We all know how much narcissists love a text. Using words to fire at people is probably their favorite way to communicate.
Well thought out, conveniently-timed messages exude power and authority, as well as being so creepy when they want to be.
In fact, I want to go down that road today, and show you 8 examples of creepy texts narcissists send to their partners.
Give your red flag a wave for every single one you have received!
#1 “Nice jacket!”
Wait, what?
How does the narcissist know what you’re wearing? Where did they see you?
Your phone pings as you are getting into your car after picking up some groceries, and you glance around the parking lot to see exactly where the narcissist is hiding.
That’s what it feels like, doesn’t it? The narcissist is following you and stalking you, and revealing that they’ve seen you, but you have absolutely no idea where they are.
It’s creepy to think they didn’t just come and say hi, and now you’re reading the text, all you can think of is that they’re watching you read the text from afar.
You’ve had enough at this point, and decide that the best thing to do is drive off and go home, only there’s a part of you that will think, “Am I going to be followed there, too?”
What a creepy move!
#2 “You never told me you went to Africa before we met?”
You’re at work, or out with friends, and suddenly you receive a text from the narcissist. Smiling, you pick up the phone and click to open it.
And there it is. The narcissist asking you about a big trip you took five years before you met them.
You’ve never talked about it as it was a long time ago, but the narcissist seems to want to know everything, and more importantly, why they weren’t told about it.
How could they have found out? It’s unlikely they would have bumped into a fiend and spoken randomly about a vacation you took several years ago.
You reply and ask what made them say that, and they send a screenshot of your socials from your time there that you uploaded when you returned.
You scratch your head, and the creepiness sets in.
You mean, they’re sitting at home scrolling so far back into your photo albums that they felt the need to reach out and ask this?
Have they got anything better to do?
To be honest, yes, it is weird that they’re both doing this, and admitting to it.
#3 “Send me a photo of what you’re up to”
On the creepiness scale, this one really takes the biscuit. You mean to tell me the narcissist, wherever they are and whatever they’re doing, want you to send a snap of yourself?
What kind of weird is that?!
It’s as if they want you to show them what you’re doing, so they know you’re telling the truth.
Plus, it could be literally anything, and they want you to be willing to share it.
There is nothing normal about stopping your entire day just to appease the narcissist and show them what you’re doing, it’s just a creepy way to control you and make sure you drop everything for them.
Avoid falling into this trap.
#4 “You aren’t on the GPS app”
So, you and the narcissist like to both be on the GPS app that tracks where you are at any given time or place.
Rarely does the narcissist switch it on, and you never really question it. But the moment you switch yours off, or the signal is bad, the narcissist will reach out to you immediately.
Where are you?
It doesn’t say your location.
What does this mean? Well, rather creepily, it proves the narcissist checks in on you more than you would care to admit, and they prove it by wanting to know why you’re MIA.
This is another form of control, wanting to clock your whereabouts so you don’t go anywhere they don’t like or approve of.
It’s hard to even run general errands when you know big brother is watching you like this.
#5 “Your underwear drawer is full of old lady items!”
SAY WHAT?
Why are you receiving texts from the narcissist stating that they’ve been rifling through your underwear drawer, but beyond that, you’re receiving criticism from them based on the contents!
The narcissist always loves a show, and that extends into what they think you should be wearing for them at all times, which is creepy enough.
What’s even worse is that they’ve opened your drawers when you aren’t home, and gone through all your intimate items.
You’d better wave that red flag, because this is a big one!
#6 “Who is (enter name of opposite sex here)?”
Oh great. These kinds of texts are so wide open for you to fall into some kind of trap.
Why are they asking about a guy or girl you know that you may or may not have a history with?
The disturbing part is how they reached the name. DId they scroll so far back into your socials that they found an ex?
Have they spoken to somebody who let slip that – oh my God – you had a life before the narcissist?
Shock horror!
Suddenly, you have to explain yourself, when really there’s nothing to explain.
The name once meant something to you, and now it doesn’t. But the paranoid narcissist will want you to drag up your past for them so they can punish you with their jealousy.
Doesn’t seem right or fair to me, and it certainly doesn’t seem normal!
#7 “How much is on your credit card?”
Where is this one going, I wonder…?
For a start, the narcissist wants to know your financial situation, so they can judge it.
Secondly, they want to know what the chances are of being able to use some or all of your credit.
Thirdly, you’re being questioned on how responsible you are with money, so they know how much to take advantage of you.
All of these reasons for the narcissist asking you what your credit card balance is, are very creepy.
Telling them opens the door widely for further abuse, so avoid, change your passwords, and switch to paperless statements.
#8 The “images”
What are you wearing?
Send me something hot.
Send me a picture of your favorite body part.
No. No. No.
The sentence no, is full. No explanation needed, and no photos should ever be sent to somebody who is seemingly making such casual demands for what is a very personal thing – you!
Leave them to wonder what you would send or look like, but for the love of God, please don’t show them any part of you that you don’t want the rest of the world to see.
That’s exactly what the narcissist will do, because they don’t care about your privacy.
Instead, they want to brag about you and show you off to their friends.
Never share, and see their request as a disrespectful red flag.
