Aren’t you just tired of narcissists skating by while their actions wreak havoc on your own life? 

I bet you feel like it’s time to turn the tables, right?! 

I’ve got 10 powerful ways to make a narcissist squirm and confront the impact of their behavior. 

These strategies aren’t just about getting even. They’re actually designed to make that toxic person feel the sting of their own poison.

I want you to be ready to take control, so let’s dive in and learn how to make them feel the heat!

Is This a Game?

Some people might consider it to be playing the narcissist at their own game. I wouldn’t recommend you level their toxicity with an amount of your own. 

I do, however, think you should be able to stand up for yourself and put the narcissist back in their box by making them reflect on the wrong they love to project outward.

Knowing What You Need To Do

This isn’t about using any opportunity to pee off the narcissist. I don’t think meeting conflict and chaos with more of the same is the answer, but, it’s how you execute it.

How you pick your battles and make each one really count. Sometimes you’ll want to really lay down the law, but instead, you can just introduce a new angle to the moment, and take them by sheer surprise!

8 Ways To Make a Narcissist Feel Bad About Their Actions

#1 Logic, Not Emotion

Logic is an angel that narcissists hate. They rely on your emotions so they can feed off them. Without your emotions, they don’t have the fuel they need in order to feel so good and smug about themselves. 

Logic involves accurate perception and basing your reaction or opinion on facts—what you see, what you hear, and what is happening. There are ways to push emotions away from the scenario and just stick to what is logical.

If you were taking a nice hike and you came across an animal stuck in a fence, you’re not going to sit down and cry for half an hour about it.

No amount of tears will make the situation better, or free the trapped animal. You have to work to unfree it. Get help. Work with people. Use your logical sense. 

It’s the same with narcissists.

Showing them that you can both obtain and maintain logic, will unsettle them. They won’t know what to do, because you aren’t meeting their drama with your anger or anxiety or tears. 

#2 Do Not Justify

Narcissists are good at asking you to justify this or that, without actually directly asking you. 

They love to know that you are explaining yourself. Perhaps you were late back, or maybe you overspent at the store. 

What of it, right?

Does it need a justification?

Is the narcissist expecting you to be accountable and apologetic because of some minute reason?

Refuse to give them what they want, and instead let them feel bad about why they are probing you in the first place. 

#3 Be Consistent

The actions of a narcissist do nothing but bring down the innocent people around them.

I think it’s safe to say that if you’re going to know somebody who purposely rains on your parade, or makes everything so much harder by just existing, you’ll suffer.

How you handle their actions will matter, and what I mean by that is that you need to consistently hold them accountable. 

Of course, they will attempt to deny and project. They will blame shift and make it look like a ‘you’ problem, but in reality, none of it is.

Most embarrassingly, if you call them out and allow other people in, the narcissist is going to feel bad because now people are starting to see the real them. 

You have to remember that any way you call them out will dent their pride and ego, so they’re going to feel bad about causing that. They want an easy life.

#4 Show Your Disappointment

It almost goes beyond disappointment, and begins to circle around just being outwardly ashamed of them.

It makes them feel so small. 

Now, you don’t have to make a song and dance to do this, but you do have to know what you’re doing. For example:

Gosh. I mean, you’re a grown person. Do you honestly get a kick out of hurting people? It’s so weird that you are an adult yet still find things like this funny. 

I feel sorry for you, I really do. I think you think you’re really funny, but in actual fact, nobody is laughing except you. 

It troubles me that you think you’re a good person when you act like this. I really think you need to examine your actions because there’s so much wrong with them.

Showing your disappointment will make them think twice about how they act around you. And yes, sometimes it can make them discard you altogether because they know they can’t get the reaction from you that they want…

…Is that really the worst thing in the world?!

#5 Complain in Good Time

Complaining to the narcissist in good time about something will end up putting them in a certain headspace. 

For instance, if you are due to go somewhere at a certain time, and you know they’re playing up, you can call it out to enable them to think about what they’re doing.

Not only are they letting you down, but they will look bad to the people they’re supposed to be meeting.

Narcissists don’t want to look bad!

#6 Consequences Be Known!

If there are consequences, let them be known to the narcissist! You won’t tolerate this, you won’t put up with that. 

Heck, some of it may be that you will refuse your interactions with them or severely limit them at the very least. 

The narcissist is going to feel bad here because they start to see strength in you. You’re growing and evolving into a knowledgeable person, and they can’t stop you. 

#7 Document

Document everything that happens. Keep screenshots, save emails, make a note of conversations – whatever it takes. 

When you confront them, and they try to deny saying anything, you will have evidence to the contrary. 

This is how you win, people!

#8 Act Like You Don’t Care

Nothing gets under the nose of a narcissist more than not letting any of their behavior bother you. It isn’t as though you’re excusing them, it’s more that you are starting to fail to see their existence. 

Go about your day, keep thriving, and let them fester in their lack of power. They will feel bad that they can no longer control you – and you get the last laugh!