Sorry, did you think narcissists were strong and powerful all of the time?
If you did, then you’ve come to the right place, and today’s lesson is firmly in session.
Narcissists aren’t strong at all – it’s all a show. If you believe them, you’ll believe anything.
The way they promote their pseudo-strength is to make you feel and look weak instead, but I can reveal the 7 things that instantly make them look weak.
If you’re ready, class starts in two seconds…
Weakness Can Be a Surprise
I know you assume the narcissist is always strong because they exert so much power – but that power isn’t good – and not all strength is positive.
Indeed, weakness is a core trait of all narcissists, you just have to look below the surface to see what exactly causes them to be weak.
And it might seem crazy – but trust me when I say – weaknesses can present themselves pretty darn quickly if you have an eye for spotting them.
What do I mean by that, exactly?
Let’s look at that list, and you’ll find out.
#1 Being Ignored
A narcissist is only really in their happy place when they are surrounded by people. Admirers. Strangers who are drawn to them.
They love to stand and tell a story and get people hooked on what’s being said, or how it’s being delivered.
They do not love being ignored, and it becomes a real weakness within them when they are.
What you’re doing in your silence is telling them something huge.
That something is:
You know what? You just don’t really matter to me that much at the moment/any more.
Or:
You know, I am just speaking with this person at the moment. I’ll catch up with you another time.
Or:
I’m just a little too busy to talk to you or reply right now. I will call you tonight.
These, and so many more.
And they all cut like a knife.
Weakness central!
#2 Getting Called Out—Calmly
And you know, you don’t have to go in shouting and hollering. In fact, the calmer you are, the worse it will be for the narcissist.
Your calmness proves that you are not going to react based on what they say or do.
You’re balanced. You’re ready to take control of the situation back, and that’s a real winning sign for yourself (maybe not for them, but who cares?)
If you’re standing up and calling out a narcissist, you’re doing nothing but speaking truths that are overdue to be spoken.
That’s where the narcissist falls down.
Their knees tremble, and they become weak under what you’ve said and done to them.
You deserve to say it how it is, and they have punished you enough to actually hear you.
And if they’re weak because of it?
Tough.
#3 Someone Knowing the Truth About Them
This kind of downfall could happen because of some wild mistake or accident the narcissist walks into.
Being overheard is a good one, and I can tell you hundreds of accounts like this.
The narcissist is bullying or intimidating, and for once, it isn’t just the victim who happens to hear it. This kind of scenario can create merry hell, but it’s going to happen at some point or another.
If just one person other than you knows the truth, it’s all the validation you need for your own feelings and thoughts.
The moment this happens, the narcissist becomes that little bit weaker. The more people who find out, the weaker they become.
And yeah – it is pretty instant!
#4 Genuine Confidence
Genuine confidence is like a quiet, simmering pot of water just hanging out at the back of the hob. It doesn’t have anything to prove, and it’s doing its job quite nicely, thank you.
Confident people aren’t loud or attention-seeking. That’s the whole point of confidence. It just is. Without the worry of what it looks like, or how it sounds.
Narcissists don’t own an ounce of this – not even a pinch. And because of that, the people who naturally do are a real threat to them, causing weakness throughout their minds and bodies.
They tend to avoid these kinds of people because they know they will never measure up to them.
Instead, they seek out the quiet and shy as people they assume will be impressed by them.
Pretty sad, huh?
#5 Losing Control of the Narrative
Narcissists love a dynamic. They like to literally draw out what they want for the people they know. It’s like they’ve written a show, and it’s the best show in the world, and they are casting for it.
You will play that part. This person they know will play that role, and so on.
If anybody dares to change the script, the narrative will totally change.
The narcissist tries to stay in control of all of that, but you know, they can’t control everything all of the time no matter how hard they try to.
So what happens?
They’re made to feel instantly weak.
They cannot hold onto the narrative. They have to let go and let it be, and it’s an embarrassing reminder that they’re not as strong as they make out they are.
Without the dynamics of the narcissist’s choice, everything falls apart and their world as they know and have built it, crumbles.
Not your problem!
#6 Watching You Thrive Without Them
Thriving without a narcissist is always where you want to aim to be. And the road to it is long and hard.
There will be hiccups and slip ups along the way as you find yourself again – realizing you are worthy.
Worthy of love, worth of having your dreams come true, worthy of achieving your goals.
Worthy of it all.
And then you go from merely surviving all this time, breathing in and out – to thriving.
And it’s a beautiful thing, but my God, does it make the narcissist weak?
Absolutely!
There’s no way they can maintain any kind of strength all the while you’re growing exponentially.
And that’s exactly how you should be in your life. The main character. The one with all the self-love in the world.
No person should be stopping you from being the best version of you possible, least of all somebody so unwilling to support you or see you for the wonderful person that you are.
#7 Not Being Feared
What do you mean their plan isn’t working? They worked hard to make you feel intimidated by them, and now you’re telling me that you don’t feel an ounce of fear when you’re around them?
Listen. If you’ve got to the point where you don’t even flinch around a narcissist, then I applaud you.
That feeling in the pit of your stomach you can get when you know you’re about to run into one is the worst, and it can throw you off physiologically.
Narcissists need to be feared in order to feel important. It’s one of the rules of real authority, isn’t it?
Fear that teacher who always shouts. Fear your boss who is always in some kind of mood.
Fear the narcissist.
If you don’t have it, then they can’t extract it from you. This is another way of holding back your own power and making them that little bit smaller than they want to be.
Good for you!
