Oops, it just slipped out, right? Don’t you just love it when a narcissist accidentally lets the truth fall out of their mouth before they’ve had a chance to stop it?
You hope everybody else hears it. You want it to hit the back walls of the room, so you don’t feel so crazy.
But when is this beautiful moment most likely to happen?
Well, I can give you 7 instances right now to get you started!
Wait… The Truth?
I know. And trust me, I laughed when I thought about narcissists telling the truth, too. Just picture them being honest and telling us all how much they hate themselves, or how much they actually fear underneath it all.
What a day that’d be!
In fact – this doesn’t happen – and these are not the truths that I refer to.
Instead, I think about when narcissists slip up. When their true colors come into the forefront of the day, and how they devalue you with just a few phrases.
It’s a real light bulb moment for those who have been toying with the idea that narcissists are the toxic people you’ve always suspected them to be.
So while the truth may not be as glaring to you as you’d like – you can still rest assured that the narcissist is being totally honest when they use these phrases.
#1 “I don’t care what you think.”
Ouch.
Well, you know what? At least they’re honest, right?
Narcissists are brutal when they want to be – and this is one of those moments.
They really don’t care what you think, and sometimes it just slips out. In truth, they will probably try to coat over that phrase at a later date saying something like:
You caught me in a busy moment.
I snapped because I was tired.
I didn’t mean it – you just keep poking me for answers and I can’t take it.
Riiight. Okay. So it’s your fault now, is it?
It’s not.
They truly don’t care what you think, and they’re using a moment in time to let you know about it.
When somebody shows you who they are, believe them.
#2 “I always get what I want.”
Well, damn. Thanks for being so truthful about it.
Of course, narcissists always get what they want. They fight every day for fairness only if fairness sees them come out singing while everybody else around them feels total misery.
There is a real obsession around the kind of life narcissists want to lead, and if it isn’t going their way, they will definitely make others pay for it.
That’s what happens when they accidentally speak the truth like this.
Translate, they’re basically telling you that you are the one who constantly gives them what they want, sacrificing what is it you want without compromise.
You should listen carefully when they attempt to spill this to you. It really is as toxic as they’re saying it.
And you know what? Maybe it’s time to stop giving them everything they want – but that topic is for another day!
#3 “I hate drama, but…”
The key is in the but, am I right?
You hate drama, but you’re going to lead me down that road anyway because you just can’t help yourself!
They should just stop with, “I hate drama.” Life would be much simpler for both the narcissist and you…
…But we all know how much narcissists hate the ‘boring’ life – so drama it is.
Remember – you don’t have to take part in the show they are trying to sell you. It’s up to you whether or not you are pulled into their drama.
The one piece of advice I could give you is to listen out for that but – it’s a sure sign they’re trying to tell you one thing, yet do quite another.
#4 “No one understands me.”
Wait, so you’re telling me that of all the people in the world – and there are billions of us – that none of them understand you, the narcissist?
What a heap or garbage.
This feels to me like the kind of phrase where I want to get out my violin and play it while dancing around the narcissist. Except I don’t have a violin and even if I did, I would sound terrible.
I know what you are thinking…
Wait, this is about the narcissist being right, not wrong.
You’re right.
Nobody in the narcissists circle understands them because they purposely don’t allow any other narcissists in. So technically, they’re right.
But the psychologist in me wants to widen that circle for fun and prove that when other narcissists enter, they will understand that phrase, automatically vetoing the idea that nobody understands them.
As fast as you’re concerned, they’re right.
What’s there to understand about somebody so emotionally dysregulated and toxic? What is the gain? Where is the motive?
It’s totally confusing.
#5 “I only surround myself with successful people.”
Oh wow, how noble of you. How lovely that you see success as a core magnetic trait in another person.
In favor of, oh I don’t know…
Kindness
Compassion
Empathy
Loyalty
Supportive
You know, it blows my mind that this is what we’re dealing with, here. And I see it all the time.
Narcissists will only associate with successful people because that’s where they see themselves.
Like they’re grouped together members of society, that, no matter how rude, hateful, arrogant or ignorant they are – as long as they’re successful, that’s okay.
But it’s really not okay, is it?
However – narcissists are really telling the truth here. And they will do that because they want to be known as a fellow successor among them.
The only thing narcissists are successful at is being toxic.
#6 “I made you who you are.”
Well, say it how it is. Narcissists mean this is one way, but we know the shoe still fits when constructed the other.
What they think is how they made you the person you are. They did everything for you, and brought this version of you to the center of the table.
Look at you! This was all me!
Wel, they’re right. It was them.
The insecure, fearful, worried ball of depression that you’ve become. The hollowed out identity you have, and the walking empty shell that you now are – yes – that was all the narcissist.
They made you who you are through all those times they chipped away at your spirit.
The way they sucked the life and joy out of you. The abuse you got for no reason other than trying to just be yourself.
They made you who you are – but you can change that.
#7 “People always turn against me.”
They absolutely do, well done on being so overtly aware of your own actions.
People always turn against the narcissist eventually. They see through the lies and control eventually, and that’s just a fact.
It’s why you often see narcissists change social circles or even cities throughout their lives. Trying to make a new start after yet another person abandoned them.
It’s a big fear of the narcissists, but it’s unavoidable all the while they continue to mistreat those they claim to love or care about.
This is definitely one instance where – yet again – they speak truth!
