The time has come, and you just cannot take any more.
The peace of the house was long disturbed since the narcissist moved in, and now you want it back.
Is it as simple as just asking them to go?
Will they take that kind of hint?
What do you think?!
I won’t lie – it’ll be a mission. Once complete, you will be able to breathe again.
Let’s look at 7 ways to move a narcissist out of your home – for good!
You Can’t Stand It Any More…
You’ve tried and tried for as long as you can remember, but the time has come where something has to change.
You want to be alone. You dream of being alone. So what do you do?
A house should be a sanctuary of calm and serenity, and if it isn’t, you know something has to change.
The narcissist makes their appearance known when they enter your vicinity, either with their magnetic pull or toxic and damaging push.
So if that’s happening under the roof you should be feeling safe and secure, it’s time to make a change for the better – and a permanent one at that.
Move the narcissist out, now!
#1 You’ve Got To Call Them Out
The first piece of advice I have is to make sure you call the narcissist out.
I don’t promise it will be fun, but some things are essential if you want that progression to happen.
Sometimes, progression involves making big commitments to each other, and other times, it involves breaking those commitments.
Calling them out as a narcissist is basically telling them that nothing they do will get past you any more.
You’ve understood who they are, what their game is, and just how toxic and destructive they are as a person.
So where does that leave you both?
You can’t live under the same roof as the dynamics aren’t going to work – so the narcissist will be gone very quickly.
#2 Silence
It’s awkward at the best of times, but silence will really extract the discomfort from the narcissist.
It particularly works in your favor when you no longer react to the way they try to pull you into conflict.
Where you once may have cried, shouted, shaken and trembled at them for what they’ve said, done or accused you of, you now do nothing.
It will dig into the narcissist’s annoyance, making it hard for them to find you a person of use.
You know what that means?
It means they’re going to leave and be done with it. After all, what’s the point in staying?
#3 Make It Hard For Them To Get Your Supply
How did you used to give yourself up?
Did you:
- Get drawn into arguments
- Believe them when they told you how ugly/fat/useless you are
- Abandon yourself
- Leave your version of reality only to enter theirs
- Be complacent in their mistreatment of others
- Defend them when they needed you to
- Obey them faithfully
- Stay quiet to their abuse
- Give them jealousy when they planted it within you
Whatever your supply looks like, if it stops, you are not going to have a very happy or fulfilled narcissist living under your roof.
The only way they can find happiness again is to move away and look elsewhere for that vital supply chain.
Cut them off, and you won’t be able to fuel them.
What a treat for you!
#4 Start Standing Up
Nobody else is going to do it for you, so you need to do it for yourself.
I think sometimes, that can be the problem. We want to wait for somebody to save us, but that never really happens.
Everybody else is busy with their own thing, and you have to at times do the right thing.
So what is that right thing to do in this instance?
Standing up for yourself proves you value yourself. You want to protect whatever it is they’ve worked so hard to try to break all this time under your roof.
They will not like that you’re changing and growing into a more assertive person, and that’s the very reason you’ll often see them move out pretty fast.
The dynamics they mold are no longer working, so the only wise choice is to ship out.
#5 Disagree With What’s Previously Worked
The status quo has to go!
I know you all know what that means, but to apply it to reality is quite another thing.
For however long you’ve been together, the puzzle has fit together a certain way, hasn’t it?
Your palace is there, the narcissist’s place is there, and everybody around you, fits around you.
That’s exactly what the narcissist wants.
But you know something? You take that puzzle and you tear it up, and suddenly, the narcissist has no place to go, and nowhere to look.
They don’t even know what to do first, but one thing is for sure.
They won’t want to hang around.
#6 Admit Things Aren’t Working
Hold your hands up and say, “You know what? It’s just not for me any more.
I don’t want to be in this, or work at it when no good or love is coming back. I have had enough, and I want change.”
Your admittance will initially cause panic in the narcissist’s mind. What do they do now?
It’s clear at this point that you’ll give no further form of supply to them, so their hanging around waiting is going to be pointless.
It takes a strong mind to admit that the abusive dynamic you’ve had to live with is no longer working.
But when do you do, oh, man. Your world is going to change infinitely for the better.
#7 Start To Live Your Life
Does anyone feel like the narcissist you know and live/d with has held you back? Think about who you were when you first met, compared to who you are now.
Do you feel like a shadow of yourself, or a hollowed out version?
That’s what they do. They ensure you are empty, with no joy or hobbies to reach out to and enjoy.
The moment you start to claim your life back is the exact moment they know they’ve lost you.
And all the abuse you’ve tolerated to this date is now pushed firmly into your past as you begin to build your life and your identity.
All the traits and characteristics that they took from you.
They were always yours, and grabbing them back will see the narcissist out that door for good.
