Narcissists are always on the lookout for something. Whether it’s a lot of praise, a heap of attention, or new supply (sometimes this can be combined to one poor person!)
I hate that they prowl like a Lion on an African plain looking for its next meal – but it’s just what we all need to remember.
Nobody is safe – unless you get clued up and stick to your boundaries.
Those places narcissists lurk aren’t always dingy, dark corners. Sometimes, they’re in the pure sight of everybody.
Let’s look now at the top 8 places you will find a narcissist sniffing out their next victim.
Thank You… Next!
Eventually (and I am willing this to be sooner rather than later for you), the narcissist will give up on you.
No longer will they see you as their prime interest. They won’t want to offer you any more of their time or attention; they will be done.
As soon as their minds are made up, you’ll see them move onto their next victim faster than the speed of light.
You’re yesterday’s news. You’re old talk. You’re already nothing but a tiny memory to them.
They can’t wait to find fresh blood.
Why Narcissists Can’t Wait
Narcissists seldom sit in their own presence for too long. Come on! Do you really think they like their own company?
Heck no! They can’t even look in the mirror without that deep, soul-stirring pit of hatred awakening.
They do a good job of hiding it, with all their bragging and entitled ways about them, right?
Narcissists aren’t going to wait around for long. They get lonely very quickly if people aren’t stroking their egos or throwing attention their way.
And so – they need places to find a new you, and they need it fast.
If they go too long without extracting supply from the innocent, I’m pretty sure they would self-combust!
The Need is Real
So, let’s look at the list I have compiled. Some of these places may seem innocent enough, but it’s what the narcissist says or does there that should leave you firmly on guard for spotting similar where you are.
It’s time to officially avoid the narcissist!
#1 The Gym
Plenty of people love the gym. For me personally, nature is my gym. If I get the time, I love a hike, a walk, or even a run. The world and its terrain were designed to keep up connected to it, but many prefer heading to a single spot for their fitness fix.
The gym is a palace where many go to, and almost as many mingle in some way, shape or form. From a polite hello, to general chit chat with regular people you cross paths with.
Narcissists loiter at gyms like wolves on a hill on a full moon. They’re on the lookout.
They want to meet somebody who is maybe new, or who looks like they might need a little help or advice with equipment.
Of course, that may not be the case, but they are professional swoopers. If they went to Vegas with a pot of quarters, they would be known as lurkers!
Gyms are primarily all about appearance, even if the number one target was to get healthier. It’s where narcissists can show off, and boy do they love to do that.
Next victim: incoming!
#2 The Library
I know this is the total opposite of the gym – and it’s where a lot of people love to go. That doesn’t mean narcissists aren’t welcome – and they really do make themselves welcome and known in libraries.
Narcissists are so clever at trying to look like they know what they’re doing. If they see you browsing the self-help section, they will do anything to converse with you.
With a weakness already on such public display, you’re an instant hit with them.
#3 The Bar
Bars are considered meat markets for narcissists. Around every corner, there is a potential new flame waiting. It works so well because one of the first things many newly single people do is go out with their friends.
You never know who you might meet!
Let’s get you back out there!
Bars see people come and go all the time, and the more you visit, the more people you will see.
This is perfect for narcissists, who love a constant change of scenery, and want to see people dressed up in their finest with half a mind already on impressing and mingling.
#4 New Destination!
If in doubt, get up and move somewhere else!
When the narcissist has exhausted their current city or town, they move.
The catalyst for this move might be too many people figuring them out, or burning enough bridges to warrant a fresh start somewhere else.
Where nobody knows them, they can rock up and be whoever they want to be, with whatever story suits their narcissistic narrative.
#5 The Park
Just a little walk or jog. Maybe taking the dog out. Some narcissists will even borrow a child of a family or friend to get out and talk to other parents.
The narcissist won’t care who is single or in a relationship – they just want to find supply. Sometimes that can be brief – just a moment where somebody compliments them.
Oh, look at your dog! You must be such a good owner!
Oh my god, you are the nicest friend/aunt/uncle to that child!
Your new fitness regime is making you glow from the inside out!
It’s little things that add up, but those little things need to be constant.
Narcissists hunt like pack wolves for supply.
New victims are always available, if they hit the right places.
#6 Dating Apps
Dating apps.
I mean, need I say more?
Some genuine people are looking for love or friendship on apps, but narcissists are looking to impress boldly.
From the heavily edited profile photo, or the lies in their description – they will happily log in or sign up if it means they get a regular stream of messages.
A narcissistic flirt is a happy narcissist, after all.
#7 Social Media
When a narcissist wants an instant hit, they will reach out via social media to anybody willing to listen. They will usually have several people who are a clear winner when it comes to supply. These will be their next victims.
From liking or complimenting a photo, to adding friends, to messaging old flames or friends – narcissists know what to do to utilize social media to the max.
#8 Work
Work is a great place to find a new victim.
Think about it.
You already know them.
The bragging has previously been laid down.
The time spent with them is constant and daily.
Work is a fantastic way to pluck out a new victim and make sure any new plan is executed well enough for them to hang around.
