You have wanted and waited for this very moment for a long time. Now it’s here, you’ve got your freedom ahead of you.
You’re breaking up with the narcissist.
What comes next? Well, a lot will (or will not) pour out of their mouth, but I believe in preparing you for every scenario.
That was, you get to build yourself up for how to respond – if you even want to.
Let’s check out 8 things narcissists say when you break up with them.
Prepare!
As much as a break up with a narcissist may sound appealing, nothing ever comes without its glitches.
This is especially true when you’re saying goodbye to a person who has been so toxic in your life.
You’ve probably been waiting for a long time to mutter the G word, but as you say goodbye, say hello to a few classic phrases they’re going to come out with first.
#1 “Never Call Me Again”
This phrase is the one that the narcissist wants you to panic to.
They want to get you thinking, “Oh my God. This is it. I’ve made this choice, and it’s final.”
It’s said to put you in the position of making you feel as though you’ve gone too far with your thoughts. You’re too courageous. You’re saying something that is going to be it.
And after all this time of the narcissist implementing doubt and confusion in your mind, they will be hoping you will change your mind and ask for them back, or ask for another chance.
It puts them in the driving seat, and they’re warning you that “this is it.”
So dramatic.
You’re damn right this is it.
Won’t see ya later, alligator.
#2 “I Never Loved You, Anyway”
The ultimate and most direct form of punishment is to immediately let you know that it’s not a problem that you’re breaking up with them.
Sure, it’ll damage their pride, ego and self-esteem. It will remind them how much they hate themselves deep down, but to disguise the shock and pain, they will pretend not to care.
Don’t get that twisted with the pain of loving somebody they now can’t have. It’s not that.
This is about you denting their image, and causing a little bit of an issue with their own shit going on in their minds.
And of course, let’s be totally honest here. This is about hurting you. Because they have always done that ever since they met you.
At least now, they can be more overt about it because they have this excuse.
You broke up with them, and now they can say or do what they want.
#3 “I Will Hurt Myself If You Leave”
It’s brutal to hear a threat like this being made to you when you’re trying to do the right thing.
You want to end it, you’ve had enough, and you’re being emotionally blackmailed to stay by the narcissist.
That’s what this is, and it’s a threat so big that it makes a victim feel like they can’t afford to take that chance.
So you agree to stay and try again.
I know it’s a big thing, but this is the sort of information you need to tell a mutual friend.
Sharing is caring, and remember that what other people may or may not do is not your fault or responsibility.
#4 “Good Luck Finding Somebody Else to Love You”
It’s very easy, actually, if you give it the time necessary.
Everybody deserves a chance to be happy, you included. And love will find you. Don’t believe a word the narcissist says when they tell you it won’t.
They don’t know a thing, they just pretend to.
You probably went into this relationship feeling really secure and hopeful, only to have it all dashed the more time went by.
I’d urge you to look at how getting to know the narcissist and losing your confidence correspond with each other.
That’s exactly the reason you won’t have any problems meeting a new person in the future.
#5 “I Won’t Miss You”
That’s fine. They’re only saying that because they’re already thinking what you’re thinking about them.
You are the one who won’t miss them.
The narcissist wants to hurt you when they say this, like they always want to hurt you.
If you’re leaving them, they’re going to reach deeper into their pockets for insults that will stick, and those are designed to make you feel bad about yourself one last time before you go.
It’s also a bit of a threat, because if that attachment is there, you’re not going to like hearing that you won’t be missed.
It should be that you let them go anyway.
#6 “I Already Met Somebody Else”
Hey, that’s a good thing, right? It means the narcissist gets off your back, and you get the freedom to move on.
Okay, so it may not be true, but that doesn’t mean you can’t take it at face value.
Even when you’re in the midst of parting ways with a narcissist, they will still want a reaction from you. They want to see the pain in your face that they had somebody new lined up to replace you.
If it’s true – great. If it isn’t – dean’t this just go to show their true colors anyway?
I feel sorry for the new flame, don’t you?
They’re about to go through everything you’ve had to endure for this space of time.
And if they’re lying (which they probably are), then more fool them for not handling the break up like an actual adult.
#7 “They’re Just Trying to Split Us Up!”
The narcissist will go to any lengths to assume it was your bestie, or your mom trying to persuade you to break up.
Don’t you think it’s funny that they will try to look literally anywhere else other than in the mirror at themselves?
Hey narcissist, it was your fault this break up happened, and yours alone.
If it wasn’t for your stinkin’ attitude, we wouldn’t be having a problem, here.
They think just because they can control you, that everybody else can, too.
Don’t read into this. This was your decision.
#8 Nothing: The Ghost
Ooh, silence. There’s nothing worse than trying to interpret nothing, is there?
Who says you have to do that?
Take the narcissist’s silence and just accept it for what it is.
This is what they’ve always been known to do, remember?
They go silent when they want you to get paranoid, and it’s always worked.
And getting you to fall into the trap of thinking you’ve done something wrong has left you chasing trying to do the right thing.
But guess what? That’s not always right, either!
You can’t win!
So a more long term silence is going to be for the same effect, only stronger.
They want you to chase and regret your choice to break up, but here’s where you really need to hold your nerve.
As shocking as it can be to go from all to nothing, that’s what breaking up means.
If you’re doing it for you, then you have to take the silence as a sign to move on.
