You don’t need me to tell you how creepy narcissists are. Without even knowing their creepy hobbies, we can surmise that they already possess that weird, dark side to them.
So what if we did unlock those creepy hobbies they all possess? Would it help you see them in an even worse light? Did you think that’d even be possible?
I can assure you, it is. So let’s look at 10 creepy hobbies they have that they do not want you to know about.
#1 Collecting stuff from their exes
What is it with exes and narcissists? It’s like you don’t stop hearing about them, right?
The comparisons:
You know, Kelly used to make the best lasagna. It was a lot creamier than this.
I never used to have to watch what I say in any of my previous relationships.
She always understood when I had to work late, and now you’re being the total opposite.
This obsession with their exes continues into how much they collect from those relationships, and keep and bring into yours with them.
Not that you’ll know. It’ll all be hid in various boxes, or placed around the house without you knowing where the stuff even originated from.
#2 Online stalking
When you’re sitting down to watch a TV show, or when you’re out to dinner and the narcissist is on their phone, what do you think they’re looking at?
When they take their phone to the bathroom with them and they take a long time, what do you think they’re looking at?
I’ll tell you.
They’re stalking the latest person of interest. They’re following people of the same sex because they’re obsessed over the money or lifestyle they have and want to emulate them.
They’re stalking the opposite sex because they feel as though they’re missing out on dating these people, so they ogle them in private and watch their every move.
This is really creepy, and the worst part is, you have absolutely no idea.
#3 Gambling apps
Gambling apps are such murky waters to walk through. I play the lottery from time to time because it’s fun, but I don’t play it every week, and I certainly don’t need to rely on a 1 in a billion in order to spend money and get a bit of a fix of hope.
Narcissists love to gamble. They gamble with your life no problem, so money should be nothing to worry about.
What they won’t do, is tell you that they’re using these apps. If you find out, you’ll find out to what extent they’ve been spending behind your back, and that isn’t supposed to be your knowledge at all.
#4 Messaging people they shouldn’t be
We are entering back into ex territory here, and possibly future sources of supply the narcissist is trying to get into line for if or when your relationship ends.
Sometimes the narcissist doesn’t even care that your relationship hasn’t ended, they will source that supply anyway.
The more, the merrier in their warped, toxic eyes.
It’s not right for them to be sending messages to people you don’t know about. If the tables were turned, I am certain the narcissist would never let you live it down.
Denting their pride is worth far more conflict than the forgiveness they will demand from you if you catch them doing the same.
#5 Recording other people without their consent
Do you ever notice this when you are out and about with the narcissist you know?
Maybe they’re so subtle you can’t even tell half the time if they’re staring at themselves on their screen, or at whatever they’re recording.
Narcissists love to capture things they think are funny, or people they deem interesting for whatever reason.
Some very creepy narcissists might take a fancy to somebody in the street and want to record them, I mean there really is no limit to what they assume their boundaries are.
The most disturbing part? That they do it all without consent – or even knowledge – from the person being recorded.
#6 Tracking their like and follows on social media
Don’t even get me started with narcissists and social media. When it first hit the internet, people loved the idea and reality of connecting with family and friends.
Having them all in one place to share memories and photos with each other. It truly was a revelation at the time, but that has turned into every narcissist’s dream.
Now? Now there are filters, likes, followers, videos, edits, reels, shorts, polls, ads; you name it. It’s a place where narcissists hang out and try to constantly outdo themselves in terms of content.
But this idea that you have to track your likes and follows is really out of this world, so much so that I find it to be somewhat of an obsession by those already obsessed with themselves.
Narcissists want to be loved by as many people as possible, and social media is the perfect way to carve an image that they can show everybody.
Look at me.
My life is perfect.
I have everything I want.
I am wonderful.
Love me, follow me, like me.
It’s so needy, isn’t it? But the lengths they go to can get really quite creepy.
#7 Psychological games
You know exactly what I’m talking about. Making people wait is the best place to start here.
Narcissists want to watch you lose your mind as they roll up late to events that are meaningful to you, vacations, airports, even texting or calling you back when you’re awaiting them. Or what about giving backhanded compliments?
I never pictured somebody like you in a high powered job role.
You’re too pale to wear a beautiful dress like that.
The little digs that you know come accompanied with criticism. Can this all be some kind of creepy hobby the narcissist has?
Absolutely! But they are never going to tell you how much pleasure they get from doing this, day in, day out, to the people around them.
If there’s a psychological game to play, you can bet the narcissist will be partaking.
#8 Performative goodness
I want to roll my eyes at this last point, and we all know the kinds of things I mean, don’t we?
I am a narcissist, and I will perform good, kind acts if it means I get to perform them in front of everybody.
I want everybody to know what a good person I am.
It’s like a photo opp, and narcissists instead of performing any good, compassionate act with grace and dignity, will be booking around to see who’s watching, and who can run off and tell the rest of the world what a wonderful person they are.
This drives me crazy. It makes telling the world what an abuser they are so difficult. How can you, when they’re out there sweeping the streets or volunteering at the soup kitchen on Thanksgiving?
It’s so creepy that the only reason they want to do good is to look good to others. For me, it takes away the whole meaning of authenticity.
But we are talking about narcissists, so it makes perfect sense!
