Oops, it just slipped out, right? Don’t you just love it when a narcissist accidentally lets the truth fall out of their mouth before they’ve had a chance to stop it?

You hope everybody else hears it. You want it to hit the back walls of the room, so you don’t feel so crazy.

But when is this beautiful moment most likely to happen?

Well, I can give you 7 instances right now to get you started!

Wait… The Truth?

I know. And trust me, I laughed when I thought about narcissists telling the truth, too. Just picture them being honest and telling us all how much they hate themselves, or how much they actually fear underneath it all.

What a day that’d be!

In fact – this doesn’t happen – and these are not the truths that I refer to.

Instead, I think about when narcissists slip up. When their true colors come into the forefront of the day, and how they devalue you with just a few phrases. 

It’s a real light bulb moment for those who have been toying with the idea that narcissists are the toxic people you’ve always suspected them to be. 

So while the truth may not be as glaring to you as you’d like – you can still rest assured that the narcissist is being totally honest when they use these phrases. 

 #1 “I don’t care what you think.”

Ouch.

Well, you know what? At least they’re honest, right?

Narcissists are brutal when they want to be – and this is one of those moments. 

They really don’t care what you think, and sometimes it just slips out. In truth, they will probably try to coat over that phrase at a later date saying something like:

You caught me in a busy moment.

I snapped because I was tired.

I didn’t mean it – you just keep poking me for answers and I can’t take it. 

Riiight. Okay. So it’s your fault now, is it?

It’s not.

They truly don’t care what you think, and they’re using a moment in time to let you know about it. 

When somebody shows you who they are, believe them. 

#2 “I always get what I want.”

Well, damn. Thanks for being so truthful about it.

Of course, narcissists always get what they want. They fight every day for fairness only if fairness sees them come out singing while everybody else around them feels total misery. 

There is a real obsession around the kind of life narcissists want to lead, and if it isn’t going their way, they will definitely make others pay for it.

That’s what happens when they accidentally speak the truth like this.

Translate, they’re basically telling you that you are the one who constantly gives them what they want, sacrificing what is it you want without compromise. 

You should listen carefully when they attempt to spill this to you. It really is as toxic as they’re saying it. 

And you know what? Maybe it’s time to stop giving them everything they want – but that topic is for another day!

#3 “I hate drama, but…”

The key is in the but, am I right?

You hate drama, but you’re going to lead me down that road anyway because you just can’t help yourself!

They should just stop with, “I hate drama.” Life would be much simpler for both the narcissist and you…

…But we all know how much narcissists hate the ‘boring’ life – so drama it is. 

Remember – you don’t have to take part in the show they are trying to sell you. It’s up to you whether or not you are pulled into their drama.

The one piece of advice I could give you is to listen out for that but – it’s a sure sign they’re trying to tell you one thing, yet do quite another. 

#4 “No one understands me.”

Wait, so you’re telling me that of all the people in the world – and there are billions of us – that none of them understand you, the narcissist?

What a heap or garbage. 

This feels to me like the kind of phrase where I want to get out my violin and play it while dancing around the narcissist. Except I don’t have a violin and even if I did, I would sound terrible. 

I know what you are thinking…

Wait, this is about the narcissist being right, not wrong.

You’re right. 

Nobody in the narcissists circle understands them because they purposely don’t allow any other narcissists in. So technically, they’re right. 

But the psychologist in me wants to widen that circle for fun and prove that when other narcissists enter, they will understand that phrase, automatically vetoing the idea that nobody understands them. 

As fast as you’re concerned, they’re right.

What’s there to understand about somebody so emotionally dysregulated and toxic? What is the gain? Where is the motive? 

It’s totally confusing.  

#5 “I only surround myself with successful people.”

Oh wow, how noble of you. How lovely that you see success as a core magnetic trait in another person. 

In favor of, oh I don’t know…

Kindness

Compassion

Empathy

Loyalty

Supportive

You know, it blows my mind that this is what we’re dealing with, here. And I see it all the time.

Narcissists will only associate with successful people because that’s where they see themselves.

Like they’re grouped together members of society, that, no matter how rude, hateful, arrogant or ignorant they are – as long as they’re successful, that’s okay. 

But it’s really not okay, is it?

However – narcissists are really telling the truth here. And they will do that because they want to be known as a fellow successor among them. 

The only thing narcissists are successful at is being toxic.

#6 “I made you who you are.”

Well, say it how it is. Narcissists mean this is one way, but we know the shoe still fits when constructed the other.

What they think is how they made you the person you are. They did everything for you, and brought this version of you to the center of the table. 

Look at you! This was all me!

Wel, they’re right. It was them.

The insecure, fearful, worried ball of depression that you’ve become. The hollowed out identity you have, and the walking empty shell that you now are – yes – that was all the narcissist. 

They made you who you are through all those times they chipped away at your spirit.

The way they sucked the life and joy out of you. The abuse you got for no reason other than trying to just be yourself.

They made you who you are – but you can change that.

#7 “People always turn against me.”

They absolutely do, well done on being so overtly aware of your own actions.

People always turn against the narcissist eventually. They see through the lies and control eventually, and that’s just a fact.

It’s why you often see narcissists change social circles or even cities throughout their lives. Trying to make a new start after yet another person abandoned them.

