meet with everybody, as all new people are considered to be fresh pawns in their game. 

Friends end up being enemies before long…

In The End

You can wait and wait, but eventually, the narcissist will get their comeuppance.

In one way or another, whether being found out, having their mask slip, or having to keep bouncing from town to city to stay relevant or liked.

Please allow that to be the justice you need, because it is.

Narcissists will always be miserable. They hate being stuck or figured out, so they must constantly work out their plan to keep their true selves a secret.

Isn’t that the end you want to hear about?

I know it is for me.