Never let it be said that females don’t have just as much capacity and potential to be a narcissist as males do.
I don’t want to come off as somebody who doesn’t recognize the hell so many women go through each day at the hands of their abusers, and statistically yes, it’s more likely…
…However – this is the space for the understanding that it happens to men too. And women are the cause.
Wth similarities as well as differences, let’s get into exactly how men deal with that female wrath…
…And how female narcissists are also devils in disguise.
It’s Not So Different in Many Ways
It’s extremely important to recognize that both male and female narcissists generally occupy the same toxic space as each other on paper.
The signs and symptoms of narcissism are relevant to each gender.
Still, this topic is more about how the female narcissist executes her toxicity onto male victims because, let’s be brutally honest here: IT HAPPENS.
I know it happens because I’ve met my fair share through life, and now is the time to start talking about it.
7 Ways Men Experience the Wrath of The Female Narcissist
Sharing these 8 ways men experience the female narcissist will hopefully lean some validation to the men in the world who are suffering at the hands of one.
Not only that, but it will allow you to realize that women are just as capable of being covertly or overtly dangerous as their toxic male counterparts.
#1 Intimacy As a Weapon
Looking at men and women generally, it’s fair to say that on first impressions, women respond well to love-bombing.
They love to feel appreciated and cared for, whereas men tend to respond more positively to more intimate advances. I don’t necessarily mean intimacy, but it does include it. This is more:
- Image, and how a woman may appear incredibly attractive, and using that to draw their victim in
- Flirting, complimenting the man and giving him the right kind of flirtatious attention
- Intimacy in general, and being passionately intimate within a short space of time
It’s captivating to many men who don’t see past these advances to where the real person resides.
The weapon here works the same as a man who would love bomb. It draws the male victim in and makes them think the world couldn’t get any better.
Yes, it pertains to an element of shallowness that comes from males, but the bottom line is that using intimacy as a weapon is designed to make the man feel idolized.
And for many – that works.
#2 Playing The Victim is a Lot Easier
It’s easier when the world understands that what happens to women is far more talked about, than what happens to men.
Now – please don’t see this as a downplay of what women go through. This is merely statistics talking, so men are less likely to be assumed to be the victims.
That doesn’t mean they’re not.
#3 The Sneakiness is Off The Charts
This can get serious very quickly.
Women can weaponize incompetence to gain attention in a heartbeat.
In other words – drop everything for me!
- Forgetting to pay a bill
- Needing somebody to fill up her car
- Purposely leaving the tank on empty (oops)
- “I can’t put this piece of furniture together”
You see where I’m going. And soon enough, she will have you running around after her and then what?
Get Ready to be labeled controlling!
He won’t even let me take my car to fill up.
I can’t even have access to my bills!
This purposeful dynamic is set up to make the female look the victim, and the male be the one who is domineering and toxic.
The story of this told to others gives them the supply they need, while simultaneously reaping sympathy from loved ones.
For the female narcissist – these tactics serve as a double win.
#4 The Awareness is Real
Many female narcissists are more than aware of what boundaries are.
By nature, women are more precise in their accusations of boundary encroachment simply because they’re more aware it exists.
Knowing or being involved with a female narcissist will draw that up, and the very thing they do will be blamed on you instead.
This is done by learning and knowing all the therapeutic terms. If they really want to control their partner, they will be what they accuse.
Beyond that, you’re looking at awareness of narcissism in general. There is a plethora of knowledge on the subject worldwide, and women are far more likely to seek it than men.
Once a narcissist knows what others are being taught about, they can learn how to manipulate the world into seeing them as the victim far more easily.
#5 Drama Queen
The drama created by women tends to be severely covert and less ‘overt.’
Both genders are clever, but narcissistic women know that the more covert they are, the more they can play up to their femininity or certain vulnerabilities they may have.
It’s like what you see in some cities, where pickpocketing is rife. You might see a woman needing assistance, and somebody goes to help while the pickpocket behind comes and takes the wallet or phone.
The energy of a covert narcissistic woman is highly unpleasant and will drain those in the room who feel as though something is ‘off.’
Drama often comes after well-thought-out game-playing occurs. Women are generally more prone to read or understand emotions, which makes it easier for them to pretend to be sad, or unhappy, or upset about something.
Drama doesn’t always have to involve loud voices or rude gestures. It doesn’t always have to involve direct conflict or starting fights.
It can also be the sad, “I can’t believe they would do that to me” tears of a very conniving person.
#6 She’s Never Wrong
The joke we all know is that women are never wrong. They’re seen and valued as the emotional and nurturing backbone of relationships, and men often and openly admit this.
When you’re dealing with a female narcissist, you’re going to have to resign yourself to the fact that she’s going to play on that. Not only with you, but with everybody else too.
#7 The Cycles Still Exist
The cycle of abuse in relationships with narcissists look like this:
- Idealization
- Devaluation
- Discard
- Hoovering
There’s no two ways about it – this covers all narcissistic relationships.
Expect no different when the woman is the narcissist, but do expect that cycle to look a little – shall we say – bespoke.
Whereas narcissistic men love to bait their victims with love, women tend to lean towards what they feel men want the most – intimacy.
Female victims will be listened to, bought flowers, taken on dates, and made to feel as if somebody truly and respectfully is falling in love with them.
Male victims are given the green light almost immediately for a series of hot, passionate and spicy intimate encounters with their abuser.
As men are drawn to these acts, they are blinded by what the woman is really doing.
Her motive is to create emotions based on physicality, and when she is successful, the cycle continues more generally.
