We all have hobbies, and we rightly should. Drawing, running, hiking, swimming, writing; what are yours? I love being outside. Not weird at all!
Now let’s check in with the narcissistic personality, because that’s where disturbing really takes on a whole new meaning.
They have hobbies that I can’t even begin to see as actual hobbies. Then again, I’m not a narcissist.
They secretly enjoy the most weird hobbies, and I’ve got the top 7 right here. I hope you’re prepared…
#1 Spying
Spying on you, what you’re doing, who you’re texting, what shows you’re watching, what your internet history is, and if they can reach your friends list, who you’re even friends with online.
It’s the worst thing when you see the narcissist branch out and spy on other people too.
Friends or family members, or even neighbours to get the lowdown or find out any gossip or information that may come in handy to them.
I consider it to be a sad passtime, while they think it to be a way of gaining a little power and control, because that’s what they think this type of knowledge is.
Spying is so strange. You know, I even recall speaking with a grown woman in a therapy session once who told me she still lived at home at 27 years old, and she brought a boyfriend home and was told to keep her bedroom door open.
She once saw her own father peeping through the door crack to make sure they weren’t doing anything he considered to be inappropriate ‘under his roof.’
Beyond crazy!
#2 Collecting trophies from past relationships
How weird is it that narcissists actually enjoy collecting things from past relationships?
You won’t even notice them because they will either be hidden, or blend in well with the narcissist’s surroundings.
But trust me when I say this, when they want you to know these items exist, they will show you!
To make you jealous? Sure. To make you insecure? Yep. To make you think they can drop you like a hot rod and find another person? Absolutely.
You’ll see t-shirts, gifts, photos, ticket stubs, you name it. And for every item there will be a long, nostalgic story to go with them.
Don’t you think that’s weird? I mean, we all have ap ast, but this is just the most disturbing way for a narcissist to remember theirs.
#3 Creating fake online profiles
The reason these disturbing fake profiles exist is so they can honey trap you.
Sending you messages, trying to add you as a friend to an account that you’ve blocked them on so they can gather information and spy on you.
The tricks are all ready for the narcissist to execute as a way to try to retain some power over you.
I always tell people, if you don’t know the person, don’t add them to your friends list. I can’t make it any clearer!
#4 Intentionally disorganizing the house just to undo your effort
Honestly, what sort of absolute creep does this kind of thing?!
You’ve spent your day off working on the house, making it look something close to resembling normal again.
Thank God you did, because so much needed doing. New bed sheets, tidying the endless amounts of clutter on the sides, emptying the dishwasher, working through the various trash cans that needed going outside.
Everything has it’s palace again, and you culdn’t feel more centered n your own space.
Then, the narcissist comes home from work and glances around.
This won’t do.
The only way they can feel satisfied with what you’ve done is by undoing all your efforts and creating mess all over again.
What’s the point? What do they get out of it? They just love seeing you lose your mind.
Isn’t it strange that they love doing this so much? Of course. There isn’t a part of them that isn’t strange and out to stress you out as much as they can.
#5 Cyberstalking ex partners
Those in the past romantically, should stay in the past. If a narcissist is bringing them into the present, they’re obviously pining after a time where they were granted supply that they once loved.
That’s nothing to do with love itself, this is about missing that extra amount.
And if you aren’t already aware, narcissists want power and control, including from those who are long gone.
One way they do that is by tracking their exes. Seeing what they’re up to, who they’re with, where they’ve been, where they work, what they now look like; the list is endless.
They want to know what they’re missing out on, and how well their ex is doing without them.
It’s pretty weird to spend all your time looking back instead of being in the moment, but that’s narcissist’s for you! They can’t help themselves.
#6 Reading other people’s private messages
The key word here is private. This means they aren’t for the eyes of anybody, let alone the nosey narcissist who is trying to prize information where they can.
It’s not cool, but again, who are we dealing with, here? We are dealing with some of the most prolific entitled people n the planet, and anything you write they feel they deserve automatic access to.
I disagree, and so should you. Make sure your passwords are strong, and never leave them a moment where they can jump in and read messages that you want to keep a secret.
It doesn’t mean you’re texting people you shouldn’t or having some kind of affair.
Ultimately this is about respect and dignity. Two things a narcissist doesn’t know the meaning of.
#7 Sabotaging the success of others
There’s nothing worse than being around somebody who doesn’t want the best for you, or who wants to see you succeed in life.
Family and friends, or your romantic partner all play an important role to you, and you expect them all to at least support you in what you achieve, even if they might not do it themselves.
Respecting you and cheering for you from the sidelines is what this whole thing is all about.
As encouragement goes, narcissists don’t know how to apply it to these kinds of situations, and much prefer to be sabotaging what you are accomplishing just because they enjoy ruining everything.
I couldn’t be clearer. Your success is not theirs.
Prepare for you to be told that you’re not good enough. They may have arranged to take you somewhere important and are purposely running slow or late to stress you out or cause you to miss it entirely.
Equally, narcissists can get you to a place where you don’t want to do it at all by arguing with you right as you’re about to leave, giving you the silent treatment running up to it, or accusing you of preferring your goals instead of loving them and giving them attention.
You don’t need me to tell you how unhealthy this is.