It’s a big fear of the narcissists, but it’s unavoidable all the while they continue to mistreat those they claim to love or care about. 

This is definitely one instance where – yet again – they speak truth!

What Narcissists Really Think About You?

You should never sit in the seat of certainty when it comes to any narcissist.

You will never be there for long, because you were instead destined for confusion.

Narcissists think and act differently, depending on their mood that day. If they feel like it, they will be nice.

If they’re nice, it’ll be because they want something from you.

If they’re not nice, it’s because they need your supply. They like to see you suffer.

Knowing what they really think about you will give you an idea of their true character…

…And it’s not good.

You Think You Know Them?

Nobody ever really knows the narcissist. The only person who knows them is them. 

I don’t think it’s ever really wise to assume you know everything there is to know about somebody so toxic.

After all, they love to change the goalposts so much that as soon as you feel you have them pegged, they change and shift the tides to suit themselves.

The same can be said for what they really think about you.

Living Your Best Life, Until…

They come along!

It’s the same with all narcissists. You’re happy until you realize what you’ve gotten yourself into. 

Isn’t it a shame to think that the narcissist, somebody who claims to have your best interests at heart, treats you the way they do?

How can somebody who says such loving things never ever prove that love in any healthy way at all?

Underneath Their Act Lies Jealousy

It’s okay to be a little envious in life. It’s a natural response to somebody having what you would love to have.

For example, your friend could have bought themselves a new holiday cabin with a view.

Darn. I would love that. I am so envious you get to go there!

That’s where it ends, though, right?

I mean – you have a choice. You can work hard to earn the money for one. You can ask to stay there if you paid your way for the week.

Narcissists don’t get envious – they rage with jealousy.

They detest all the good in the lives of others and will resent you for what you have.

Is that normal?

Nope!

Is that right?

Absolutely not!

“Look At You, All Happy. That’ll Have To Stop…”

They hate your happiness. It acts like a plague on them. They want to cut it off as quickly as they can, so they’ll do what it takes to ensure any joy is fleeting.

How dare they smile and have things go their way?!

The confusing part for you is that you think they love you. You automatically think they’ll be happy when you receive good news, but it couldn’t be further from the truth. 

Any happiness is bound to come from something or somebody other than them. That’s a major threat. How could you allow that?!

Derailing your happiness can take various forms: mocking you until you stop, criticizing you until you no longer believe in yourself, or shaming you until guilt about your own happiness eats you up. 

I could go on forever. 

Imagine being around somebody who loathes seeing you content that much.

“I Can Get Away With Anything!”

Forgiveness is an act undertaken by people who can see the bigger picture. They want peace and understand that people make mistakes. 

Asking for forgiveness can alter how you view your mistakes if that forgiveness is going to be abused later on. 

Those who are genuine in being sorry know they will not repeat what they did to hurt the other person. That’s how it generally goes, right?

Narcissists don’t care. They truly don’t. They will repeatedly offend, time and time again. 

They know they’ve got several love-bombing tricks up their sleeves that have proven very efficient so far. 

There’s no reason why those things won’t work all over again.

And you know what? All the while you continue to forgive, they will continue to offend. 

They Don’t Love You

I know it’s a tough pill to swallow. Knowing you aren’t loved takes a lot of hard work because, for the most part, you feel in complete denial. 

Of course, they love me. They tell me they do.

I know they love me. They wouldn’t have taken me on that expensive trip if they didn’t. 

You learn the value of love to only be at the currency the narcissist sets.

Love isn’t a currency. It doesn’t ebb or flow. It remains. 

I know it’s hard to admit to be true. All that emotional work you put into the relationship. All the ways you were vulnerable and shared your life with them. 

I speak truthfully when I tell you it was all a ploy to get you to play their game. 

Threatened By Your Success…

If a narcissist sees your success, they’re going to want and need to put a stop to it immediately. 

Your success can be compared to a competition you don’t even realize you’re in.

You’re exceeding, and the judges have their eye on you. Only the narcissist is also taking part, and the judges aren’t even looking their way at all. 

The anger. The resentment. The envy. It will all spill over the surface.

So, what does the narcissist do? When nobody is watching, they will sabotage what you are making or creating so that you fall down in the competition rankings.

They may even steal what you have and use it for themselves.

That’ll get them noticed!

They can’t stand to see you getting the attention. To them, you don’t deserve happiness because it isn’t something they’re personally gaining for themselves. 

What a dangerous and toxic trait to have, right?

Well… welcome to the world of narcissists.

…Pleased When You Fail!

The party poppers would be popping constantly if the narcissist had their way. When you fail, it’s not something they necessarily or overtly laugh about (although that can happen).

Instead, they will quietly smirk in the corner of a darkened room. They don’t want others to see their joy, but that won’t stop them from feeling it.

You’d think somebody who claimed to care about you would be falling over themselves with concern if you are down, sad, failing, or having a terrible day.

Nope.

Narcissists love it. They love seeing you fall because when you do, you land at the bottom of the heap, exactly where the narcissist resides. 

Knowing they have company makes them feel better, and seeing your misery or disappointment will ensure a huge grin is plastered all over their faces—difficult to wipe off.