Have you ever heard of a femme fatale?

They might be glorified in the movies, but in real life, narcissistic women are fatal to the nervous system.

You think you know a woman, but what you’re actually seeing is the most dangerous act possible.

So, what are those 7 things that make narcissistic women so dangerous?

I have a strong feeling you’re going to need to sit down for this one.

Proof Needed – When Needed

If you ever needed any proof that a narcissistic woman is dangerous, you’ve come to the right place.

Sometimes, like a lot of victims, you might just need that validation. And validation only comes from admitting that there’s actual proof they’re dangerous. That’s why these 9 things are so important.

Raising awareness can be the proof you need, when you need it, that you aren’t going crazy, and that you are dealing with a narcissist. 

Once you spot the traits of all narcissists, you will find them in all the people that are relevant – be they men or women. 

It’s the women that sometimes slip under the radar, as they use their femininity to their advantage in many ways. 

If you can relate to this topic already, then trust me, I haven’t even gotten started yet. 

#1 Sweet on the Surface

I don’t want to get too into the difference between men and women, but I want to highlight how much easier it is for women to appear as sweet.

I don’t mean be sweet – if it’s a natural trait of who you are and part of your character.

There are plenty of women who are gentle and sweet and kind, but this is not what I mean.

What I mean here is playing the sweet game. They know they are a walking lemon, yet they roll themselves in sugar and pretend they’re sugar through and through. 

They aren’t.

They’re very good actors. They know which buttons to press in order for people to mistake them as a person who is of softness and real femininity. 

And guys, it’s dangerous. But what is the average person to do when they see nothing but niceness?

It’s so hard to challenge the bitterness out of them, and if you do, you can guarantee it’ll only be for your eyes only. 

That’s what makes it such a risky thing to be involved with a narcissistic woman. 

Run far!

#2 Queen of Manipulation

Women have multiple layers to them that make them more complex than men, and I don’t mean that in a detrimental way. 

Women feel, and they like to talk and they notice the little things. They don’t forget, and often they’re the ones men rely on to help them, offer support, or bring a gentle and loving energy to the table.

They’re natural born instinctive people, and for that reason, when you get a female narcissist, you know she’s going to be the queen of manipulation.

Narcissist women know their strengths. They know how to play on them, and will do so successfully. 

They can really manipulate, while simultaneously wondering why people who question them are ‘so mean.’

Some of the worst narcissistic women are siblings, or in-laws. They know the family dynamics so well that they dig deep and create a level of friction that is difficult for anybody to hold them accountable to.

It’s a dangerous part of their character, but they have perfected the role.  

#3 Master of the Guilt Trip

Female narcissists love this aspect of their personality. They know it can get them anything they want, and often that comes with using their own feminine energy to get it. 

The emotional complexity of a woman is not a bad thing. Their layered way of thinking adds rich color to life, and is always what gives them the upper hand in many situations. They talk, and that’s a good thing. 

Female narcissists add another, mre unnecessary layer to the world, though. They also master the art of being able to guilt trip anybody they want to.

Perhaps you can remember a time this has happened to you, or when you’ve seen it with your own eyes.

The female narcissist reminds you of all the things they do for you, while you do nothing.

Maybe she says something like, “I won’t bother you again, I can see that you’re busy,” when you let them down, or say you can’t meet them, or help them when they’ve asked for it. 

Maybe as their partner, and the one who works the most by far, you’ve come home and you’re too tired to get intimate.

Hearing phrases like, “You don’t love me,” or, “Why do you always insist on making me feel so terrible about myself?”, aren’t uncommon. 

#4 Silent But Deadly

Narcissistic women can be so unkind when they want to be, and their silent treatment can last even longer than male narcissists. 

The idea that a narcissistic woman can string out silence for a long time will come from excuses like:

Oh, I’ve just been so busy.

Honestly, it was nothing personal. 

I’ve just had a lot on my mind, you know how it is.

You know all the things us women have to do, life just flies by. 

We juggle so much, honestly, I’d just forgotten to reply to you.

Usually these phrases are matched with that sickly sweet, “Hi! How are you doing?”

Don’t buy any of it. And in relationships, it’ll be no different. 

In truth, nobody is ever too busy. 

#5 Backhanded Compliment Pro

You’re so brave to wear that!

I wish I didn’t care what people thought, like you.

It’s cute how you don’t need makeup.

You’ve come a long way for someone like you.

I could never pull that off — but it works… for you.

Your hair is so long and lovely! Have you thought about just trimming the ends to keep it healthy?

You smile at first, but then you realize you’re smiling is fading because of what else you hear. 

Under the word salad, there is an insult laying there waiting for you to absorb it.

Narcissistic women are so dangerously unnecessary with their words. 

#6 Social Assassin

They love it, don’t they? The moment you get a narcissistic woman out on the social scene, you will see them flourish into a butterfly.

But be careful – they aren’t as fluttery and free as they make out to be.

Living in their element means usually being surrounded by people they can show off to, entertain, tell stories too, talk of their successes, weight loss, new exercise regime, new hobby that is ‘fabulous,’ – you name it.

It’s all nothing but an excuse for everybody to think how amazing they are, but you know the truth, don’t you?

You know the real person behind the social mask. And she is horrible. 

#7 Plays the Long Game

Female narcissists are in it for the long run. They know that there is a waiting game involved with a lot of relationships, and they’re equipped to handle the ‘long run.’ If anything, it makes them more loyal to their own toxic character. 

They know full well what a narcissist is, more than a male narcissist would. They’re more attuned to the world, and how people think and work.

The moves others make are clocked and further calculated by them, and for that reason, they commit to being around for a long time.

Talk about making our lives even more miserable…

DO THIS To Get Under The Skin Of a Narcissist

Have you ever wanted to get under a narcissist’s skin? Let me tell you, it’s easier than you think!

Narcissists thrive on control and being admired, but there are ways to break through their seemingly tough exterior. 

It’s actually pretty weak!

The key is understanding their weaknesses. Their fragile egos and need for validation lead to a huge fear of being exposed. 

Therefore, using the right tactics can disrupt their game and leave you to take back your power.

Ready to flip the script and watch them squirm?

#1 The Art of Staying Calm

While narcissists think the way to get somebody’s attention is to speak loudly and intimidate them – there’s a lot to be said for remaining calm and collected. Some might say there is an art to it.

Think about it. An argument begins, and you know it has nothing to do with you.

The narcissist entered the room in a certain mood, and was intent on creating noise and drama.

It goes against everything you believe in, yet there you are, experiencing it. 

What choice do you have?

Well, a lot, actually. You have a lot of choices. You can continue to play along and match the pitch. You can cry and allow them to see you being mentally drained before their eyes.

Or…

You can stay calm and let them rage and shout, knowing it has nothing to do with you. Yes, you’re the target, and nobody wants to be.

But…

You’re not the one who has to respond. Nobody does. 

Staying calm throws the narcissist into unfamiliar waters because they’re used to you acting differently.

They don’t have anything to bounce off, like they usually would. Your calm aura is like a door closing on them, and it really gets under their skin. 

Okay.

Uh-huh.

I hear you.

I’m listening, but I will not shout back at you.

I would really appreciate it if you could understand your shouting is not getting us anywhere. 

Staying calm like this is going to shut the narcissist down and pertain to the idea that noise and anger won’t get anybody anywhere.

Once they know they can’t rile you, the annoyance will lie in the new understanding that they can’t gain any supply from you this way. 

#2 Be Firm!

Well, no narcissists like firmness. 

Firmness usually means you have boundaries, and boundaries are something all narcissists hate. They can’t stand to be told which side of the line to stand.

They hate even knowing there is a line in the first place!

When somebody so toxic has been used to walking all over you, it will be a shock to them when you suddenly develop assertiveness.

You will be met with resistance when you lay down what you will no longer put up with. Remember, the narcissist is used to knowing a certain version of you. The version that says yes instead of no.

When you stop with one, and start with the other – you’re going to get right under their skin!

#3 Ignore Them: Refusing To Hand Over Supply

I don’t want you to think that ignoring them is the same as giving them the silent treatment. I don’t believe in treating toxic behavior with equal toxicity – because two wrongs don’t make a right. 

However…

Silence where noise once rested is a way of retaining dignity and class, which may previously have been reverted to supply for them regarding your emotions. 

#4 Stand in Your Truth

There’s really no better place to stand. In your truth, everything makes sense. It’s where you can stand, knowing you are giving it your all and believing in yourself fully. 

It’s where confidence starts to grow and you’ll find a more assertive version of yourself. 

For that very reason, standing in your truth even though the narcissist is trying hard to pull you out of it, is crucial.

#5 Grey Rock 

Have you ever heard of Grey Rock? I am sure by now that so many of you will know what I mean by it, but just in case, let’s get a briefing!

Grey rock is nothing. It means to give the narcissist as little, if anything at all, as possible. You hear them, and you want to respond, but instead, you choose to say, “Okay,” “Sure,” “Uh-huh.”

Your face is calm and emotionless, and there isn’t an ounce of feeling in your voice. 

Giving the narcissist the proverbial grey rock is how you retain your power and give them absolutely nothing to feed from.

Will they like it?

Absolutely not!

But the more you exude it, the smaller they will feel. 

For too long, the narcissist has provoked and triggered you.

It’s time for all of that to stop.

#6 Call Them Out – and Mean it

Hey. What you did back there was wrong. 

Do you realize how you treated that person? You act like you don’t even care.

It was your fault we were late. Even though you had the time written down, you still got here after everybody else. 

You’re trying to be mean to me, but it just won’t work. 

I see what you’re doing, and I want you to know that I don’t fall for it.

Anything where you can throw some assertive statements into the mix without getting sucked into an argument, you should be able to do.

Getting under the skin of a narcissist is how you make what they’re doing almost seem like something to belittle. Narcissists hate being caught out and hate being embarrassed even more!

#7 Start to Thrive Away From Them

If there’s one thing guaranteed to annoy a narcissist – it’s your independence. 

Oh, you’re going out?

Actually, yes I am. I am going out in this outfit, and I look fantastic. You aren’t going to stop me. 

Are you applying for that job? Isn’t it a little out of your reach?

Yes, I am applying for it because, guess what, I am qualified and skilled, and I want to get it.

Thrive. Don’t just thrive a little; thrive like you mean it!

#8 Play By Your Own Rules

It’s probably been a long time since you’ve picked up your copy of the rulebook, but it’s still there.

It may be a little dusty, but now you get to dampen it down and start acting as if you are the main character of your own life. 

Don’t ever let anybody, least of all a narcissist, dictate to you. 

Your rules equate to what you want from life and how you want to go out and fight for it all. 

This is not up for debate!